Begonia's Boy Sway

[gizmo77]

I agree on the neutral clothes Spicy - there's nothing cuter than a newborn in a white sleepsuit

esply when old ppl say ohh look at that boy! (when its a girl) or vice versa. actually even if they are wearing pink some ppl still called some of my kids boys.
thanks for sharing your story. that just breaks my heart reading it!! i cant imagine going thru it. good for you guys for coming out strong and healthy!

[zanacal]

Thank you gizmo, it took a long time to feel better about and having another baby was definitely very healing. DH would never, ever agree to another homebirth though! You're right about the white sleepsuit too - add pink or blue hat as appropriate (and still have people say the opposite)!

[DoulaMama]

What a great story there DM, that totally helps me out so thank you for sharing! I have a total crush on the ladies in this forum, for real ... such a great place for support.

I have to stay strong on this surprise thing because it really does sound worth it in the end

You're welcome It gets easier too...(the not knowing part, that is) so by the time you're 25 weeks I found that I had come so far NOT knowing that I didn't want to ruin the surprise at that time. I don't think you'll regret it B

Z- I'm so sorry that things went badly at your birth Some babies are slow starters and from the research I've done so far, your little guy may have done the same thing at the hospital as he did at home. If the midwives were experienced they should have handled it exactly like the OB's would have. Did they find a reason why he was so slow to start? Was there cord issues or slow descent? I hope the questions don't bother you~ If it's painful to think about, please forgive me. ((HUGS)) So happy that you came through it ok and that you're planning on TTC again

[LolaInLove]

For me I know for sure this is our last one, so it is my (and DH's) last chance to ever have the experience of a surprise at birth.

This is EXACTLY why I flirt with the idea myself. I am all about experiences in life. And I absolutely fell in love with your story, DM!

[LolaInLove]

we dtd 9 times daily to conceive her

HOLY VAGINA! That is impressive, Spicy!

[DoulaMama]

HOLY VAGINA! That is impressive, Spicy!

OMG I'm seriously LMAO over here! I have to use that expression one day! HAHAHAHA!

And xo about the story I can't imagine ever finding out again just based on how amazing those first moments were with my new baby. I was so ecstatic that I honestly forgot to look to see what "it" was

[LolaInLove]

OMG I'm seriously LMAO over here! I have to use that expression one day! HAHAHAHA!

And xo about the story I can't imagine ever finding out again just based on how amazing those first moments were with my new baby. I was so ecstatic that I honestly forgot to look to see what "it" was

I mean, my cooch would be in shambles! I am actually more impressed with Spicy's DH, LOL!

Sigh, I do love the surprise stories.....Begonia will know what I am talking about....an old blue crew member just had her boy, a surprise (Frogs) and she wrote that it was one of the best moments of her life and her DH's reaction was priceless. I would love to have that experience. I loved also that you didn't look between the legs for a few minutes, that is too sweet!

[zanacal]

Z- I'm so sorry that things went badly at your birth Some babies are slow starters and from the research I've done so far, your little guy may have done the same thing at the hospital as he did at home. If the midwives were experienced they should have handled it exactly like the OB's would have. Did they find a reason why he was so slow to start? Was there cord issues or slow descent? I hope the questions don't bother you~ If it's painful to think about, please forgive me. ((HUGS)) So happy that you came through it ok and that you're planning on TTC again

I don't mind at all DM. I agree that things would have been the same even if we'd been in hospital, in fact I think it could even have been worse because I may have been tempted by more drugs - and if DS2 was always going to be sleepy then something like pethidine would have made it even worse. I'd never use drugs except gas and air in labour now.

All my babies were posterior once I was in labour (even if they weren't beforehand!) and DS2 was bigger than the others and took a long time to turn and descend. I was pushing for 2 hours in a standing squat - until DH suggested I kneel down instead! My muscles turned to jelly afterwards and it was hours before I could even walk. Also, the midwife had her arm up me (like a cow!) helping him to turn and afterwards I wondered whether that had caused the problem but we'll never know so I finally laid that to rest.

Even though I believe it would have been the same had we been in hospital, we don't live close. I had to deliver the placenta incredibly quickly and ride in an ambulance for 40 minutes with my insides hanging out - not pleasant! I'll never forget the looks on DH's and mum's faces as they closed the ambulance doors because they thought DS2 would die. DH has hardly even spoken about that day but when he has he's admitted that he was terrified driving to the hospital because he didn't know whether our baby was alive so when I suggested a 3rd baby it was his condition that it would be in hospital and not at home.

I still get sad when people talk about their wonderful homebirths because I was robbed! I absolutely believe in a woman's ability to birth naturally and so I focus on the positives of a hospital birth instead, avoid as much intervention as possible and make my wishes very clear. We're lucky in this country that this is what's encouraged these days and that the hospitals in my area are very good. DH and I were on our own in a private room for the majority of the time leading up to DS3's delivery so we were able to turn the lights down, play some music, take a bath and relax (as far as possible with a back to back baby - again!). It would be completely chaotic at home now in our tiny living room with the 3 boys hanging around so I'm actually ok with this!

Sorry to gatecrash begonia

[LolaInLove]

Zan, you are a warrior! That's all I can say.

[zanacal]

Zan, you are a warrior! That's all I can say.

Ha ha, definitely not! I'm a big baby when I'm in labour - with DS3 I cried when the midwife said the birthing pool wasn't free, I nearly killed DH because he wasn't passing me the gas & air quick enough and he laughed when the mouthpiece fell off, I asked for an epidural right before I started pushing (and DH was brave enough to remind me that that's not what I wanted!). I have to write it all down beforehand while I'm still in my right mind because I fall apart at the first contraction and oh, how I wish I could labour quietly! I took hypnobirthing classes last time around but they went right out the window