September 2013 babies!!

[Wanting-a-girl]

Omg I'm so sorry! I don't have words to say please keep us updated

[4Giffins]

Northern, my heart breaks for you! I will hold out hope for your little princess and pray that you hear good results from your testing! Life is just so unfair and as you said you have to make whatever decision is right for you and your family!

My prayers to Fish as well! Stay strong ladies and keep us updated! We are all cheering for and supporting you!!

[Southern Butterfly]

Wow, when it rains it pours around here, doesn't it?!? Northern, I wish there was someting I could say that would ease your worries, but I know there isn't. I just want you to know you and your little Evelyn have positive thoughts and prayers coming to you from all around the world. I can't even imagine what you're going through now and all I can do is hope along with everyone else that you get better results from your amnio. Try not to loose all hope yet

[Salsa]

OH Northern, this is not what I wanted to wake up to. My heart breaks for you and your husband. I know Im on the other side of the world, but if I could give you a hug I would do so in an instant. I know all of our words of concern and support dont take the pain away - I wish with all I have that it can. As some of the other ladies have said, gather all your info before making any decisions - but what ever you decide you know you have all of our support 100%. We do not judge here, we are a wonderful support group, and we have your best interests at heart.
Life is just so damn unfair sometimes you just want to scream at the universe!! Im sitting here not wanting to sign off and I just want to keep talking to you. But know you are in my thoughts constantly.
What a horrid week this forum is having.
I pray further testing reveals something more positive.
So very very sorry x x x x x

[nuthinbutpink]

Toxoplasmosis is from cats or your touching raw meat but not dogs. Even the raw meat thing just doesn't happen.

Here, my NT bloodwork was for 13,18 and 21- the 3 most likely chromosome defects that can produce a live baby. Most places test all 3. The nuchal fold should have shown something off at the NT scan. Something should have presented at your NT scan IF this baby has Edwards. It should just appear at 20 weeks. I pray all is well or it is something that can be resolved in some way.

[Longingforgirl]

OMG what is happening here. Northern, I am so so so deeply sorry! I just read what happened and I am speechless. I so hope it will somehow all turn out to be ok!! We have also said that we couldn't deal with (another) disabled child. I can totally understand that.
I am crossing my fingers for you and hoping and praying for you and your little girl!! I don't know if you have already said when you will be getting the results from the amnio. I just really hope you will have them very very soon afterwards.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.

[Longingforgirl]

Thank you, but from research, even if it was just the swollen brain then she would be severely brain damaged.

In what way is it "swollen"? DS1 has a huge head, really very very huge. This is (among other things) one of the reasons why we had been running from one specialist to the next one. Unfortunately, his head is still unusually large and has a strange shape. I so hope that it is somehow going to be ok. I cannot believe what is happening here.. the same with Fish I am so so sorry for what you have to be going through right now.

[Navywife620]

Lurking... I just want to say do NOT give up Hope Northern. I am not sure if you have any kind of faith but I do believe God can do miracles. I have a friend who was pregnant with a baby girl, they found markers on her daughter in her ultrasound. They did blood work and it came back and it came back that her daughter had trisomy 13 is doctor basically told her that the baby wouldn't life long past birth. Well we all prayed for God to heal her. She went back for a 2nd ultrasound and the baby had no markers, they could not believe it the US tech was wondering why they were even there.The doctor said this isn't the same baby! They could not believe it. They then did an amino, and everything came back perfect!!! She finally had her baby girl and she is perfect and healthy! Praying for you and your baby girl!

[ELP]

Ladies I am so sorry also for whats happening with your beautiful little ones atm, I truly hope that they all are born safe and sound for you all xxxx

[Northern_Shutterbug]

This little girl has bilateral ventriculomegaly, and its severe - 17.7mm. Anything over 10mm is cause for concern, and as you can see, its almost double.

I've read miracles of children that have had moderate ventriculomegaly and they've been fine, but these are isolated versions, where there are no other problems, such as her heart abnormalities and the fluid around her abdomen. I've read no good stories of a child with a severe case, only the heartbreaking stories of women having to make the heartbreaking decision to end their babies lives.

I keep going through stages of denial thinking it must all be a mistake, but deep down I know this is it. If the measurements of her ventricles are the same or worse on Tuesday I'm not even going to bother with the amnio as prognosis from just that is awful, regardless of the other problems. I'd rather go through the pain sooner and ask them to do an autopsy after, rather than having the wait for the results.

I really wanted lots of glasses of wine tonight, I'm not a drinker but I want to drown my sorrows, I want the pain to be dulled, but as I stood in front of our liquor cabinet I couldn't bring myself to do it, I broke down.

I don't want to be around my boys and I don't want to have to deal with my husband's grief as well as my own, I don't know how to. He doesn't think he could cope with seeing her if I go through the labour to end this pregnancy, but I am worried about general anesthetic and something going wrong which would result in no more chance of having children.

I'm sorry to be so depressing, I'm just really struggling and I don't feel like I can talk to hubby about it.