UK SMOG Wannabes APRIL

[charlieispy]

If I had the money I think i would do it!! I would do 2 embies just to improve the chances - I dont think we will ever have the money or the space for more babies though

[deaks66]

If I had the money I think i would do it!! I would do 2 embies just to improve the chances - I dont think we will ever have the money or the space for more babies though

Would your dp be up for it too? Must be so much easier to commit to if both of you are really up for it. My dh would never be totally up for it but i think he could be swayed to go along with it if i told him how much it meant to me. Not sure thats the kind of pressure i want to put on my marriage though.

[maybebabythree]

Kell I missed you too xxx its to quite on here right now.

Maybe, Deaks and Charlie.. if money was no issue would you definatly do it? and how many embrio's would you put back in?
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Yes if money was no issue I wouldn't think twice. I would deal with the pain etc each day as it came. I've had three so surely I could cope with that. Morally I have no objections to it, but probably best not to think to long about that. I guess I should donate my spare embies but the though that they might go to some one I don't know, hmm not sure. It's just the same as some types of the pill that basically abort every month. I could afford to do three rounds at HRC right now. But its a deposit for a house. Four kids in this house wouldn't work long term.

I would put back two in the hope for one. Honestly could not carry twins to term pretty sure of that. I'm 38 too so pretty sure my odds are slim of it working. Was considering getting the blood tests in a few months and if blood work was bad that in a way would be good as it lays that option to rest. But yes if someone handed me my DD on a plate I would bite there hand off!

[maybebabythree]

Would your dp be up for it too? Must be so much easier to commit to if both of you are really up for it. My dh would never be totally up for it but i think he could be swayed to go along with it if i told him how much it meant to me. Not sure thats the kind of pressure i want to put on my marriage though.

My DH would do it for me, but if was to explain to him what it involved he would object on moral grounds I think (we have talked about it but never seriously). Thing is I can bend him round - but like you don't think thats fair on him. Can see us a divorce court one day and all this coming out!

[Sunset]

Sunset, did you accept the place you were given as i know you werent impressed?

The school system in this country is a right joke! We didnt get any of our choices so were left to pick at the scraps so to speak. We were offered a place at 2 schools, one which is a complete dump. I more or less laughed at the lady when she tried to persuade us to accept a place there. Seriorusly are the joking? I rather drop everything and move back to sweden than have my son go to a bad school just because the school system in this country is so bloody flawed. I think it's unacceptable how some parents can get their first choice and other parents don't get any of their choices. This system only works if all parents can be guaranteed a place at one of their 3 choice of schools, you simply cant have some get their wish while other, like me, has to make a super rushed decision over the phone or else "the places may be gone by monday". We have accepted a place at the "better" school out of the 2 we were offered but i am by no means going to sit back and accept the situation. Firstly we are going to appeal, but knowing england that won't come to anything. I'm going to book a meeting at the school with the teachers and if possible put ds1 in at their nursery, but if i dont like the school then there's no choice other than to move area and possibly even country. I'm sorry to rant but i'm so angry with the whole situation it's unebelievable! I used to have alot of respect for this country but all that just disappeared over night and it now makes sense to me why uk has the most unhappy children in europe. rant over lol

[maybebabythree]

sunset this was me four years ago - I had to drive past my first two choices to go five miles away to a school in bad estate. I would gp on direct gov uk and look at every school within ten miles of you and get your name on their waiting list asap. You can then pick and choose as places come up. Apeals at this age are very hard to win. There is a lot of movment in the waiting lists so make sure you are on the list for all three of your choices. I went to appeal and only one out of 15 won as her dd was under a child protection act. Let me know if you need any advice, but seriously get on the phone now to get on waiting lists (if your council works like ours - I hope) aslo I am on the border of three counties so I applied across all three. Let me know if you need any help

[charlieispy]

Would your dp be up for it too? Must be so much easier to commit to if both of you are really up for it. My dh would never be totally up for it but i think he could be swayed to go along with it if i told him how much it meant to me. Not sure thats the kind of pressure i want to put on my marriage though.

He was the one who brought it up again! I think we are both gutted he has admitted he doesnt understand the grief and the compltete despair but he does want a daughter but wouldnt risk having to go through GD again x he said the only way we would ever have anymore children is through PGD otherwise no more. He isnt getting the snip anymore......although he is a dreamer - we dont have the money and we dont have the room so its a very long way off dream!!

[charlieispy]

sunset - so sorry you didnt get your school choices x when we moved we moved to a town with good schools so we are lucky that our choices for first school wasnt too stressful secondary school will be hard as the one I want is hard to get into x

hope you manage to get somewhere - also its worth phoning at the beginning of school year or if you can get your name down as i have heard often they dont get the intake they expect as parents fail to tell them they havnt chosen that school x

[zanacal]

There have always been less children in my boys' classes by the time the term actually starts and then others join part way through the year - here's hoping it works out that way at your preferred school/s sunset.

[maybebabythree]

Yes - If you make sure you keep your name on the waiting lists (they take you off after a while unless you say otherwise - you need to check your countys rules) I was 2nd on my ds1 first school waiting list and my neighbour was 15th. She eventaully got in and I decided not to take my offered place. Not ideal moving them mid term but its good to keep all options open. You can always say no to a place later. I honestly had ds1 name down at 15 schools. It paid off too!