JUNE/JULY/AUGUST 2014 DUE DATE CLUB- THREAD #2

[maybebabythree]

Hello girls can I join you?

I am expecting my fourth after six years of wanting a dd and was on ig back before GD came into existence. I swayed hardcore for two years to get my ds who turned two yesterday. I to cried when I had my 20 week scan. Hard hard times.

I got a plan from atomic about a year ago but didn't sway this time :0/ due on the 17th of August and I have been following you all and lerking since I got my bfp!

[Little Lunasa]

Hello girls can I join you?

I am expecting my fourth after six years of wanting a dd and was on ig back before GD came into existence. I swayed hardcore for two years to get my ds who turned two yesterday. I to cried when I had my 20 week scan. Hard hard times.

I got a plan from atomic about a year ago but didn't sway this time :0/ due on the 17th of August and I have been following you all and lerking since I got my bfp!

Hi and welcome!


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[snipsnsnails]

Don't say guaranteed. With HT there is NO guarantee. Look at me!
Yes, If you have "normal" xx embryos and if they implant and if you give birth and don't miscarry - then yes, you'll have a girl.
But there is a loooooooong if-y road before that happens. I tell everyone, and in both my experience and many many others - if you can't afford to do ht at least 2x - then I would not recommend it at all. The 1st one is always nearly a trial with you to begin with. Your doctor is not going to know how you will respond to the stims and therefore be very conservative. Many and most do not have success with try #1.
I thought because I was young and could get pg so easily on my own that going ht would be a for sure thing. There was no way I ever imagined it wouldn't work and I could possibly have a boy - after ds3 I knew my 4th would be a girl because I was going ht. But as you can see that just was not so.
Just because you are healthy and get pg on your own, does not mean you will have good embryos going ht.
It really a hard hard road - I can't even begin to explain. And I would talk to someone who's walked down it and really really know what you are walking into before beginning that journey because it can be utterly heartbreaking.

I am so glad you wrote this post and I agree 100%! After I had Ds 3 I never really had gd because we decided I would probably do ht and guarantee to get my girl. It was good I was in that mind set so I could enjoy my baby boy and really enjoyed him. Once he was 20 months I researched ivf and started the appts, etc. my re thought it would work no problems because I was fertile myrtle. Well as we know I've has nothing to do with natural fertility and after 2 rounds and 8 months later I still had no dd. it was such a hard emotional process. I wish those luck that want to try but I knew I was done after the second transfer.

[carameline]

Hello girls can I join you?

I am expecting my fourth after six years of wanting a dd and was on ig back before GD came into existence. I swayed hardcore for two years to get my ds who turned two yesterday. I to cried when I had my 20 week scan. Hard hard times.

I got a plan from atomic about a year ago but didn't sway this time :0/ due on the 17th of August and I have been following you all and lerking since I got my bfp!

Welcome maybebaby!

[GreaseMonkey]

Hello girls can I join you?

I am expecting my fourth after six years of wanting a dd and was on ig back before GD came into existence. I swayed hardcore for two years to get my ds who turned two yesterday. I to cried when I had my 20 week scan. Hard hard times.

I got a plan from atomic about a year ago but didn't sway this time :0/ due on the 17th of August and I have been following you all and lerking since I got my bfp!

Congrats honey, I remember you from IG Welcome, I am due on the 19th

[menlc611]

Just wondered is everyone now done having kids since most of us are on number 4? We are done but I must say it is still sad to think this chapter is going to be over for me. I know once she is here it's going to fly by....

We are done after this baby (#4).. It's definitely bittersweet!!!

[menlc611]

I have a question, do your little girls move less than the boys? I am 20 weeks now and even though I feel a few flutters and stirring, my boys were more active in the tummy, or is it still too soon to feel the real knee/elbow push? I can't remember. It just worries me sometimes cause she seems to be so quiet! I use a doppler everyday to hear her heartbeat, so I know she must be fine, but it worries me not having a little contortionist in there like my last boy was (the other 2 I can't remember much, too long ago).

I feel like my girl moves twice as much as my boys.. They say at this stage babies sleep 14+ hours a day, but I swear I feel her ALL the time.. She even wakes me up at night moving so much.. Do you know if your placenta is posterior or anterior? That makes a difference!

I should also mention I'm 22w 3d so her movements are much more noticeable

[maybebabythree]

I am going to be 40 next month. Because of my age, I have had three kids, I have had pre eclampsia and both mum and dad had dvts I might have to go on blood thinning injections! I have been broody since I had my first child ten years ago - but that news honestly killed all broody feelings.

I hope to god this is my last and I long for the 'never again, I'm complete' feeling

[prayforprincess]

Thanks for posting this.. It is so true..
I did it once and it didn't work.. It was such a heartbreaking experience that I said I would never do it again.. And here I am pregnant with my third boy already thinking about going for it again... Part of me feels so scared and part of me just thinks we will just go into it with calm clear heart and see what happens .. The first time I went in just like you mention.. I thought it was a done deal.. And after going through it I really have a place in my heart for all the women going through infertility.. It was one of the most heartbreaking experiences ever.

Anyways this was a good reminder of just how tuff that road can be and with god having a part always... Even high tech is an act of god gracing you with a miracle of you get your chosen gender...


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HT..I don't want to say its addictive, because every time you go threw it and it fails you swear you'll never do it again because the pain is just so severe emotionally, financially, even on your body.
But yet I kept going because I was like "if I just do it one more time it has to work". For me it never did. And the real blow was my final time when the doctor called me before my transfer to tell me that I didn't even have any healthy females to transfer and asked if I still wanted to come in. I chose not to. It was the day of my son's huge 7th birthday party at the house where all our family and friends were coming over and I sat in the bathroom half the day and cried my eyes out. I just felt so defeated, it was over for me. And more than that -- I have 9 embryos fertilized, 3 normals males and 6 abnormal males...they were all boys!! I just knew ht would never work for me and how many times was I going to try over and over and waist sooooo much money. There came a point where I had to say "stop" and be done because it was emotionally tearing me apart and draining our finances (we spent over $60k!). But to say stop I knew that chances were if I had a baby on my own again it would probably be a boy. If I couldn't get a girl ht then what was my chances of ever conceiving one naturally?
I cried and cried at the thought of how difficult it was going to be to start giving up my dream of a daughter and imagining life without one.
I'm in tears just writing this now....

[prayforprincess]

Eeek... getting more nervous as the days go by. I'm getting all caught up in old wives tales(which I know are supposed to be a load of rubbish but can't help stressing about them)- my bump is VERY low and in front, and i prefer savoury to sweet, both of which are 'boy' signs. I'm eager for Sunday, but at the same times kind of dont want to go! I don't want to feel the way I did after ds3's scan

I'm so terrified to feel that way to on Sunday. But with everything I've been through I think I'll be ok either way. I've begun the whole process of mourning the loss of the daughter I will probably never have a couple years ago. And slowly over all this time I have begun accepting the idea that I might never have a daughter and am expecting a 4th boy. So hopefully if I hear "boy" it won't be such a shock or downer. Of course I wish with all my heart its a girl - you have no idea (although on this board you all kinda do) -- but I've had time to prepare myself.
I know how terrified you are though, as much as you can emotionally be prepared its still hurtful giving up a dream for good, and there is something to be said for "its final now and there is no next time", you know?
I just hope no matter what, we all come to peace with our outcomes...