What to say to my pregnant friend? Need advice!

[luvncamrin]

I don't need an "easy read". I could read what you wrote before perfectly fine.

She has zero tact.

You have gender desire. So does she.

She got what she wanted which stings but you can't be upset with her because she suffers from infertility and that is difficult to deal with. I'm sure she was jealous of you conceiving on your own the first try and cried about that too. Not your fault of course and sounds like you do have empathy and tact.

You need to tell her that when she says things a certain way it hurts your feelings. Or just stay away from her.

If you do have a girl next, you'll have a pp and loads of people will be jealous of your family.

The way you feel and the friend that you have are both things the majority of us have felt or dealt with. It's hard. That's why we have this site and a place to talk this through. You asked for advice, right?

Ditto and I actually LOVE everything you wrote.....thanks!

[kaseybaby]

OMG I have one of these friends. It took her forever to get pregnant, even before she was pregnant all I heard was she needed to have a girl. Then she gets pregnant after 2 years and all I hear is how she wants it to be a girl, and she can't wrap her head around having a boy, etc. I have a DS who is the light of my life, and although I understand DG, as I have it, I kept taking it as if she was putting down my DS. Then OF COURSE she found out she was having a girl. So now all I get is how awesome it is going to be to have a DD and pictures of her DD room, etc. Keep in mind she knows that I am starting IF treatments soon, but still ever single day sends me updates about her DD hiccups.

[lisa3delta]

hahah hope she gets a boy. keep us posted will you, when she finds out? But I shouldnt be such a cow i was a bit the same my last pregancy. i was SO sure i was having a boy, just because i really wanted one i guess. Even after i was told by the tech 100% girl, i refused to believe it. so you can possibly expect the same from your friend even after she finds out.

[wantagirly23]

She is having a girl. Haven't stopped hearing about it either