Due Sept/Oct/Nov 2016

[Gagirl0221]

I'm right there with you. Well I'm having my 3rd girl and felt I did everything right. I have come to think luck of the draw is a huge part of it. Maybe we can do a small part to help but whichever one gets there first, wins. We only know one family with all girls so I've done a lot of angry comparing. I'm still sad, 3 weeks after find out. I think even when my daughter is here and I'm loving all of them, a part of me will always miss not having a son (especially for my dh). It really has nothing to do with our love for our girls because we know how much we will love and cherish them. It's the loss of the son we dared to hope we might have.

I'm happy to hear you have a healthy girl and I hope everyone is excited and kind to you.

Thank you Quinn. Yes your exactly right. It is the loss of a son. I wanted to give my husband a son so bad. He seems ok with it but I feel like deep down he hides it. We love all of our girls the same and are truly blessed. I just know that this was my last shot at having a BOY of our own. So it's very hard to swallow but I will be fine. I'm glad that I have I have others on this site that understands bc others look at me like I'm mean bc to them it's like I don't want this baby which is very wrong bc I planned them all. I can't control my emotions I wish I could. I'm like you I look at all of our friends around us and compare when I should not. I look at it as if I was not meant for boys or maybe I could not carry one. I would rather have a healthy girl then to have a boy with something wrong with him. So in my mind that's what I tell myself. This is GODs plan and I can't change it. I guess we all still can have a lil hope until the baby is born. I'm glad you could relate to me. I'm sorry to you also that you did not get to have a son yourself I pray though for you to have a healthy lil girl.

[Gagirl0221]

I'm sooo sorry Gagirl0221. The sadness is why I wanted to wait also but then I also didn't want to be sad when I finally met my baby. Hopefully, this will give you time to heal and come to terms.


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Yes I will be fine soon i may not ever understand why I can't have a son of my own but have to except there's a reason. Thank you for understanding.

[Gagirl0221]

I'm sorry gagirl. It hurts huh. I haven't found out for sure, but my nub shot could be the poster shot for a girl. It is very unlikely that I will get the gender I prefer and it does hurt. I'm sorry for your grief. My sister has four girls too and they are very happy even tho they too wished for a little boy. Now they look to the benefits and tell me they are sorry for me that I have one boy in my mix (whatever). Anyway, feel what you feel. It's completely rational to feel sad and disappointed and grief. I hope you can process it before bubs arrives.


Two girls and one boy, due October 16

Thank you! I know that I will be fine soon. I does hurt but I must except what GODs plan is for me. I may never understand it but I know I can't change it. I pray you get what you desire. Thank you for understanding.

[Blue Bear]

Gagirl do you mind if I ask how old you and your husband are? Quinn - I noticed in your profile that your DH is 45 - mine was almost 41 when we conceived our second DD in January. Just wondering how much that factors in. Quinn - I've followed some of your posts after you found out and have had the same heartbreak as you. It isn't as intense a month later but I still get sad thinking I will likely never have a son. Plus, I'm sure some of you ladies that have GD - just hearing someone is pregnant it's easy to assume right away that they are going to have your desired sex.

It just seems like we are girl makers as well - I felt like I followed the HE diet to almost a T. I wish I wouldn't have gained so much weight and lifted weights (was doing pilates instead). Gagirl and Quinn - I hear you on people's comments. They've already started - the best was one of my clients saying when I told her I was having a second daughter "That is so boring." Then she added "I hate girls." Needless to say you can kind of guess her personality. She has two teenage daughters and two sons that came later on. Another friend told me today that since my DH and his brother have girls that "isn't it ironic that they are having girls" or something to that nature. Whatever.... (and she has two sons).

Thanks for sharing on here ladies. Seems like a lot of us are getting girls overall!! Did you see from 2015 that the rate of success for boys is 57% so far? So I guess we aren't in the huge minority. Seems like the success rate had been so high in the past for boy sways - and it seemed like it was so much easier to get boys - but with our group it's looking like the opposite!

[Gagirl0221]

Gagirl do you mind if I ask how old you and your husband are? Quinn - I noticed in your profile that your DH is 45 - mine was almost 41 when we conceived our second DD in January. Just wondering how much that factors in. Quinn - I've followed some of your posts after you found out and have had the same heartbreak as you. It isn't as intense a month later but I still get sad thinking I will likely never have a son. Plus, I'm sure some of you ladies that have GD - just hearing someone is pregnant it's easy to assume right away that they are going to have your desired sex.

It just seems like we are girl makers as well - I felt like I followed the HE diet to almost a T. I wish I wouldn't have gained so much weight and lifted weights (was doing pilates instead). Gagirl and Quinn - I hear you on people's comments. They've already started - the best was one of my clients saying when I told her I was having a second daughter "That is so boring." Then she added "I hate girls." Needless to say you can kind of guess her personality. She has two teenage daughters and two sons that came later on. Another friend told me today that since my DH and his brother have girls that "isn't it ironic that they are having girls" or something to that nature. Whatever.... (and she has two sons).

Thanks for sharing on here ladies. Seems like a lot of us are getting girls overall!! Did you see from 2015 that the rate of success for boys is 57% so far? So I guess we aren't in the huge minority. Seems like the success rate had been so high in the past for boy sways - and it seemed like it was so much easier to get boys - but with our group it's looking like the opposite!

Thank you Blue Bear. I am 32 my DH is 38 but I know for sure he don't want anymore kids I say maybe GOD will let me adopt a lil boy one day. I know it's not the same of my own but I would love him the same. I hate that we all are not getting the desired sex we want. I'm over being mad and angry. I just thank GOD I can have kids and they are healthy. I guess we all never knows what our future holds. My husband refuses to get fixed and I'm not getting my tubes tied so you never know what may happen down the road. I feel like I'm still young but I'm not sure I want more than 4 kids. I wish us all good luck raising our girls. I guess we need a big savings for weddings lol. Maybe we will have some handsome grandsons one day.

[Bella29]

Still not feeling bubs move. 17 weeks on Monday and I've always felt my babies well before this quite clearly. This time I have wondered a few times if I can feel bubs, but I don't think it's certain. I know bubs is ok, because I've had horrific headaches in the past week and a half so I saw my gp, who had a quick listen for me, just to reassure me. That was nice. He only caught it for about 5 seconds, but it was all I needed really to know. Anyway, I wish I could feel this bubs, but I don't want to hurry this last pregnancy along. It's far to precious a time for me.

How is everyone else travelling?


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[twointow83]

Still not feeling bubs move. 17 weeks on Monday and I've always felt my babies well before this quite clearly. This time I have wondered a few times if I can feel bubs, but I don't think it's certain. I know bubs is ok, because I've had horrific headaches in the past week and a half so I saw my gp, who had a quick listen for me, just to reassure me. That was nice. He only caught it for about 5 seconds, but it was all I needed really to know. Anyway, I wish I could feel this bubs, but I don't want to hurry this last pregnancy along. It's far to precious a time for me.

How is everyone else travelling?


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Are you one among those who have the anterior placenta?? I still don't feel Jules (Baby's nickname) as much as I'd like. Her kicks are still pretty light most of the time... kinda a situation where unless I am still and relaxing I don't really feel her. I had a dream last night about getting to that point where when they stretch you can point out body parts (foot, bum, head, etc.). Even in the dream it felt uncomfortable but I still can't wait. Poor DH is itching to be able to feel her from the outside but even though she does very RARELY give a kick hard enough to feel on the outside, every time he puts his hand on my belly she stops moving completely. Like last night, she was in there doing karate or something and the moment DH put his hand on my belly she was completely still. Anyway, you are getting into the territory where you'll definitely be able to feel your bub move soon (barring anterior placenta... I don't know how much that affects things) and if you are active s/he (gender is not in your signature so I can't remember for sure on what you are having though I think I remember you saying girl) may be kicking but just not hard enough to be felt while you are active. Also, baby tends to sleep when Mom is active as it's kinda like they are being rocked in there so baby may be up and active at night while you sleep. Or you may just have a more chill baby. This bean has been a mover and shaker since the beginning so she is pretty active but some babies tend to be less active than others. Kinda like at a pool... some people like to swim around and have a good time, some just want to hang out, maybe float around and just enjoy the relaxation. Same deal with our beans.

[lala22]

Yeah I sort of kind of feel this one at night but I mean barely and have only seen it once from the outside while I was in the bath..I too felt the others way more. I don't know where my placenta is but maybe this time it's anterior. I'm dying for all of the movement though- it's my favorite part of being pregnant!

[Traci25]

My 12+0 potty shot looks boy. Tech said 95% boy. I'm heartbroken. I know it can change and it's early. And potty shots are almost impossible at that gesation but, no tech has been wrong for me. I desperately wanted a dd. I'm sorry for all those experiencing gd. It's horrible! I just wan to be excited like my other pregnancies. Il attach photos. I know there is a chance still. But feeling doubtful. I thought the nub pict looked girly, but video I took looks boy.
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[twointow83]

Yeah I sort of kind of feel this one at night but I mean barely and have only seen it once from the outside while I was in the bath..I too felt the others way more. I don't know where my placenta is but maybe this time it's anterior. I'm dying for all of the movement though- it's my favorite part of being pregnant!

Mine too! It's that perfect time frame between being sick, tired, etc. and being huge, uncomfortable, unable to sleep, etc. I think it lends to a sneak peek of their personalities too. Before they are so big that they can't move as much you can kinda watch for ques... for example I can already tell this one is gonna be the money sort Guess I can say goodbye to sleep for awhile lol, I have a feeling she isn't going to be a great sleeper. But she'll fit right in with my two monkey boys. Hoping I'm wrong... would LOVE a chill, good sleeping baby for once but I'm not holding my breath lol.

I just pray she doesn't present as many issues nursing as my boys did. Both were lazy nursers. My oldest refused to even latch most of the time and even when he did he didn't put enough work into it to get much of anything out, so I had to pump and eventually formula feed him (not that I see anything wrong with formula, or moms who choose that route! We all do the best we can with our situations). My youngest thought I was a pacifier with a milk filled center. He literally nursed 24 hours a day... zero exaggeration. If I had to use the restroom I either had to take him with and nurse while I did my business (very difficult!) or just let him scream while I went. I was over a week post-partum before I got my first shower and poor daddy did the best he could to keep him calm but it was a losing battle. I even had to learn how to nurse while I slept... or I wouldn't have slept.He got what he needed but instead of having meals he just grazed CONSTANTLY! Around 6 weeks we had to coax him to start taking a bottle (he didn't like any nipples that weren't God made lol) and had to teach him to want a full tummy because I was going back to school and needed for others to be able to feed him. It took a couple weeks, my ENTIRE stock of frozen pumped milk (he would nurse on one side while I pumped the other side as I was trying to build a stockpile) and formula when that ran out but we finally got him to where he would nurse for food and not just comfort AND be able to take a bottle when necessary. I sooooo very much pray that she takes to it like a pro and we don't have so many issues. I'll deal if we do, just like I've done before. BUT it would be so nice, considering she'll be my last, to have a nice, normal, enjoyable nursing experience and bond... the kind others talk about having. I feel bad complaining... well not really complaining but remembering not-so-fondly, given all the health issues my kids have had since, but it was a rough road I'd prefer not to repeat!

Anyone else here have a rough road with nursing (or any other infant parenting topic) that you are hoping doesn't repeat this time?