if you had ONLY your DG, would you still sway the opposite?

[aidansmum]

Definitely! I always wanted a mixed family. To me it's not about favouring girls over boys, it's just that I haven't got one and if I only had girls, I would be dying for a little boy.

[1+2+3boys]

Definitely. If I had girls then my Desired gender would be boy. I always wanted three and to have two boys then a girl. I was a tomboy so know I would have felt sad not having a son. I always strongly wanted to raise both genders too. The way I see it is I am putting so much into being a Mum that at the same time I want to experience the full possible range of Motherhood. I feel like I am missing out on some things not having a daughter so certainly would feel the same if it were vice versa. I hope that doesn't make me sound selfish but I want to get as mush as possible back from being a Mum too because being a Mum is my life and although I may one day have close relationships with my adult sons I can't garentee that they will want to go shopping with me and I can certainly garentee they won't be able to talk about their pregnancies with me!

In saying that though I do not know for sure because my step sons may have been enough, I am enjoying playing soccar with them so much right now. I love being a Mum and my gender desire has toned down alot lately

[hotdogz&boyz]

Yup, absolutely. Much like Atomic, I really wanted my first to be a boy. Really, really. I was thrilled when my gut feeling was right and they told us boy at 13 weeks. Much like people in here obsess about nubs changing, I was very scared his willy would fall off and he would be a girl at 20 weeks.

For me, it was always just about having both experiences. I never really considered that I wouldn't get one of each, since we wanted four. It was only after my gut feeling was wrong with #2 and I realized that I had no guarantee of having a daughter even if I did have four (and around the same time my cousin found out he was expecting his fourth son...from different women, but still).

I actually think my GD would have been worse if I had two daughters first. Not only did I really want a son, but I also wanted brothers. So I would have felt even more pressure to get a boy for #3 (and probably #4 too).

[atomic sagebrush]

^^me too. I think I would have had terrible GD if I had no boys and I also really wanted brothers my same age, I have a much younger brother but I wanted more of a friend/protector - which I really do have in my adult sons.

[odd]

absolutely! I kept saying during my pregnancy that if this one's not a boy, I'll be terribly disspointed - thankfully, it was. Had he not been a boy, I'd have def. swayed for one

[1+2+3boys]

I really really wanted my first to be a boy too (maybe partly because DPs boys were so handsome) and just knew he was for some reason and was super stoalked to get what I wanted.
If there is a lesson to be learned like those who say they were scared to have boys but glad they did to bust the myth of stereotypes then I am scared that my lesson will be I can't always get what I want. What I want is both genders. I know I will be O.K in the end if I don't but it will take alot for me to be able to accept it.

[sbowman]

I really really wanted my first to be a boy too (maybe partly because DPs boys were so handsome) and just knew he was for some reason and was super stoalked to get what I wanted.
If there is a lesson to be learned like those who say they were scared to have boys but glad they did to bust the myth of stereotypes then I am scared that my lesson will be I can't always get what I want. What I want is both genders. I know I will be O.K in the end if I don't but it will take alot for me to be able to accept it.

But there are so many people that do get what they want though. It bothers me (I know it shouldn't but...). Like my friend just found out she's having DD2 and she said as her status, God is so good, he blessed us with another girl! And she said later that she wouldn't know what to do with a boy...same thing you do with a girl LOL. Love him and take care of him?! Ugh.


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[XXPlease]

sbowman I also get really bothered when people just straight up get what they want like my husbands aunt she only wanted girls 3 of them to be exact and what did she get only girls I always wonder how people like that can get what they want and not be stuck with 3 boys instead I always knew I wanted both but I honestly don't think if I had to girls instead of two boys my desire would be as strong for a boy as I currently have for a girl I always knew I wanted at least one daughter and I really hope to get her this go around!!

[Almost Complete]

Not me. I always wanted girls, envied sisters, and my DH preferred a DD originally. He would not feel the need for a DS and wants as few children as I will be satisfied with, so no.

I am still taking care of my adult brothers, very close in ge to myself, yet not fully grown up. They mooch dinner off me regularly, call for dating advice, rile up the kids, and seek help with home improvements etc. I think they'd say I'm one heck of a boy mom, but holy cow... After all that I want a pedi partner! Yes, I realize that is a very sexist comment. Here's hoping' my DD is as girly as I am!

[hoping4agirl2014]

If i had girls first, I think Dh would have wanted to try for a boy to carry his name own, but i think he would have been more on board about swaying with number three versuses number 5.

With my first pregnancy I didn't care. I always wanted a girl but loved the idea if just having a healthy baby. I never thought anything about not having both sexes because my parents had boy, girl, boy, girl. After having DS2 I noticed how much having a girl would mean to me. I saw friends with their DD and I felt the twinge of jealousy. I am so grateful for each of my sons because each of them teach me something about myself on a daily bases. I know I can do many things with my sons but there are things that a mother and daughter as well as a father and daughter can share that can't be shared with only boys. I think that if I would have received my little girl as a 2nd, 3rd, or 4th child, I would not have the children that I do have.

I know I will be ok if I had another boy but I think I would still fill a slight pain when walking little girl clothes and toys, as well as prom dresses and wedding dresses.


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