Can I do this? (name issue)

[Dreamofpink]

I would just forget everyone else and use your dream name. I'd still use my dream name even if my cousin had used it this year for her 2nd DD. Not that I think she had it in mind, but you never know!
Anyway, who's to say that your sis doesn't have 2/3/4 boys and never gets to use the name! Go for it and don't worry too much.
Crikey, when I think of the names I adored when I was that age....!!!!

[jennaesue]

I don't understand the whole "claiming a name" concept. When you have a baby, you get to name it. If you are years and years away from having a baby, you shouldn't be worried about it! I think you have gone above and beyond by avoiding boys' names they have mentioned they like. I think they are being ridiculous. Doesn't your opinion matter? Why do they get to "claim" all the names?? You are the one with actual children! I know you don't want to upset them, but given how you rarely see them, I would just go ahead and use the names you like without giving it a second thought. I simply cannot imagine someone telling me I can't use a name because their *possible* future child *may* have that name. I do think that once a child in a family is given a name, it could be rude to use it on a another child, but it depends on the situation and how often they see each other, and whether nicknames could be used. Alys is a lovely name and I think you should use it if given the opportunity.

[Dreamofpink]

I do think that once a child in a family is given a name, it could be rude to use it on a another child, but it depends on the situation and how often they see each other, and whether nicknames could be used.

Good point Jennasue. My cousin lives 5 hours away and we only see each other maybe once a year usually at family events. Thankfully, it wasn't an issue anyway.

I totally agree with you though, fair enough if you were pg at same time as your sisters and were all discussing names. But, you're the only one likely to be in the immediate future, so I don't think it should be an issue. It sounds as if they are just trying to throw their weight around, which is daft!

[Tiggerian]

Oh God.. the names I liked when I was 15 was probably pretty cringe worthy lol!

I don't tell people the names I like anymore either! I had a simillar experience when I was expected DS2.

I met this girl with the same due date as me. First baby, also a boy. At first she was adamant he was going to be called dominic. Then when we met we discussed names and I told her DS2s full name and a week later she txt me saying she'd changed her mind - her son was now going to have exactly the same name as DS2, even middlename! I was a bit .. eh ok! Well we then gave birth, her two days after me and were put in the same room, were she revealed, surprise surprise, her son was having the exact same name as my DS1, incl middlename, and she was reserving DS2s name for her 'next' son. Little bit creepy! Since then I've kept silent about names =/

I just really dislike drama! I hate the fuss... when we had to pick our sons names there was such a fuss! We couldn't use Samuel and Gabriel for various reasons, Sophia is the name of a girl who once had an affair with a boyfriend of a friend of a friend of my SiLs (wat!?).. I could keep going on like that! We finally named DS2 Noah and that made a huge fuss, because apparently my sister M and my OH sister both wanted that name for their son, despite my SiL never wanting children, never having had a boyfriend and couldn't be further from the baby making stage and my own sis was 18 at the time.. blergh! Just hate drama. I just want to name my baby what I want and get on with it instead of having a huge fuss..=/ if they want a Noah and an Alice in the future, by all means, be my guest!

[Butterfly Spirit]

Sorry about that Tiggerian, that must have been creepy!

Drama with the baby names just sucks! I never imagined it would go so far from my end.

[Tiggerian]

I know!! It's like, no one OWNS a name - I'm well aware of that as well! Say my SiL had had a boy before me then her boy would've been Noah and we'd have found another name. No fuss! I wouldn't have kicked off about it. But in general I just think people can be so rude about names - Not just possesive, but negative comments or snide remarks. We can't all have the same name taste and thank God for individuality. If we were all Laura's and Ben's it would be one boring (and confusing) world!

[Butterfly Spirit]

I know!! It's like, no one OWNS a name - I'm well aware of that as well! Say my SiL had had a boy before me then her boy would've been Noah and we'd have found another name. No fuss! I wouldn't have kicked off about it. But in general I just think people can be so rude about names - Not just possesive, but negative comments or snide remarks. We can't all have the same name taste and thank God for individuality. If we were all Laura's and Ben's it would be one boring (and confusing) world!

Exactly, and that's why my DH responded to her DH in that way.. letting them know.. yes, that's okay.. but we are still naming our daughter the name we've chosen.
But I agree with you... woman are trying to become more and more creative in the struggle to stay unique in naming their offspring.

[Dreamofpink]

Danni Minogue stole DS2's name!!!!! At least we got there a year before so we can't be accused of following celeb trends!

[Mum23boys]

Your pregnant she's not Its your decision what you name your child. iF YOU HAVE ALWAYS LOVED THIS NAME AND WERE TO SETTLE ON SOMETHING ELSE YOU WOULD NEVER TRULY be happy

[Tiggerian]

Shaaame on Danni!! Have to admit I actively try to steer clear of celeb names - When ever I mention that I like Alys people go "Oh so ur a Twilight fan!?" eh.. no.. I just happen to like the name, ty!

When did naming our brood become this difficult!? I remember naming DD when I was 17 (shocker, I know!) and the community grp I was put in (all mums under 18) were all about picking the most unique name! It just seemed so much easier for our parents - they picked the name they liked and were done with it. Didn't care for top 50s or uniqueness. Just likeability. =/