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[spinningmadly]

Surgena then stay at home. Dd was supposed to be a Hb but I just wont do it again bc it has a bad memory now. That and my Hb midwife I love can't do births in nc , it's not legal here, and she helps run the birth center in sc , where it is legal. So she'd get in a lot of trouble if she did nc. But I love the birth center anyway

I'm so sorry Rosie !!!! our stats suck for this due date group!!!

[spinningmadly]

Injust saw anther newborn at the store , another damn girl. I really feel like I lost my chance at a girl by losing my baby that was due now

[suregena]

Surgena then stay at home. Dd was supposed to be a Hb but I just wont do it again bc it has a bad memory now. That and my Hb midwife I love can't do births in nc , it's not legal here, and she helps run the birth center in sc , where it is legal. So she'd get in a lot of trouble if she did nc. But I love the birth center anyway

I always hated that it was illegal in some places in the US. Drives me crazy (I'm from the US, remember!)
I remember my cousin telling me I was putting my life and my baby's life at risk by using a midwife and all I could say to her was that it was the NORMAL practice here that midwives are the first point of care and person you see when you have a low risk pregnancy... Consultant led care is reserved for very high risk. But she just didn't get it.


I'm just so glad they really respect midwives here and know how important of a role they play in the birthing process, and that we have this list of options that we can choose... i.e. you can pick to go to the more medical labor ward, you can go to the birth center, or you can stay at home. I love that the choice is ours and no one dictates us in that choice... because it's our birth.

I feel so strongly about the homebirth. Would have the first time but it was the whole... first time baby, maybe play it safe. I feel like I have an idea of it all now and I know what NOT to do that I did last time... it feels like a more clear option for me.

Sorry about being home with your DD. I know and can understand why that would be so hard to do again. *hugs*

[Tiffani3]

Sorry ladies......it is another boy for me as well. I was feeling pretty bummed. Nothing has been working in my favor lately so I'm not surprised. The good news is I will get my girl. If I a capable of another pregnancy we will try sperm sort. If not we will adopt.


I have to say I don't like the potty shot I got, I don't really see a penis but I don't see girl parts either. Sorry I couldn't break the cycle.

Oh sweetie I'm sorry you didn't hear pink big hugs to you. Congratulations on your little man xx

[Tiffani3]

I just remembered my dream last night and there was just this subtle part of it that REALLY, REALLY disturbed me. Remembering it and I can't shake it. I hope it means nothing because it was just awful... bizarre and just weird and awful. I don't even know if I would want to share it, it disturbed me that much!

Oh my what was it???? xx

[Mrs_P]

Sorry ladies......it is another boy for me as well. I was feeling pretty bummed. Nothing has been working in my favor lately so I'm not surprised. The good news is I will get my girl. If I a capable of another pregnancy we will try sperm sort. If not we will adopt.


I have to say I don't like the potty shot I got, I don't really see a penis but I don't see girl parts either. Sorry I couldn't break the cycle.

Aw no Rosie, really sorry you didn't hear pink - hope baby was ok though - healthy and perfect and that your coping ok with everything - seems we are all destined to have boys lately

[mummypink]

They don't even CHECK for the group B strep in the UK.... as far as I know? Maybe they do in a sneaky way but I've never heard of it done here (unlike I hear all the time in the US. Same thing with the eye drops - they are not done here... and routine glucose check thing, they don't really do either unless possibly if there is a confirmed history of it)

Yep, it is the same here they don't routinely test for it but my old doctor used to as she had once had a patient who lost a baby as a result of it. She didn't actually tell me she was testing but just did it from a urine sample along with other routine tests. I asked for it to be done this time since I was found to be positive last time and apparently it has come back as negative which is good news. I'll ask to be tested again at around 32 weeks though as it can come and go. I wasn't tested for it when I was pregnant with ds1. Seems so silly for them not to do it in the UK as it is such an easy test! You can pay to have it done yourself though in the UK, think it costs about £12.

Definitely think I will make more of a fuss this time if they try to put me on a drip to speed things up as it was so unnecessary last time! She hadn't even checked me to see how far dilated I was and I kept saying to her I knew it was close. I think it was about 30 mins from her putting me on the drip to him being born, and when I said I needed to push she looked at me in disbelief and then panicked when she checked me and realised she could see his head!!! I'm really quiet in labour so I think because I'm not screaming she assumed I must be ages away from giving birth!

Hope you get some reassurance from your midwife Suregena, I remember my morning sickness kept coming and going around 9 weeks so try not to worry too much. xx

[suregena]

Yep, it is the same here they don't routinely test for it but my old doctor used to as she had once had a patient who lost a baby as a result of it. She didn't actually tell me she was testing but just did it from a urine sample along with other routine tests. I asked for it to be done this time since I was found to be positive last time and apparently it has come back as negative which is good news. I'll ask to be tested again at around 32 weeks though as it can come and go. I wasn't tested for it when I was pregnant with ds1. Seems so silly for them not to do it in the UK as it is such an easy test! You can pay to have it done yourself though in the UK, think it costs about £12.

Definitely think I will make more of a fuss this time if they try to put me on a drip to speed things up as it was so unnecessary last time! She hadn't even checked me to see how far dilated I was and I kept saying to her I knew it was close. I think it was about 30 mins from her putting me on the drip to him being born, and when I said I needed to push she looked at me in disbelief and then panicked when she checked me and realised she could see his head!!! I'm really quiet in labour so I think because I'm not screaming she assumed I must be ages away from giving birth!

Hope you get some reassurance from your midwife Suregena, I remember my morning sickness kept coming and going around 9 weeks so try not to worry too much. xx

Well, maybe they do sneakily check... like you say. You're in the UK so you know more than me probably (this American... in the UK for only almost 6 years!)

This pregnancy has just been too easy that I feel like I'm doomed. I hate this constant edge of doom during the first trimester... just drives me crazy!

[NCBeachyGrl]

Rosie - I am shocked!!!!! Did you post your potty shot? I am here for you....us girls were put on this forum for a reason and we are all in this together. Big hugs...everything will work out in the end.

[mummypink]

@surgena I rejected all of that stuff for both kids no problem with my dr. Strep b is like yeast , its naturally occurring but you can have an overgrowth one day and not the next and once you are positive here thats, even If you test negative the next time, so I don't see how being negative would comfort me at all. Vit c and garlic is supposed to help fight it for anyone that was positive before though. I am super paranoid now with this pregnancy but that after birth stuff always bothers me. Hoping I can birth at the birth center again so I don't have to deal with fighting with the nurses not to make my babies eyes all blurry.

The way the group b strep was explained to me was that you can have it without knowing anything about it as it doesn't cause you any problems, but if you have high levels of it then it can cause premature labour and it can also cause meningitis in the baby after it is born, particularly if your waters break early. If you are found to have it (like I was in my last pregnancy) they give you antibiotics to clear it, then you are tested again at around 34/35 weeks if it is all clear they just monitor the baby more closely after birth and if you are found to have it again you are given antibiotics during labour.

I think one of the main things is just being aware on the effects it can have on the baby as most people aren't aware of it at all, which is quite scary in places where you are sent home with a baby within hours of giving birth.

I like the idea of a homebirth in theory but I'm just too scared of something going wrong and not having the necessary help on hand. The maternity wards here are fab too so I think it is actually better for me in terms of recovery to be able to have a few days in my own room at hospital away from home so I'm not trying to sort the boys out or do jobs.

I know in the UK you can get rushed in and out of hospital though so I may feel differently if I was still in the UK! xx