Dreaming Pink Due Date Group: TTC and Beyond

[Charlee]

GeCon - I'm so sorry if the opposites thread is making you feel bad... I think most of us are just in the denial stage of grief over there! I think talking about a different situation makes us feel more in control of what is going on in the present moment.

FWIW, I am talking about #4 when I'm not even sure I have the gusto to do it. But it makes me feel better to think I might have a chance... but really, deep down, I'm not sure AT ALL that I will actually do it. I can't wrap my head around my house full of 3 boys at the moment!

So please don't feel bad, or that you don't have the same chance as anyone else. I think when the cards are down, many of us won't have a DD... but talking about the what ifs make us feel better....

Hope that helps

[Dreamofpink]

I agree with Charlee totally. However, I'm considering my next sway like it'll definitely happen whilst conveniently forgetting that this birth poses a bit of a risk for me & any potential pregnancies in the future. I'm stuck between a rock & hard place as I'm being supported by my consultant in attempting a vba2c. But my risk for a uterine rupture is about 0.9%. If I chose to go for a c-section it also carries risks too which are higher for any subsequent pregnancies. If I can pull off a successful vbac then I should be fine, however if I don't at worst I could lose my womb. I may not have a choice in ttc again.

I set up the opps thread purely to have somewhere to express my anguish & gd without bringing anyone else down as the other threads were so full of hope & optimism - quite right too!! We're here for you either way, just take your time & be kind to yourself x x

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[2lovelyboys]

Dream, Im going for my 2nd VBAC, definitely worth a try and if all else fails there is always the csection. The only prob with a section after planning a VBAC is that it's likely to be an emergency and that's not pleasant but for me this time it's worth a go!

[GeCon]

Thanks for your understanding, ladies. Really I didn't want to cause any drama, that's why I posted it in here rather than over there as I didn't want people to think they were doing anything wrong by posting about future babies/sways. I just didn't want anyone to think I am not using the other thread for some strange reason. Anyway...

Still waiting for Emily...

[Dreamofpink]

That's fab that you're going for your 2nd vbac 2LB! I really hope it goes smoothly. My vbac failed with ds2 so usually it's a recommended planned section but I really don't want that. There's no reason why I can't give birth naturally. Ds1 was an ecs at 30 weeks (6 weeks away!!) due to severe PET. Ds2 my waters went after a very rough internal at 40 weeks & I didn't progress past 2cm after 36 hours. It's always risky isn't it but the stats show that there's a higher risk of rupture with a first time mum being induced chemically than with a vbac or vba2c where the mum has gone into labour on her own. I totally recommend the VBAC book if you haven't already read it. Btw, did you get your clomid purely for swaying? How will you go about getting it again? Just curious! My box expires when ds3 will be 10/11 months old & I usually don't get ppaf until 8 months pp. It's cutting it fine & I would prefer a bigger age gap really.

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[Dreamofpink]

Has anyone else been having mild period like pains on & off plus a lot of pressure down low at times too? I've never experienced BH before but it would be lovely to get them this time around, although maybe not this early. I'm only 23w4d!

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[meeks32]

Has anyone else been having mild period like pains on & off plus a lot of pressure down low at times too? I've never experienced BH before but it would be lovely to get them this time around, although maybe not this early. I'm only 23w4d!

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Is your bump going hard at the same time as the period like pain? If so, thats braxton hicks. I got them super early with ds1 and 2, way before 23w, so dont worry if its safe (of course if it gets painful, or worse, or too close together you need to get checked). Mine were often painless, and I would notice because my belly went hard and I had a hot flush! Sometimes they came with very mild period pain. They often happened every 10 mins for an hour or two. Apparently you have more if you are doing too much or not drinking enough so make sure you keep fluids up (pretty much nothing you can do about being busy third time around, is there!!??).

They are usually considered quite useful for preparing the body for labour. Not in my case, unfortunately, since I ended in emergency caserian after 48hrs active labour with ds1 & 1.5hrs pushing, and he wrecked so much ds2 and this one have to be caesarian. BUT I still believe they are good for you!

[meeks32]

Gecon I totally dont think anyone would take offence. Em said it nicely, the good thing about the ladies here is we truly and perhaps uniquely understand GD, and embrace any reaction as normal and acceptable!! You are definitely not offending anyone, you do whats right for you.

Ladybugs I spent a week thinking I had a boy at 11-12 weeks, then at 12 weeks it morphed into a girl nub and now I don't know what to think. At least you will be put out of your misery by a definitive test result. Even at my next scan at 15w I wont have all the answers beyond doubt (unless there is a mega man package on display). I really wouldn't get too worked up about an 11w nub (HELLO POT CALLING KETTLE BLACK, totally what I did too!) because logically we all know 11w is too early to be a reliable nub. Emotionally of course, we go to town anyway dont we!!

[meeks32]

EM - WHAT HAPPENED???

[I Love Ladybugs]

Gecon I totally dont think anyone would take offence. Em said it nicely, the good thing about the ladies here is we truly and perhaps uniquely understand GD, and embrace any reaction as normal and acceptable!! You are definitely not offending anyone, you do whats right for you.

Ladybugs I spent a week thinking I had a boy at 11-12 weeks, then at 12 weeks it morphed into a girl nub and now I don't know what to think. At least you will be put out of your misery by a definitive test result. Even at my next scan at 15w I wont have all the answers beyond doubt (unless there is a mega man package on display). I really wouldn't get too worked up about an 11w nub (HELLO POT CALLING KETTLE BLACK, totally what I did too!) because logically we all know 11w is too early to be a reliable nub. Emotionally of course, we go to town anyway dont we!!

You mean Myrainbowgirl? or me I am going to know things in about 24 hours..with everything and hopefully have a plan