Uk SMOG Wannabes ~ February

[indigoviolet]

you rant away Babymad, that's what we are here for

[Sunset]

you rant away Babymad, that's what we are here for

[pinga]

Hi girls...
Firstly Congratulations Deaks!!! I'm so very happy for you!!! FX for a pink happy PG x

Babymad and Maybepink - Huge HUGS! Its a hard time isn't it? Sometimes I forget about it completely and then I remember and its like a wave of overwhelming sadness... Swaying is hard because it sets us up for a harder fall when it doesn't work - we put so much into it, and get our hopes/expectations up and its a long way down!

I find it hardest when I think about when they are older and I am the odd one out. Men just think differently (look at our DHs). I don't have any female influence in my life anymore - no mum (never had a grandmother), not close to my sister... so it feels lonely in my world. I remember after I lost my Dad and then had Ernie, I went through this phase of wanting to find myself a lonely old person to be a surrogate grandparent... but more because I was missing having someone from that generation in my life to go to for advice and to talk to. I never did... but I still might Its basically grief what we are dealing with and it takes time. Sometimes its hard to just get up and get on with things and other days its ok. I suppose I've dealt with a lot of grief over the last few years and I guess this is easier to deal with... while we are grieving the loss of a daughter there is a silver lining because we are gaining a gorgeous little boy who will look to us as the centre of their world.

I am still tearing up at random moments and I feel overwhelming jealousy of people with girls... generally I think I'm coping. The weird thing is, the day that we found out he was a boy I knew what his name was going to be. It was as though that was always going to be his name. I'm not keen on choosing names before birth - I like going in with a choice of a couple at least. But I can't think of any other name without saying... no that's not right, I know his name is..... Its helped.

babymad - its good that your DH knows. Just look after yourself... its a lonely lonely place to be. DHs never really understand how it hangs over us all the time. Men are too practical I think.

babymad and maybepink - feel free to PM if you want to talk/vent/wail...

Has anyone seen a program called 4 sons vs 4 daughters. The parents swapped for a weekend. The boy mum was absolutely lovely. I think she must have wanted a daughter but was happy and content with her boys and they were gorgeous kids (youngest was 8). The girl mum was one of those slightly annoying people that say ohhh I wouldn't have wanted 4 boys (as though there is something wrong with them). I thought it was interesting that the boy mum was just so lovely and accepting and the girl mum was pretty useless. So We boy mums are WONDERFUL!

I was at the doctors today and as we were finishing up DS1 had climbed onto my lap and for no reason kept giving me kisses on my cheek. Sometimes they melt your heart...

[deaks66]

Ahhh you brought tears to my eyes reading this.... Thanks, means a lot to hear such nice things.

I agree we need to remind ourselves of what we did to conceive these beans and how wanted they were... And still are!!

Maybe~ so pleased you are in such a good place. So lovely to hear xx

I always feel better when I've talked you guys, maybe I need a daily rant on here

Thanks again for everyone's support - really does help xxx

Aw it wasnt my intention to bring you anymore tears but im so glad you feel supported. And definately feel free to rant away! x

[Petal]

Ah maybe, definatly get signed off work! They arent treating you right so sod them!!

Oh babymad, feeling your pain hun, all i can say is it will get easier, i promise you! although i understand only too well that at the moment you are hurting :-(( hugs to you x x x

[Petal]

Pinga... LOVE your little baby grow!! i zoomed in on the pic to try and see where you brought it from and then remembered you are in Oz!!! D'oh!! lol. Hope you are keeping well :-)) x x

[indigoviolet]

Hi girls...

Has anyone seen a program called 4 sons vs 4 daughters. The parents swapped for a weekend. The boy mum was absolutely lovely. I think she must have wanted a daughter but was happy and content with her boys and they were gorgeous kids (youngest was 8). The girl mum was one of those slightly annoying people that say ohhh I wouldn't have wanted 4 boys (as though there is something wrong with them). I thought it was interesting that the boy mum was just so lovely and accepting and the girl mum was pretty useless. So We boy mums are WONDERFUL!

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It was a great program! I agree the boy mum was so lovely. One thing I remember was that her house was immaculate (unlike the girl house) and she said she didn't want people to think just because she had boys her house would be a tip. She trained them to tidy up after themselves and help loads around the house. A great idea!

Boy mums are wonderful!!

[Lavenderlime]

Glad you ladies have here to offload it's so hard having GD and I do think the men in our lives find it harder to understand. But the sadness is only for a short while and you will have a gorgeous little baby at the end and that's the most important part.

I had a really strange dream last night I had a baby who would have been about 9months and I dressed her in boys clothes and I had to keep checking her nappy to check she was a girl. Someone asked me what her name was and I couldn't remember my mind went blank of all girls names let alone my babies name. It was really very, very strange!

Rang up and got my blood results this a.m and it came back that I had a really low white count which I wasn't suprised about as I keep getting really sick. I got a coldsore before going away and I only get them when my immune sytem is really low. Yesterday I had to call DP back from work as I couldn't get the boys dressed and fed! I was freezing and had the shakes a massive headache and kept blacking out. Then I managed to sleep it off and it turned into hot sweats. It was horrible. Feel much better today.
Not too conclusive R.E hormones going to do day 21 bloods when my next cycle starts. I'm starting to think that my midcycle spotting was a really unusual out of the blue very light period. So should start my next cycle in a couple of days. The Dr. agrees as this cycle is dragging far too long to be a regular cycle.

[charlieispy]

Hi all x

I am glad we have each other - i feel so much more supported and understood this pregnancy than with ds3 I am totally trying to convince myself this is a boy and my head does say boy.....as did my intuition JUST after we DTD I thought we had done it eg BFP but lay awake for 2 hours thinking omg i am pregnant and its a boy.....i just lay there and prayed to my great auntie for a girl!! 1 week till scan......think i will get them to write it down in a card then if i choose to know i have that option x also if i think i see something i may ask

Inglewood - hope the scan went well x

I know scans are booked for friday and sunday.............

[charlieispy]

LMW - thougt there was one on thursday - hope all goes well tomorrow hope you get a nub shot too and its girly!!!!

Kell you are sunday?? and babymad?? Yay for sunday scans anyone else sorry my brain is frazzled!