Roll-call!! Due June/July/August 2013

[hopingforsaskia]

Thanks. Bizarrely I don't feel too bad at the moment. I've been busy reviewing our boys' names shortlist in my head. X

Well that's fantastic!! Best possible scenario then. I'm very pleased for you xx

[heidih1977]

Really sorry hopingfor and weeziewozzles about you both not hearing pink. I can totally relate to how you are feeling at the moment. I am on week 5 after hearing blue again and am really only starting to feel ok about it. I honestly knocked me for six even though I had pessimistically thought from day one it probably is another boy. I am coming around to the idea of meeting this little chap in july but the thought of never having a daughter is what I struggle with most. This pregnancy is really tough. After not showing for the first 20 weeks I have now ballooned and feel massive! It's also not helping that I am already uncomfortable at night and if do too much during the day I pay dearly with back pain and sciatica. I so just want the next 3 months to fly by and him to be out.

You two sound like you are coping well. I still sometimes think hopingfor....maybe they have made a mistake as I really thought it could have a been a girl, but unlike you I saw the 'turtle' so really I am just kidding myself. How amazing would it be for you if they were wrong!!!

[cvd]

Well we're team blue again Healthy active baby though so that's great. I'd sort of resigned myself to it but given how long we did frequent release for and how much weight I lost I am surprised. I don't have a nub shot to show you as they don't seem to print those but the boy bits were pretty obvious.

Sorry you didn't hear girl but congrats on a healthy baby. Hope you're doing ok

[Mrs_P]

Hey lovelies. Thank you for your kind words. They mean a lot to me.

I want to share this here, because I feel like this is the only place I won't be completely judged...

Over this last 3 days I've managed to find the silver lining in having a baby boy added to our clan. I'm in love with the idea of 3 big strong boys loving their mummy... So it is really strange (at least, I didn't expect it..) to feel a sense of denial. I am fine with it if it's a boy (now) but I cannot get rid of that niggle of doubt that is plaguing me. I keep telling people "they said its a boy" or "apparently it's a boy".. And I can't manage to feel comfortable with saying he or him. I'm going to get my naturopath to confirm for me on Monday. I have to be sure before I go ahead and settle on "him" being a boy.

Am I completely nuts??

No i felt like this with ds3 - i was so sure he would be a girl, i'd convinced myself caused we'd swayed and everything he would be and all the owt's were there and everything. This time round i still don't think babe is a girl and won't believe it til i see it and will still get it confirmed again at next scan.

You were so sure your little one was a girl its only normal for you to feel that way. I'm glad your in a better place though, it took me a long time to get there. On the other hand i am living testament as to how great three boys are, my third added so much to our family in a way that i never thought was possible or never realised was missing and he is the biggest mamas boy of the lot (in fact a bit worried how he will cope with the baby). The dynamics have changed but for the better in our home. Although its hard knowing now (and i do understand the moms that say they'd rather know at the time as its hard to be disappointed with your baby in your arms) i do think its easier to find out and to have the space to deal with emotions first as its really not about him its about you and something you wanted so badly and i don't think you ever escape GD so its best to confront it before your little one arrives. I was honestly excited by the time by 3rd little man arrived and the fact that he was a boy didn't come into at all - i wanted him and i fell in love with straight away, despite having hit rock bottom a few months before.

I'm sure Saskia will join your family very soon, this little boy just needed you more at the moment (or maybe you need him and don't realise it yet) and i'm sure he will bring you as much joy and love as my little Toby brings me every day x

[atomic sagebrush]

I'm sorry ladies, but happy that babies are healthy.

[weeziewoozles]

I'm sorry ladies, but happy that babies are healthy.

Me too. A mum i was chatting to the other day was sharing her sad story of losing her baby at 33 weeks. I just want him to be healthy and strong and I'll get my girl next time.

[Mrs_P]

weezie i'm sorry you didn't hear pink but glad your little man is doing well. Do you have any pics of him to upload from your scan (or have i missed them) - we seem to see a lot of potty shots but its also nice to see babes to.

I found my gd easier to deal with knowing we had the possibility of a fourth and although i never wanted four kids (and still find that thought shocking) three boys and girl seems to fit and i so can't wait to see our family together - my three little men are amazing and i wouldn't give any of them back for all the girls in the world.

Ps would love to hear your names if/when your ready to share

[weeziewoozles]

weezie i'm sorry you didn't hear pink but glad your little man is doing well. Do you have any pics of him to upload from your scan (or have i missed them) - we seem to see a lot of potty shots but its also nice to see babes to.

I found my gd easier to deal with knowing we had the possibility of a fourth and although i never wanted four kids (and still find that thought shocking) three boys and girl seems to fit and i so can't wait to see our family together - my three little men are amazing and i wouldn't give any of them back for all the girls in the world.

Ps would love to hear your names if/when your ready to share

I know I'll be fine when I get to meet him. Not sure what we'll do next time. Whether we'll try high tech or not. I never dreamt that i wouldn't have a girl at all.

I've some baby pics from the scan so I'll get them on here later on.

RE names I like things like Jasper, Monty, Hugo, Bertie, Victor, Arthur, Xander and Barnaby. Need to run them past DH and see which he likes now! We have Miles and Elliott already

[Mrs_P]

I know I'll be fine when I get to meet him. Not sure what we'll do next time. Whether we'll try high tech or not. I never dreamt that i wouldn't have a girl at all.

I've some baby pics from the scan so I'll get them on here later on.

RE names I like things like Jasper, Monty, Hugo, Bertie, Victor, Arthur, Xander and Barnaby. Need to run them past DH and see which he likes now! We have Miles and Elliott already

Aw lovely names, it really helped me with ds3 to name him, he became a part of our family right from that moment. Although we struggled with a name - if you have a few you both like why not ask the boys for their opinions thats what we did with ds3, our eldest picked the name (from a selection) and he is so pleased he had that involvement with his brother he always still tells everyone proudly he chose his name - its so sweet and gives them a special little connection

[Falling2Grace]

Big hugs ladies <3 I wish there was more that i could do or say to make you feel better (((HUGS))). Not crazy at all Saskia. You have a broken heart. Dont be afraid to do whatever you feel you need to. <3