Dreaming Pink Due Date Group: TTC and Beyond

[Charlee]

Unfortunately I think you are right about us long termers Meeks. Atomic actually said that exact thing... we were TTC for too long and it skewed the results. Now for people like you and I, there was nothing we could do about TTC for so long! We tried our hardest to get pg earlier when the sway was better but it just didn't happen for us. I have absolutely made peace with having another boy... I'm even excited about it! But there will ALWAYS be a lingering question in my mind about the "what ifs"... those damn doubts! It just might make me strive for #4... I am REALLY wanting to give a proper sway a chance to work! I feel like I wasn't even swaying the month I got pg because of many things.... like Meeks said, I don't know what I would even do with a girl, but i sure would like to find out

[2lovelyboys]

Charlee I've said the same thing, what would I do wiv a girl . Like u I feel at peace wiv another boy (however a little girl would have been lovely), I am also thinking about getting on this crazy swaying train again for maybe no4!

I also don't think we would have been given anything we couldn't handle, these little boys were definitely meant to be, had to fight through all that sway to get here!

[Dreamofpink]

Unfortunately I think you are right about us long termers Meeks. Atomic actually said that exact thing... we were TTC for too long and it skewed the results. Now for people like you and I, there was nothing we could do about TTC for so long! We tried our hardest to get pg earlier when the sway was better but it just didn't happen for us. I have absolutely made peace with having another boy... I'm even excited about it! But there will ALWAYS be a lingering question in my mind about the "what ifs"... those damn doubts! It just might make me strive for #4... I am REALLY wanting to give a proper sway a chance to work! I feel like I wasn't even swaying the month I got pg because of many things.... like Meeks said, I don't know what I would even do with a girl, but i sure would like to find out

Charlee, I know you & Meeks gave it your best every month but for me it was a comedy of errors that I know were out of my control for the best part. The weight fell off me at a ridiculous rate even after upping my cals to the highest. Sept/Oct we did FR for our first two months & it didsn't work. November, I was advised strongly to skip as we'd had an awfully confrontational week with FIL, then Dec DH was just too exhausted after some manic shifts at work. After Christmas, I didn't then ovulate until March when I got my bfp Urgh.

I understand that it helps a lot of people to talk about why their sway may've failed and I wish more than anything that I had managed to convince DH to DTD in Dec. I don't want to make anyone feel bad at all, but the post-mortums are making me feel a bit more of a failure now. Kind of like kicking someone when they're down. Yes, I know I've added to them but for me I've come to terms with it now and know this little boy was meant to be regardless of what I did. Please don't all jump on me, I don't mean to offend but I need to step away for a little bit and focus on the positives of this little one. Without this forum I have to admit that it would've been far to easy for me to sink into a great pity party, but I know how lucky I am to have the support of you fab ladies who understand.

[myrainbowgirl]

Niva - Welcome back!

Re: failed sways - I really, really hope you ladies are not kicking yourselves for things you could have/should have done...although when I find out in a couple of weeks, I know it will be hard not to do that. I agree with Ladybugs that LUCK has a lot to do with it...and that is most certainly not something we can control, unfortunately. These sweet little boys are obviously meant to be...I definitely think of DS3 that way. (Didn't sway with him, but obviously was hoping for a girl.) He is beautiful, and I wouldn't trade him for the world! Assuming this one is DS4, I know it will be HARD, but at the same time, with my history (not getting pg for months and months, not swaying), the fact that I swayed girl and got pg right away at 36 years old helps me to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that he is meant to be. Hoping I can really focus on that! But big, BIG hugs to all of you!! And I know GD is hard, so those of you making peace...so happy for you, your little beans are worth it!

[GeCon]

Laybugs, good luck for your appointment tomorrow. Hope you get some reassuring news.

Meeks, enjoy your scan tomorrow. What time is it? Can't wait to have a look at your baby's nub, which will hopefully be very obviously girly.

[Waiting4Daisy]

Oh ladies ITA with rainbow, please don't feel you did anything wrong that caused your sway to fail. I have been overwhelmed with the dedication many of you have shown to your sways, I couldn't even hack the diet for one measly month.

I see tons of people irl who should be classic boy makers have girls. A lot of it must just come down to luck. Please don't feel you did anything to cause your sway to fail. Totally agree that these little people are meant to be.

[meeks32]

Laybugs, good luck for your appointment tomorrow. Hope you get some reassuring news.

Meeks, enjoy your scan tomorrow. What time is it? Can't wait to have a look at your baby's nub, which will hopefully be very obviously girly.

4hrs to go!!

[meeks32]

Oh ladies ITA with rainbow, please don't feel you did anything wrong that caused your sway to fail. I have been overwhelmed with the dedication many of you have shown to your sways, I couldn't even hack the diet for one measly month.

I see tons of people irl who should be classic boy makers have girls. A lot of it must just come down to luck. Please don't feel you did anything to cause your sway to fail. Totally agree that these little people are meant to be.

Dream and Charlie, what she said ^^^

I was just thinking about this today. You know who should have had boys and had tons of girls? That Kris Jenner (the kardashian mum)! She's a super control freak and boy mum looks, not that thin (although I assume she was dieting) yet still had 5 girls and 1 boy (to two different fathers). Kim I get, having a girl because she was on a diet and fitness kick, but her mum, no idea! I don't follow it that much but just one of those tabloid things I noticed and thought huh??

So for some people it's obviously a genetic predisposition to being more boy or girl friendly, and to a large extent, beyond control. You know, that control thing us boy mums love, haha.

Also dh's xx vs xy sperm count is always relevant. We could have the perfect sway and if dh has 90% boy sperm then it's still a pretty tough set of odds. Some women having HT have found this.

Nobody should feel their sway was inadequate because we are only HUMAN. We can only do what we can do, and we all did everything we could handle at the time.

That's probably enough talk about our sways and regrets for now. Hugs dream.

[meeks32]

Nub shot here, please guess:

http://www.genderdreaming.com/forum/...ad.php?t=32804

[myrainbowgirl]

Girly, Meeks! Woohoo!!!