Roll-call!! Due June/July/August 2013

[Falling2Grace]

Hi there. I would like to be added please.
I am due August 31st with our 3rd child. Hoping for a baby girl this time as ive got two boys (DS2 was a failed IG sway). Love them to pieces but as this is our last child im praying for a baby girl.

[Maple]

Boo, I have to have a quick little rant/venting session

My MIL lately has been incredibly snarky towards me, I'm not sure why.. maybe I just always am around her in bad moods but tonight at DH's hockey game I had just about enough. I have had a good relationship with her until recently. Her daughter has 3 kids and parents them very freely, they hardly have rules/never listen etc. Where as I, have rules/boundaries and want Ryder to listen, he has a schedule and routine (I'm very organized and structured lol), and she keeps commenting as if I'm the worst parent EVER because Ryder can't run around doing as he pleases 24/7. She also is very upset that a) I found out the sex of both babies b) chose to have a second c-section and c) that DH and I have mutually agreed we do NOT want a third child, although to her.. it's *of course* all my fault. Anyway, she makes comments, like she's joking but really I know she's not and I'm SOSOSOSO tired of it.
I think that we are doing a great job raising our child/children and I am 110% content with any decisions I have made with this and my previous pregnancy.

UGH why does she have to be like that? She is starting to live up to the "monster in law" nickname already!
I brought it up to DH and he just said "Oh she could just be grumpy" but it's turning into something that happens EVERY TIME I am around her, it especially bothers me when her comments are TO OTHER PEOPLE while I'm RIGHT THERE.

Sorry to be a downer this has been boiling inside me for sometime now, I had to let it out. Anyone else have a MIL similar?

Ah CVD, how annoying. You must dread seeing her!

I wonder what the problem is with her.. I guess if it goes on for much longer you might need to question her about it? It's not nice to be talked about in front of people..

Fortunately my MIL is not much of a problem! A little crazy but always means well!

Hope she snaps out of it and makes life more pleasant for you. XX

[Maple]

Aw they have names, bet its so lovely and special to name girlie twins - would love to hear what you have decided x

I wish we could decide! DH hates my choices, yet does not contribute any suggestions.

Its DS2 that has given them names! Ava and Freya - which is really sweet. I don't think we will use them though! He hopefully won't be too disappointed!

XX

[Justjessica]

Boo, I have to have a quick little rant/venting session

My MIL lately has been incredibly snarky towards me, I'm not sure why.. maybe I just always am around her in bad moods but tonight at DH's hockey game I had just about enough. I have had a good relationship with her until recently. Her daughter has 3 kids and parents them very freely, they hardly have rules/never listen etc. Where as I, have rules/boundaries and want Ryder to listen, he has a schedule and routine (I'm very organized and structured lol), and she keeps commenting as if I'm the worst parent EVER because Ryder can't run around doing as he pleases 24/7. She also is very upset that a) I found out the sex of both babies b) chose to have a second c-section and c) that DH and I have mutually agreed we do NOT want a third child, although to her.. it's *of course* all my fault. Anyway, she makes comments, like she's joking but really I know she's not and I'm SOSOSOSO tired of it.
I think that we are doing a great job raising our child/children and I am 110% content with any decisions I have made with this and my previous pregnancy.

UGH why does she have to be like that? She is starting to live up to the "monster in law" nickname already!
I brought it up to DH and he just said "Oh she could just be grumpy" but it's turning into something that happens EVERY TIME I am around her, it especially bothers me when her comments are TO OTHER PEOPLE while I'm RIGHT THERE.

Sorry to be a downer this has been boiling inside me for sometime now, I had to let it out. Anyone else have a MIL similar?

Sorry to hear that. I'm not surprised you are upset. Your MIL sounds a lot like mine. I usually try and ignore her but its difficult not to react when you are pregnant. I try and see mine as little as I possibly can!

[heidih1977]

huge congrats Maple....have a blast buying pink x 2!!!

best of luck on friday mrs p I am sure everything will be just fine and you will get your pink confirmation!

cvd try to ignore her. I know i am super sensitive when I am pregnant and take everything to heart. She does sound quite irritating though so maybe just avoid her as must as possible....it's probably easier said than done!

[cvd]

Thanks ladies. I try to ignore her comments and when we are with her I try to avoid conversation of the kids LOL I think it's going be a loooong journey ahead of us

[Atsaukina1]

cvd- sounds like she's a sarcastic lil thing so be right back at her
i think of it from a moms point of view though if my dd or my sons get with a women that does not want to bf or feed kids junk or have very medicalized births i probably would try to convince them otherwise lol but then i would have to have my peace with it afterall it is their life. I have no idea about my mil she is the exact opposite and doesn't comment on anything but also makes it kind of hard for conversation cuz she acts like she doesn't care. maybe try talking about other thingas besdies kids and if she trys to steer convo that way steer it back to something else. hopefully once babe is born she'll focus on all the lovey things

maple- names are sooo hard but you still have time don't stress

so we shared the news w/ kids last night. got a cake that said "baby #5". kids were excited asking when is it coming,feeling my belly,ect. mw appt. here at the home this fri. and dh has a trip so had to tell them

[cvd]

cvd- sounds like she's a sarcastic lil thing so be right back at her
i think of it from a moms point of view though if my dd or my sons get with a women that does not want to bf or feed kids junk or have very medicalized births i probably would try to convince them otherwise lol but then i would have to have my peace with it afterall it is their life. I have no idea about my mil she is the exact opposite and doesn't comment on anything but also makes it kind of hard for conversation cuz she acts like she doesn't care. maybe try talking about other thingas besdies kids and if she trys to steer convo that way steer it back to something else. hopefully once babe is born she'll focus on all the lovey things

maple- names are sooo hard but you still have time don't stress

I know what you mean Atsaukina and I agree but the crazy thing is, she is PRO things that usually moms aren't for the most part. For example, we went there for dinner Friday and my nephews were eating CANDY 10 mins before dinner was being served, when they offered it to DS1, I obviously told them no and my MIL says "OH geez it's not a big deal who cares, but obviously Ryder's mom doesn't let him eat candy" in the most sarcastic tone. Um at 19 months old NO he doesn't eat candy, and 10 mins before dinner??? DOUBLE NO. When I was nursing Ryder, she kept pressuring me to feed formula (he had some every now and then and took it fine) - I thought she was insane. He nursed FABULOUSLY, I even had a huge pumped supply and he took bottles with no problem - WHY in the world would I want to give him more formula? But she was never super rude about it now she is starting to be. She really thinks her "way" is the best way and I don't agree!

Oh well. I could go on for days so I should stop now lol I am just going to ignore her stupid sarcastic comments and continue doing as I am which I feel is best!!

[jennaesue]

CVD - I'm sorry your mil is giving you a hard time. I have had similar issues with my MIL. She doesn't understand why I would breastfeed beyond 6 months, and she thinks I don't let my kids eat enough junk (and believe me, they eat plenty of junk. I just don't practically force it down their throats like she does!) I think part of her issue is that she subconsciously thinks I am passing judgement on her parenting by choosing to do things they way I do. She was 17 when she had dh, she smoked, drank, and did drugs. She did not breastfeed, and even stopped giving him formula and starting giving him cow's milk when he was an infant. So she can't wrap her head around me wanting to breastfeed and do child-lead-weaning. I know dh gets very sensitive when talking about all the things you shouldn't do while pregnant, because to him it's like saying he is in some way defective because she definitely did bad things when pregnant! So this is just my amateur psychoanalysis, but maybe your mil feels like by you being such a good parent, it makes her perhaps lackluster parenting look even worse.

[BabyCakesTor]

CVD- my mil is the similar in a lot of ways. My DH family feels entitled to have a say in how what when and where we do things. Because I have 2 DS from my previous marriage they feel extra entitled to how I do things with DS3. It drove major wedge between my DH and I. When I was pregnant with DS3 my mil was running her mouth when she had not right and because I knew my DH wouldn't do anything about it, because he hasn't in the past, I finally snapped! I put her in her place and told her that if she didn't like how we were doing things she didn't have to come around but there was no way in hell I was going to let her dictate how I was going to raise my kids and especially since I saw how "well" "raised" hers (always choose a man over her kids) she's since chosen to keep her distance and I'm perfectly fine with that. It's sad but my family is too important to let ANYONE come in the middle. It sounds like you're doing great with your son and my boys are 13, 9 and 22 mths and No they don't have candy or soda. The older ones get candy or sprite once in a blue moon. You do what you gotta do. These are YOUR children and you have to live with how they're raised. GL