How we got our boys!

[atomic sagebrush]

I have a TMI question to ask (if this has been covered in other threads I apologize).

How were your libido's during the month you conceived your boys?

I'm asking b/c I find that I have months where it's very high and then months where it's like crickets chirping. I often think maybe the month's where it's high would have made a difference.

Libido has proven to be a somewhat squirrely thing for us to get a handle on (my, that was a bizarre sentence. ) The problem is, I think that for many of us women our libido is wrapped up in a lot of different things, stress, sleep, how attractive we feel, how our husband is treating us that month - that may have zippo to do with testosterone levels.

With women's libido, it may be that the mental aspect is more important than the levels of any hormone circulating in our body. Not that T levels can't increase libido, but that we may not want to ACT on that libido or even notice it's there due to mental factors. I've had many times where my husband was feeling frisky and I wanted to rip his head off for it but then once we got started I got really into it after all and was like, "why did I think I didn't want to do this??" So I'm not sure we can necessarily extrapolate libido to testosterone levels.

That having been said though, you may have read about a phenomenon where more boys are conceived when soldiers are home on leave or right after they return from a war, and it's been proven in at least one study that women have peaks of libido when they have been separated from their man and then reunited (I cannot for the life of me rem. where I read that but I read a big study analyzing women's libido, prior to when I was researching swaying - it's out there somewhere haha) so I do def. entertain the possibility that peaks in libido, even sudden ones, can DEF. sway. More female orgasms? More cervical fluids??? HIgher sperm numbers?? More semen raising pH??? Prob. all of the above, and then some things we don't even know about yet.

When I conceived my DS 1, we hadn't been together for very long and we were both really "pent up". When I conceived DS 2, my husband and I were having kind of a nice period in our marriage and DTD more than normal and I was def. enjoying it (that was the best time in our whole marriage). DS 3, I didn't have any little kids at that point (first two were older) and we were able to DTD and have a little bit of fun with it and I would say my libido was somewhat higher than normal. So at least with the first 3, I prob. did have higher libido those months. Now with DS 4 my libido was in the TOILET! But overall, true for me!!

[2LilMenNeed1Princess]

Any boys mums DTD everyday?

Hi im a mom of 2 boys wit ds1 i was bding all the time as i'd only got wit dh n wasnt even tryin to get preg we used protection most times prob only no protection once r twice. Wit ds2 he was planned and we bd'd everyday from end of af right through O. Hope dis helps!! Just wondering did you sway for ur girls? n wat timing did u use tnx

[Alice]

Hi everyone

Wishing you all the best with your boy sways and sending blue dust....hope this helps you:

All three of my boys were one-hit wonders around the day/day before O, although DH was releasing roughly every other day by himself.

We are both very competitive (example: disagreement over spelling of a word will send me running for the dictionary whatever else I happen to be doing, because I have to be RIGHT), high-T personalities.

Diet-wise, I am a classic boy-maker: pasta with tomato sauce, oily fish like mackerel (smoked! Even worse LOL), red meat at least twice a week, usually more like 4 times a week; tend to season our food too heavily, cook with a lot of garlic and like salty and processed foods like olives, crisps and cured meat. Also eat a lot of eggs and a fair bit of canned stuff like soup. A lot of the things we eat are quite high fat, I run three times a week just so I can have them and not get fat

Just looked in my fridge and I have eggs, Cheddar cheese, pickled walnuts, minced beef, serrano ham, mackerel pate, capers and anchovies. That's pretty typical for me.

[NewYorkmom]

I have two boys. I ate 5 mini meals a day. Each meal consisted of at least 25grams of protein, a green vegetable(usually romaine salad) and a healthy fat(1 tablespoon flax seed oil, fish oil, or an ounce of nuts). I salted all of my burgers, salmon, salad and green vegetables. I do not care for dairy. I lifted weights 5X's a week and did a half hour of light /moderate cardio. I lifted heavy weights because I was trying to add some muscle. I used preseed with both and we had sex every other day. I definitely swayed boy without knowing. I hope this helps.

[Alice]

P.S. Forgot to also say, with my first son I was eating a LOT and gaining weight...lost weight just before DS2, however he was conceived just after Christmas when I had decided to take a break from my diet and consequently stuffed my face over Christmas, so I was gaining weight when I conceived him too, then DS3 I was the lightest I have been since my early 20's, but in the few weeks before I got pregnant I had also slackened off and had gained a little weight. So actively gaining weight with all three.

[atomic sagebrush]

Hi im a mom of 2 boys wit ds1 i was bding all the time as i'd only got wit dh n wasnt even tryin to get preg we used protection most times prob only no protection once r twice. Wit ds2 he was planned and we bd'd everyday from end of af right through O. Hope dis helps!! Just wondering did you sway for ur girls? n wat timing did u use tnx

Check out this thread, it might help! http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...pink-blue.html

Remember, even if doing frequent BD did get you a boy once before, there's no proof that doing the opposite will do anything at all whatsoever. If you don't lose weight on the Atkins Diet, there's no sense in doing the opposite and start eating nothing but birthday cake - that's not going to help you lose weight either. You have to address waht is really causing the weight issues/swaying blue for you, otherwise you're just spinning your wheels unfortunately.

[atomic sagebrush]

I have two boys. I ate 5 mini meals a day. Each meal consisted of at least 25grams of protein, a green vegetable(usually romaine salad) and a healthy fat(1 tablespoon flax seed oil, fish oil, or an ounce of nuts). I salted all of my burgers, salmon, salad and green vegetables. I do not care for dairy. I lifted weights 5X's a week and did a half hour of light /moderate cardio. I lifted heavy weights because I was trying to add some muscle. I used preseed with both and we had sex every other day. I definitely swayed boy without knowing. I hope this helps.

Hi NYM and welcome. I agree that is almost identical to what I would advise women who want sons to do. Here's to different factors yielding different results for you!

[auroara78]

I would just like to add that I think healthy fats are a good thing to incorporate in a boy sway....marinate your food in olilve oil, eat olives, omega 3's, I know these things are clasically boy sway stuff, but when I think about my diet with my DS's I did eat fish a lot too but drenched in olive oil and black pepper and salt....

[HappyLea]

Hi ladies,

Would just like to wish you good luck in swaying for boys and send you all my blue dust, please send me all your pink dust

I am a mummy to 3 beautiful boys and here is how i got them:

DS1 - on pill but missed a hell of a lot and we were just DTD as and when, i had no idea when ov was so not sure when in cycle he was conceived. Our diet was probably more boy diet tho we had just moved in together so takeaways, spag bol, pie n chips, battered chicken, sweet n sour stir frys. Snacking on rubbish.

DS2 - been on diet for over 6 months lost over a stone then when we decided to ttc we stopped dieting and went back to eating crap (knew nothing about swaying at this time) back to takeaways and what i call family foods spag bol, lasagne, roast dinners, pizza etc put weigh back on dtd every other day but didnt know when ov was so not sure when conceived again.

DS3 - Looked a little into swaying when ttc and was going for cut off so tracked ov and dtd only twice about 7days prior to ov and the 3 day prior to ov but diet was the same as above.

Hope this may help you! I had a gastric band last year so have changed the way i eat dramatically and lost about 3 stone so far, slowly but getting there. Hopefully this will help in my sway for pink!

Good Luck ladies and please take all my blue dust in exchange for some pink

[atomic sagebrush]

HappyLea, I know a woman who had 4 boys before her gastric band and 2 girls afterwards!