Any homebirthin/unassisted birth Mama's here:)?

[boys4girls0]

I've had 4 x midwife led births in a small community hospital with no doctors or peds only 2x midwifes present. Hoping to have a homebirth with no.5 which i'm hoping to conceive in sept.

[LolaInLove]

I just want to applaud all you ladies. I wanted a home birth but wound up with a c-section. I desperately want a v-bac for number 2, but I can't have a home birth. I can't even go into a birthing center. I have made peace with it, but I am secretly jealous of all of you ladies

See, this is what I was told also!

Thanks again for your checking into the reality of this, DoulaMama!

[Flava]

You have a right to give birth at home wherever you live. So nice of your doctor to lie to you...a c/s is more risky then v/b especially repeated.huh
My friend did had a c/s after me and her baby was in ICU for over a week just because of the c/s . He had to much water left in his lung .
I also didn't felt the head coming out I was asking is she out yet. That's all I asked lol why is she not coming , when will she come out. And I had 2 episiotomy before just because they did it .(didn't even asked me about it) And at home nothing (after 2!) not even a tiny tare.
Only thing I would do different I would touch my baby's head! The midwife kept asking me to give her my hand to touch the baby but for some reason, I don't know why I was so scared to do it .I was thinking if I do it I can't push her out for sure. Now Im so sorry I didn't.

[kaseybaby]

See, this is what I was told also!

Thanks again for your checking into the reality of this, DoulaMama!

Lola, I am sure if I found some underground midwife I might be able to find one, but I had so many complications with DS that I don't want to risk being at home. I would LOVE to be at a birthing center, but they will not take v-bacs here, I have already looked into it. It is hard enough to find midwives in NY to even take V-bacs. :/

[Foxy]

I would love to do a home birth after a c-section, but I doubt any midwife here would do it.

[kaseybaby]

Why can't you? I know many women who have had HBAC's my best friend being one of them If you really want it, it's not impossible to find a care provider who would attend an HBAC. Let me know if you want info...I know some great resources for finding midwives that would attend you. Hugs~

In New York it is so hard to find people who will even do a vbac, it is NOT a v-bac friendly state. But besides that I had a lot of complications from the birth of DS. I had amazing midwives who cried with me when I needed the c-section, and I know I needed it, but I still hate the fact that I had one at all. Anyway, with all the complications I don't want to take the risk, and the midwives I have spoken to told me they do not recommend a homebirth in my case. PLUS I think my DH would be upset if I went that route after what happened last time.

I am hoping to become a natural childbirth educator if I get my v-bac, so i am really looking forward to that.

[DoulaMama]

In New York it is so hard to find people who will even do a vbac, it is NOT a v-bac friendly state. But besides that I had a lot of complications from the birth of DS. I had amazing midwives who cried with me when I needed the c-section, and I know I needed it, but I still hate the fact that I had one at all. Anyway, with all the complications I don't want to take the risk, and the midwives I have spoken to told me they do not recommend a homebirth in my case. PLUS I think my DH would be upset if I went that route after what happened last time.

I am hoping to become a natural childbirth educator if I get my v-bac, so i am really looking forward to that.

(Hugs) I'm so sorry that it turned out the way it did. There are so many things you can do to prepare yourself for a VBAC in the hospital You can totally do it! One of my clients not too long ago had a great VBAC in a hospital here and it went so smoothly- nothing like her last birth. Just remember that each birth/labour is so different. This birth will most likely be nothing like your last The one thing I would recommend is labour at home until you really feel the need to go in. Less time in the hospital= less intervention If you need any resources(for books/websites/etc) just drop me a line!
Take Care!
PS edited to add....I want to be a natural CE as well in the future Good luck with everything!!!

[DoulaMama]

I would love to do a home birth after a c-section, but I doubt any midwife here would do it.

You can't just look at the registered midwives....you have to really ask around the natural childbirth circles. There are midwives that come across State lines to attend women....I plan on becoming one of those midwives in the not so distant future Unregistered does not = bad. Some MW are great, others not so good. You just have to track one down, interview her, ask tons of questions and if she fits...great! Most midwives that are unregistered work in States that are hostile towards them but that won't stop them from serving the parents that they feel they need to serve If you really want a home birth- you can have a home birth. PM me if you want me to find out more info for you. I can ask around the circles I'm apart of and find out if there's someone in your area.
Take Care!

[DoulaMama]

You have a right to give birth at home wherever you live. So nice of your doctor to lie to you...a c/s is more risky then v/b especially repeated.huh
Yeah...it infuriates me....

I also didn't felt the head coming out I was asking is she out yet. That's all I asked lol why is she not coming , when will she come out. And I had 2 episiotomy before just because they did it .(didn't even asked me about it) And at home nothing (after 2!) not even a tiny tare.
Isn't it amazing! When a woman lets her body just birth her baby without any outside forces disturbing her/talking to her etc, it goes much smoother
Only thing I would do different I would touch my baby's head! The midwife kept asking me to give her my hand to touch the baby but for some reason, I don't know why I was so scared to do it .I was thinking if I do it I can't push her out for sure. Now Im so sorry I didn't.
I find it helps when a woman holds herself while baby is crowning-less tears, which is most likely why your mw's were telling you to touch baby's head. The other thing I found interesting during my own 2 waterbirths- the first one with a mw- I did not want to touch myself in front of her. I found it too personal. When I had my UC, I supported myself from the time he started crowning to when his body was out. I was much more comfortable with it because I had no onlookers. Just a thought Do you plan on any more babies??

[LolaInLove]

Lola, I am sure if I found some underground midwife I might be able to find one, but I had so many complications with DS that I don't want to risk being at home. I would LOVE to be at a birthing center, but they will not take v-bacs here, I have already looked into it. It is hard enough to find midwives in NY to even take V-bacs. :/

Kasey, I hear you. If I had a complicated birth, I would not want to be out of the hospital either, even if the odds of everything being fine were good. The kind of temporary trauma you get with a complicated one is enough to keep you on the cautious side...I was bound and determined NOT to have another c/s with #2, because with #1....sorry if long, but she was sunny side up, and they didn't do ANYTHING to help me deal with the back labor naturally or assist me in helping her turn naturally (like having me get on hands and knees, which I know now). They just slapped an epidural in me at 1cm and it went downhill from there. 2 days later!!!!!! I was in the assembly line for a c/s, and when they made the uterine incision, they cut so deep that they cut her umbilical cord also and blood was shooting everywhere. My DH's eyes were as big as saucers and I freaked out. So, to keep me from freaking about that and the pain as my epidural wore off, they shot me up with a bolus of demerol and I was high as a kite until the next day, and barely remember any of it. Fortunately, my DH understood my need to get her on the breast asap and literally held her up to my stoned body so she could nurse, and she did it like a champ. Anyway, another lovely hospital horror story there. After that, I was determined to not do that again, so I did my homework and even switched doctors a few times until I found midwives, albeit in a medical practice, who would let me have a vbac. So, not sure what your options are at this point....since I had a successful vbac, I can do it again, just maybe not outside of a hospital.....I don't know.

I would TOTALLY encourage you to attempt a vbac, though....it is head and shoulders above a section in terms of a good birth experience. I'd love to have the natural home or birthing center experience, if I can, but I can tell you I'd never just elect a c/s ever again. GL!!!