Jan 2016 TTC / Testing - New Year BFPs!

[XXforhubby]

I have missed the e4d rule, what is this either please explain or copy the link for it for me please

BD every 4 days, unprotected, from the end of AF until the latest you ever have ovulated. No need for opks because it is still only having one attempt in your fertile window.


DS1[emoji125]🏼, DS2[emoji577], & DS3[emoji602] completes our family [emoji170]!

[twointow83]

Maiden- If I knew the person well... not necessarily besties but well enough I'd consider it... but she'd have to approach me and me alone first, because it really doesn't matter what hubby thinks if I am not on board. BUT I think it's important to mention that I have struggled with infertility and have had many friends struggle even more. I know ppl who have been TTC for over a decade, tried IVF and all and still have no baby SO I think that makes me unusually open to helping others start their family. In my case, I kinda think similar to you in that I'd never be okay with DH being an anonymous donor and knowing he may have kids somewhere that we don't know about and can have nothing to do with their lives.

Bottom line, the others are probably better ones to get advice from in this instance but if you decide to go ahead I would approach the wife alone first to help show you aren't trying to be sly and that you are respecting her feelings and marriage. Even better would be to not come out and ask at all, but rather slip it into a conversation where it feels natural (like when talking about kids) that you are trying to have one of your own and seeking a known donor but having a hard time finding an ideal donor. No more than that. Let that settle in and see what there reaction is. If favorable then you could consider approaching the wife. But as I said, the other's advice might be the better option... I view things a bit differently than most :/

[maidentomother]

In addition to what XX said, if you want to be 100% sure you don't miss O you can BD all cycle long, not just once or twice after you think you Oed. It's good for sperm health too.

two, thanks so much, I think just mentioning my need for/use of a sperm donor in the context of a larger conversation is a great suggestion. And I wouldn't have likely thought of that bc I automatically approach things as directly as possible. Subtlety is so not my forte. I will feel her out and keep your idea in mind next time I see her. She may know a single guy who wants kids andmI'm open to any suggestions so it could be a success regardless. It's not like I have a burning desire for just this man's sperm or anything like that!

[momamia4]

Maiden, I agree with Two. I would approach the wife individually before even mentioning it to the husband. I would be willing to consider it also, but I also have experience with infertility via my sister and SIL. I actually offered them both to use my uterus and eggs. I'd be open to my husband helping out someone ttc but I might be jaded too. LOL! My other sister is looking for an anonymous sperm donor. I offered my DH's, but she thought it would be weird. You don't sound like you'd be super upset if they turned you down though, so that helps. FX it works out for you!

Hi ladies! I'm back ttc again this cycle. I'm on cd8 and tonight is my last dose of 50mg clomid. This will be our 10th cycle ttc. It's so disheartening. I took a break from the clomid. I've never had problems ttc in the past and after my miscarriage at the beginning on September, I thought that we should try naturally for a while. Well, I didn't get pregnant. So, here we are again with the clomid. I hate the way clomid makes me feel. This cycle has been really difficult emotionally for me, so I really hope this cycle is successful. I guess we are having an extremely loose sway. I've been on a loose pcos version of the LE diet for a year now. I'd like to say that I'm super sick of it, but it's second nature now. I find myself choosing chicken over red meat all the time (I used to never eat chicken. Like literally never). We'll be having tons of attempts because I'm at the point that I just want to be preggo. I'm thinking like every day from tonight until cd22. That's how I got pregnant in July (my September m/c) Sorry for rambling! I'm glad to be back but hope it's a short stay. Good luck to everyone!

[Girlieplease]

Maiden poor you having to find a donor on top of all this tccc stuff, that is stressful! I really like two idea of dropping it into the conversation, it could let you suss them out but also as you suggest they may know someone else. If you plan to ask them directly I would be on the side of asking them at the same time, so nothing is lost in translation so to speak, with one of them hearing second hand and increased possibility of miss communication and misinterpretation!
Excited for the ladies attempting at the minute x

[Blue Bear]

Welcome to the conversation momamia! Fun to see everyone starting to try again! Quinn - sorry for AF symptoms - I was guessing you were going to be our first positive of the month!

[essnce629]

So this morning I woke up super sick and even threw up so I got excited and decided to test today at 9dpo. BFN with a FRER. I ended up with diarrhea and now body aches and a low 100 degree fever so I think I've just come down with a stomach bug! All I've eaten the entire day is a string cheese, applesauce, and Gatorade! Blah!

[ksmom]

Only in the TWW would we get excited about throwing up. So sorry you're not feeling well Essnce! Tummy bugs are no fun.

[yarranabbe]

Hi ladies, hope I can join you all. I am 3dpo and have suspect sore nipples �� I'm sure it's too soon of course! It wasn't a great month to fall pg as I had a week of cheating on holidays eeeek

Essnce - you poor thing! I hope it's just a 24 hour bug

[purple]

Hi yarranabbe, I'm 1 or 2dpo so not far behind you. I always get sore nipples for the first few days after ovulation, its one of the signs that helps me know I have ovulated so it is handy

Essnce - I hope you feel better soon!

Momamia - welcome back, hopefully you won't be back here for long and you get another BFP soon.