Dreaming Pink Due Date Group: TTC and Beyond #2

[Tree]

So close Charlee, good luck!!

[GeCon]

Sorry ladies, but I really need to rant.

As you know we have decided on a name for a while now and are happy with our choice and have started calling the wee man by his name. Well, my parents asked about the name the other day and although I didn't want to tell at first, we decided to tell them. Also because I was worried DS1 might slip up and I didn't want to make him keep it a secret.

So today my mum rings and small talks 1st before telling me that my stepdad knows someone with that name and is that the only one we have on our list and bla, bla, bla. I am so pissed off. I am sitting here in tears, I could never believe that this could or would actually happen with my family. I heard other people's stories before and always thought this wouldn't happen to us. I feel like they have now ruined our excitement about the name. I tried to keep it together on the phone, but now I am really upset and angry about it. I asked her on the phone if they want to make a list for us with their top 10 names. And then I said "And while you are at it, why don't you also include your top 10 girls' names for the girl it could have been?". Because just after we told them it was going to be another little boy, my stepdad replied that he wouldn't have minded a little girl, to which I replied "Well, it is not a Music Request Show, you know?".

Sooo, sooo angry and upset just now...

[bunnywabbit]

I fell on the ice yesterday afternoon....and am paying the price today!!! My legs, hips and belly all hurt, but she has been moving decently and there is no bleeding. It sucks that this is the last weekend for the hubby to work...I am hoping that I can move a little bit easier tomorrow!

Oh no! I'm so sorry! I'm glad you're still feeling baby, but still what a shock. I hope all is well and you're better soon. I hate snow and ice anyway, but am absolutely petrified about falling over this year - almost heading into phobia territory. Really hoping I don't fall this year. DH has been a sweetie and said I'm to not go anywhere without him being there just in case, and we'll be booking cabs to and from work, etc. but I can fall stepping out of a cab onto ice too. So scared. Pleeeeease get me through this winter.

[bunnywabbit]

Sorry ladies, but I really need to rant.

As you know we have decided on a name for a while now and are happy with our choice and have started calling the wee man by his name. Well, my parents asked about the name the other day and although I didn't want to tell at first, we decided to tell them. Also because I was worried DS1 might slip up and I didn't want to make him keep it a secret.

So today my mum rings and small talks 1st before telling me that my stepdad knows someone with that name and is that the only one we have on our list and bla, bla, bla. I am so pissed off. I am sitting here in tears, I could never believe that this could or would actually happen with my family. I heard other people's stories before and always thought this wouldn't happen to us. I feel like they have now ruined our excitement about the name. I tried to keep it together on the phone, but now I am really upset and angry about it. I asked her on the phone if they want to make a list for us with their top 10 names. And then I said "And while you are at it, why don't you also include your top 10 girls' names for the girl it could have been?". Because just after we told them it was going to be another little boy, my stepdad replied that he wouldn't have minded a little girl, to which I replied "Well, it is not a Music Request Show, you know?".

Sooo, sooo angry and upset just now...

I'm so sorry, Gecon. Such a shame people don't stop to think of the impact their actions have on others. It may be small beans to them, but it clearly could effect you and your family. Part of the reason I'm keeping this pregnancy very private - I've mentioned it to management at work (health & safety) and quite literally three close (quiet!) friends and immediate family. My DM has said she'll say nothing, which I believe - she saw how upset I got last time. MiL, OTOH is asking for every last detail - when my appointments are, did I pee in a pot, what the midwife had to say, the lot. I'm keeping information as vague as possible and don't offer extra information. She's even making plans as to when she sees fit to tell everyone she's going to be a grandmother, which, I can understand she's excited, but a *lot* can go wrong in a short time - I haven't even made it to my 12 week scan yet!

I know the damage is done, but try to hang in there - not long now, then everyone will have to step off and stop with their assumptions and negativity - you'll have another precious LO to love and worry about.

[GeCon]

You are right, Bunny. You know the thing is I read about these type of family dilemmas from others online before, but I never really thought that this could be an issue for us. I just wish we hadn't bothered telling anyone until LO is here as by then it is too late and rather tactless (although I think it was already tactless at this stage) to comment on the name choice and they would have probably kept their trap shut.

[I Love Ladybugs]

Gecon...BTDT, actually my hubby is the one who shared our boy and girl names with his dad when I was 16 weeks preggo with my team green pregnancy of DS1. The FIL had the nerve to call up until 36 weeks along about how awful our boy name was...but I am glad I did not allow him to get to me, as I still love the name we chose!! (((hugs)))

Bunnywabbit...I hope you don't fall....I hurt like crazy!!! And know that I need to take it easy tonight!!

[Pumpkin2011]

Ladybugs what a shock! I hope you and your little one are ok. Hopefully the pain will be gone before your princess decides to make her debut, giving birth is painful enough, isn't it?!

GeCon that's why we decided not to tell too much about this pregnancy. When we announced the name we have chosen for DS my FIL was not okay with it and told us he had another name for him. Up until today he calls DS by the name HE has chosen but finally DS is old enough to tell him what he thinks. As some of you know DH's family is from irak and my MIL already suggested me a few girl names. She always dreamed of a girl but since she has 3 DS's she didn't get to use the names and is now hoping we will. I am very sorry to say that but I would even use those names for my dog!!

We also decided to find out gender but to keep it to ourself. Our family was really pissed about it whereas our closest friends were great. My best friend said she is fine with every decision I make because she knows there are reasons for it. We didn't want to announce the pregnancy before week 13 which would be the week of Christmas but it already is more than obvious that I am pregnant. I already started to show plus the bloating I look like 5 months pregnant.

Bunny and TTC how are you guys feeling?

[GeCon]

Pumpkin, you made me laugh out loud about you not even using her girl names for a dog. So does that mean you won't tell anyone the gender or are you going to tell us? There is no way I could wait until the birth of the little pumpkins....

Ladybugs, thanks for encouraging me to stick to our choice.

Bunny, have you thought about getting yourself some spikes or chains for your shoes? I bought some for this year as I am also very worried about falling especially at such a late stage in pregnancy. I bought these: http://www.amazon.co.uk/RUD-shoechai...ud+shoe+chains

But try not to worry too much, Bunny. At the stage you're at at the moment, your little one is thankfully still very small and really well protected inside you.

[I Love Ladybugs]

Pumpkin.....I feel that she is ok, and that I am on the mend! My bottom is feeling the bruising and the muscles in the one leg are regretting hills and ice!
You are going to have to tell us what MIL wanted for her daughters name.....I have to laugh about not wanting to name a dog even with the names!!! It has been so much fun to keep my baby girl's name under wraps....I know that it is a good name for her and I really don't want anyone to spoil it for me.

Gecon....just dismiss what you have heard them say..I know this is easier said than done, but your wee one and your family get to love on the baby and name!

Charlee....one last belly pic???? I need to figure out what is going to bring labour on....I thought that a giant bruise on my bum would do the trick. Sending you fantastic induction vibes!!!!!

[GeCon]

And Charlee, if I don't speak to you before, all the Best and good labour vibes for Tuesday. Can't wait to see pictures of your new arrival.

Ladybugs, I seem to have missed the post about you falling. I hope you recover quickly. Can't believe you are so close too. Our LO was born 38+3, so I guess your wee lady could be here anytime soon too.