Some thoughts on OCD

[hopper]

My SIL finds out tomorrow what she is having! She is anti-girl (I had a girl first) I feel she will have a boy and that's all she 'll talk about! I thought I wanted to get it over and just know, but since the day is tomorrow, I am dreading the lifetime of comments that she will have regarding girls!

That is too bad on the Frozen merchandise! My kiddos are still too young for me to realize things like that, but I could see how that would be frustrating. I do have a close friend who has triplet boys and the LOVE princesses, they are 5 and she just let's them roll with it, they even own princess dresses. It is literally the coolest thing, because she doesn't limit her boys to male only toys, and I think its super cool she let's them be them and doesn't put limitations, which I think is sometimes harder for boys.

I don't understand how people can be so against a particular gender! the mind boggles!!!! Our in laws sound very similar!! I just learnt to have selective hearing when shes within earshot

I LOVE your friend!!! I don't buy only boy toys for my guys, my eldest has Sofia the First and Frozen characters and they are his most used toys by a mile! He has an imaginext lions den castle and has the little princess figures "fighting" over who owns the castle lol. Cuteness!! I mainly meant the lack of Frozen clothes for boys, they could have released t=shirts with Anna and Elsa on them in more boyish colours. Everything is pink and although I have no issue buying girl toys for my little guys I do draw the line at super girly clothes. That being said my eldest has been known to tie a blanket around his waist and prance around singing "I'm so pwretty!" lol, hes totally my Disney baby! His must do on our next trip is to meet Belle!

[atomic sagebrush]

My boys also love Sofia, Tangled, and Frozen. All of my boys except one went through a period of absolute OBSESSION with Snow White and my 3rd and 4th, I actually found a Snow White + Dwarves shirt and they wore it all the time (even though it was girly, they didn't know)

[1+2+3boys]

We buy 'girls toys' too. My DS1 who is 5 on Monday is so blissfully unaware of any gendered rolls. He wont be starting school until term 1 next year but I worry about other kids 'spoiling' my lovely boy. If he is anything like me though he wont care, FX.

That is interesting to hear Maiden to Mother, I also have a few friends with 'things'. I have always found it easy to relate to other people and be non-judgementel and I guess I find them interesting and am drawn to them.

I just pray so hard that none of my boys will have ADHD. My Birth Mum has it and so does her middle son my half Brother and he exhausts her and his siblings suffer quite a bit from how exasperating he is. DS1 I think is definitely in the clear and Maybe the twins but almost three is too young to tell for sure. My gut for now says no. I bet it will be my girl if I get her but at least I will know how to help her earlier instead of her struggling through life like I had to for so long without answers and with so much judgement.

I have been meaning to take a Month off the net as it is my main form of distraction. So TTFN

[BrightSky]

Some of my favourite toys growing up were my brothers he-man figures and Lego!

[atomic sagebrush]

Me too. I had ONE set of Legos and I played the heck out of it.

[hopper]

Me too. I had ONE set of Legos and I played the heck out of it.

I think I get better fun out of my son's Legos than he does lol! Takes me back to when I used to "borrow" my older male cousins cooler Lego. My mother would find bits of it stashed in my pocket after coming home from his house lol. She insisted on buying Barbies for me and my younger sister but I had zero interest!!

[atomic sagebrush]

my husband and I were just talking about how few toys we had compared to our kids!! We had like a fraction of them and yet seemed to play with them more. My kids ignore their toys and jump on my couch all day. :/

[gizmo77]

From day one I tried to be non gender specific esply with toys. If there were no neutral clothes I'd end up buying a pair of boys shoes or pants (also bc I hoped I'd eventually have a boy.. And I could pass it down). All their initial pink clothes were from relatives. Then the 1st one started school and all my hard work went down the drain. :-(

[atomic sagebrush]

^^^ This is unfortunately very true. Even the commercials on TV just send the message loud and clear. We don't have TV right now (kids watch videos and stuff but no TV shows) and then I went to my MIL's house and I nearly died watching the commercials and how bad they were. I had totally forgotten, I guess.

[maidentomother]

I'm hoping by not having TV, any toys other than books and by homeschooling likely until high school that I can avoid a lot of these external factors including traditional gender roles. Doable? Any tips?