abstain or requent BD with 2 day cut-off for ttc a girl.

[atomic sagebrush]

Sorry, I should add that I am currently on CD 10 and ovulate on CD 14. So far this cycle we have BD just once on CD 7. So i'm wondering for this cycle if I should continue abstinence until CD 12 which is a 2 day cutoff or start BD now up until a 2 day cutoff or continue to abstain until ovulation day and DTD once only.

Thanks again!

If you're already abstaining and you will O in 4 days, it makes more sense to just keep abstaining if you are comfy with the risks it entails.

[zanacal]

Just wanted to add that your description of the 'frequent' you did for your boys isn't really frequent - you said you BD's from +OPK through O right? You need DH to release at least once a day for 7-10 days prior to your first attempt for it to be frequent!

[Navywife620]

Found some helpful information in this as I am planning my sway for next fall. I always thought that abstaining swayed more girl than boy. My husband will be 30 when we are TTC. Would you guys recommend abstaining or FR? Thank you! oh and I will be 24 when we TTC.

[threelittlebears]

wow....just came back to my post and found all these informative replies! This is why I prefer this site to all others....everyone is so supportive of each other and the advice actually makes sense.

Atomic- if I am going to BD just once at first positive OPK, should I continue to abstain until then? If we BD when I get my first positive OPK we would have abstained 5 days and if we BD on ovulation day it will be 7 days. What do you think would be a better attempt?

Zanancal-you make a good point about my previous attempts and what I thought was FR BD'ing. We definitely weren't BD'ing every day prior to the positive OPK's, probably just every second day.

Girlmom-you give me hope about the timing.

Ok, after all these great responses I am now better informed and less stressed.....which is good thing right!!

Thanks again ladies, and good luck to everyone in their own attempts!

Justine.

[rainbowflower]

Found some helpful information in this as I am planning my sway for next fall. I always thought that abstaining swayed more girl than boy. My husband will be 30 when we are TTC. Would you guys recommend abstaining or FR? Thank you! oh and I will be 24 when we TTC.

if you're happy to only have 1 attempt, yes abstaining is ideal given your DH's age too

[Navywife620]

Thanks Rainbowflower. I would be fine with just 1 attempt. I am really not in a big rush to get pregnant. Well I say that now!

[atomic sagebrush]

wow....just came back to my post and found all these informative replies! This is why I prefer this site to all others....everyone is so supportive of each other and the advice actually makes sense.

Atomic- if I am going to BD just once at first positive OPK, should I continue to abstain until then? If we BD when I get my first positive OPK we would have abstained 5 days and if we BD on ovulation day it will be 7 days. What do you think would be a better attempt?

Zanancal-you make a good point about my previous attempts and what I thought was FR BD'ing. We definitely weren't BD'ing every day prior to the positive OPK's, probably just every second day.

Girlmom-you give me hope about the timing.

Ok, after all these great responses I am now better informed and less stressed.....which is good thing right!!

Thanks again ladies, and good luck to everyone in their own attempts!

Justine.

Yes, continue to abstain until then. I think it would be better for your sway BY FAR to abstain till O day and have one attempt then because 7 days abstain is the barest minimum for pink. 5 days abstain is ALMOST boy frequency!

Timing doesn't sway, as many girls as boys are conceived with BD on O day. Any study that says different did not use good methods and should be disregarded. Abstain is what sways, not timing.

[atomic sagebrush]

Found some helpful information in this as I am planning my sway for next fall. I always thought that abstaining swayed more girl than boy. My husband will be 30 when we are TTC. Would you guys recommend abstaining or FR? Thank you! oh and I will be 24 when we TTC.

Abstaining DOES sway more girl than boy but you have to have 7-10 days of abstain for it to work. If you abstain for 2-4 days that is ideal for blue!!!

I would do abstain if my husband was 30.

[Mum23boys]

Hi Im knew to all of this - what is this abstaining all about ? I am 33 and my Husband is 31 we are both fit and active and have 3 boys aged 7,5 and 2 and are thinking of a 4th and woukd like to try and sway for a girl but i was under the impression we needed to do the deed with a 2-3 day cut off - especially as all our boys were conceived by dtd the day before and on the day of OV ?

[atomic sagebrush]

Shettles timing has been debunked and several of us have gone onto conceive girls by BD on O or a few hours before after having 2-3-4 Shettles opposites. http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...le-timing.html

All you ever wanted to know about abstaining is found in these threads (and probably MORE!)

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...pink-blue.html

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...frequency.html

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...pink-blue.html