Due Sept/Oct/Nov 2016

[twointow83]

My 12+0 potty shot looks boy. Tech said 95% boy. I'm heartbroken. I know it can change and it's early. And potty shots are almost impossible at that gesation but, no tech has been wrong for me. I desperately wanted a dd. I'm sorry for all those experiencing gd. It's horrible! I just wan to be excited like my other pregnancies. Il attach photos. I know there is a chance still. But feeling doubtful. I thought the nub pict looked girly, but video I took looks boy.
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At 12 weeks everything is just developing and still swollen. My OB's office, and high risk specialist's office, won't even venture a guess before 16 weeks for that reason and even then they are reluctant... they prefer to wait until 18 weeks. Don't give up hope yet. (((HUGS)))

[Traci25]

Thank you I'm trying but ever since she told me boy I've been staring at potty and nub shots! I'm driving myself crazy. I really felt girl had visions of the future I think I should just prepare for boy and be surprise if it switches. I can't believe how hard it is given up on thought of my dd!

[lala22]

My 12+0 potty shot looks boy. Tech said 95% boy. I'm heartbroken. I know it can change and it's early. And potty shots are almost impossible at that gesation but, no tech has been wrong for me. I desperately wanted a dd. I'm sorry for all those experiencing gd. It's horrible! I just wan to be excited like my other pregnancies. Il attach photos. I know there is a chance still. But feeling doubtful. I thought the nub pict looked girly, but video I took looks boy.
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I'm not seeing any nub in these photos.

[lala22]

Mine too! It's that perfect time frame between being sick, tired, etc. and being huge, uncomfortable, unable to sleep, etc. I think it lends to a sneak peek of their personalities too. Before they are so big that they can't move as much you can kinda watch for ques... for example I can already tell this one is gonna be the money sort Guess I can say goodbye to sleep for awhile lol, I have a feeling she isn't going to be a great sleeper. But she'll fit right in with my two monkey boys. Hoping I'm wrong... would LOVE a chill, good sleeping baby for once but I'm not holding my breath lol.

I just pray she doesn't present as many issues nursing as my boys did. Both were lazy nursers. My oldest refused to even latch most of the time and even when he did he didn't put enough work into it to get much of anything out, so I had to pump and eventually formula feed him (not that I see anything wrong with formula, or moms who choose that route! We all do the best we can with our situations). My youngest thought I was a pacifier with a milk filled center. He literally nursed 24 hours a day... zero exaggeration. If I had to use the restroom I either had to take him with and nurse while I did my business (very difficult!) or just let him scream while I went. I was over a week post-partum before I got my first shower and poor daddy did the best he could to keep him calm but it was a losing battle. I even had to learn how to nurse while I slept... or I wouldn't have slept.He got what he needed but instead of having meals he just grazed CONSTANTLY! Around 6 weeks we had to coax him to start taking a bottle (he didn't like any nipples that weren't God made lol) and had to teach him to want a full tummy because I was going back to school and needed for others to be able to feed him. It took a couple weeks, my ENTIRE stock of frozen pumped milk (he would nurse on one side while I pumped the other side as I was trying to build a stockpile) and formula when that ran out but we finally got him to where he would nurse for food and not just comfort AND be able to take a bottle when necessary. I sooooo very much pray that she takes to it like a pro and we don't have so many issues. I'll deal if we do, just like I've done before. BUT it would be so nice, considering she'll be my last, to have a nice, normal, enjoyable nursing experience and bond... the kind others talk about having. I feel bad complaining... well not really complaining but remembering not-so-fondly, given all the health issues my kids have had since, but it was a rough road I'd prefer not to repeat!

Anyone else here have a rough road with nursing (or any other infant parenting topic) that you are hoping doesn't repeat this time?

Good question. My first was a terrible nurser and now that I have insight with having two I really believe my babies just don't have big enough mouths in the beginning as I have really large nipples. So we really struggled with weight gain and myself with excruciating pain. She was also a horrendous sleeper and like your second a constant grazer..the only time I got a break was when my husband came home and wore her to sleep for her last nap. I didn't realize then but I know now I think I suffered from a bit of ppd..it was a rough first 11 months or so. With my second, nursing was really painful but he latched very well and after 4 weeks things were better but if I could just go without pain at all I would love that. He slept fantastically until 3 1/2 months and then it all went to hell. Lol. But then all good again around 10 months and his demeanor was far easier than my first..still is. My first is our demon child. Lol. She really, really tries our patience and while our second has his bad days, overall he is the easiest, happiest most loving kiddo. It's crazy how different your kids can be. I will look forward to seeing this one's personality and am just hoping, that if it is in fact a girl, that she is more chill than her older sister..oh how nice to have a go with the flow baby! Haha

[BunnyGirl19]

Nursing is always a problem for me, especially since I have preemies. Their mouths are tiny and it takes a lot of energy. Then I get nagged about their weight and am expected to bring them in every day or two to be weighed while they demand I up their feed volumes and give formula as well. Then depending on which LC I see, I'm doing it wrong and get told to do something only to be told the opposite the next time. I really feel like telling everyone to eff off because they are causing me nothing but stress and likely affecting my milk supply and any success I may have at nursing if I just work at it myself instead. The way I see it, my kids always have had enough wet and poopy diapers so it's not like I'm starving them or dehydrating them. Just because their weight is slow they are adamant there is a problem. Even now I get nagged that my kids are so thin for their height and they want me to sneak in all sorts of extra fats and oils to their meals to get them more calories to fatten them up. They are healthy, rarely get sick, and super active so I'm not worried about it. They eat well too. I think it's bad to encourage or force them to eat more than they are hungry for and I shouldn't have to sneak things into their food either.

[twointow83]

Good question. My first was a terrible nurser and now that I have insight with having two I really believe my babies just don't have big enough mouths in the beginning as I have really large nipples. So we really struggled with weight gain and myself with excruciating pain. She was also a horrendous sleeper and like your second a constant grazer..the only time I got a break was when my husband came home and wore her to sleep for her last nap. I didn't realize then but I know now I think I suffered from a bit of ppd..it was a rough first 11 months or so. With my second, nursing was really painful but he latched very well and after 4 weeks things were better but if I could just go without pain at all I would love that. He slept fantastically until 3 1/2 months and then it all went to hell. Lol. But then all good again around 10 months and his demeanor was far easier than my first..still is. My first is our demon child. Lol. She really, really tries our patience and while our second has his bad days, overall he is the easiest, happiest most loving kiddo. It's crazy how different your kids can be. I will look forward to seeing this one's personality and am just hoping, that if it is in fact a girl, that she is more chill than her older sister..oh how nice to have a go with the flow baby! Haha

Any chance it was thrush? I had a cesarean with both my kids and they pump you up with so many antibiotics that it almost makes thrush inevitable. My nips felt like he was nursing with glass shards in his mouth with my youngest. Out of desperation, I called the local LC and begged for her help and she came right over and diagnosed the issue right off without even seeing my BBs by just asking if my nips were shiny and they were super shiny... like twilight vampire shiny lol. So, this time before I even leave the hosp I am asking for a script for diflucan and hoping that will help prevent it happening again. Yeast and nursing sucks lol. I spent like a week with purple BBs and a purple mouthed baby (gentian violet) before finally giving up and getting a script. The GV helped with the pain, and kept it from getting worse but it wasn't going away. This time I am going straight for the pill! One bonus of having a baby that nursed constantly is that I have the latch part down pat because he'd nurse for a bit, fall asleep and unlatch then if I so much a blinked funny he was awake again and I had to re-latch him. Also, I have large nips too. If you kinda squish your nip into a line instead of a big circle, in my experience, baby latches better and then their mouth naturally releases the part they don't need to nurse. An LC with my first son had me do that with him... didn't really help with him because he was just lazy, but it helped A LOT with my youngest. Might be worth a try...

[Traci25]

Is that long white line in the second pict the nub? It gets thicker at the end?

[twointow83]

Nursing is always a problem for me, especially since I have preemies. Their mouths are tiny and it takes a lot of energy. Then I get nagged about their weight and am expected to bring them in every day or two to be weighed while they demand I up their feed volumes and give formula as well. Then depending on which LC I see, I'm doing it wrong and get told to do something only to be told the opposite the next time. I really feel like telling everyone to eff off because they are causing me nothing but stress and likely affecting my milk supply and any success I may have at nursing if I just work at it myself instead. The way I see it, my kids always have had enough wet and poopy diapers so it's not like I'm starving them or dehydrating them. Just because their weight is slow they are adamant there is a problem. Even now I get nagged that my kids are so thin for their height and they want me to sneak in all sorts of extra fats and oils to their meals to get them more calories to fatten them up. They are healthy, rarely get sick, and super active so I'm not worried about it. They eat well too. I think it's bad to encourage or force them to eat more than they are hungry for and I shouldn't have to sneak things into their food either.

Agreed. My oldest was lethargic and wouldn't wake up, that's how we found out he wasn't getting anything. Slow weight gain doesn't say as much as their output. If output is adequate then they are getting enough. With my youngest I had the opposite problem. He has always been solid... like football player build. They were always complaining he weighed too much. At 6 months his ped demanded I put him on a diet. I switched docs. He isn't/wasn't a chubby kid but weighed in the 90+ percentile so they always thought I was over feeding him.

[lala22]

Any chance it was thrush? I had a cesarean with both my kids and they pump you up with so many antibiotics that it almost makes thrush inevitable. My nips felt like he was nursing with glass shards in his mouth with my youngest. Out of desperation, I called the local LC and begged for her help and she came right over and diagnosed the issue right off without even seeing my BBs by just asking if my nips were shiny and they were super shiny... like twilight vampire shiny lol. So, this time before I even leave the hosp I am asking for a script for diflucan and hoping that will help prevent it happening again. Yeast and nursing sucks lol. I spent like a week with purple BBs and a purple mouthed baby (gentian violet) before finally giving up and getting a script. The GV helped with the pain, and kept it from getting worse but it wasn't going away. This time I am going straight for the pill! One bonus of having a baby that nursed constantly is that I have the latch part down pat because he'd nurse for a bit, fall asleep and unlatch then if I so much a blinked funny he was awake again and I had to re-latch him. Also, I have large nips too. If you kinda squish your nip into a line instead of a big circle, in my experience, baby latches better and then their mouth naturally releases the part they don't need to nurse. An LC with my first son had me do that with him... didn't really help with him because he was just lazy, but it helped A LOT with my youngest. Might be worth a try...

I DID have thrush with my youngest but that was only for a couple weeks..the rest was just her not latching well at all. People don't believe me but things weren't super easy until 6 months. I persevered though. I learned the sandwhich squeeze this second time around! Maybe that 's why the pain only last 4 weeks but dang...I just don't want it at all:/ And when my milk comes in I'm engorged and miserable..this last time I switched between hot and cold and even tried pumping (which some LC say no no to but a midwife told me to try). I dread that part. You know what else I dread? The after birth contractions! Bleh.

[lala22]

I DID have thrush with my youngest but that was only for a couple weeks..the rest was just her not latching well at all. People don't believe me but things weren't super easy until 6 months. I persevered though. I learned the sandwhich squeeze this second time around! Maybe that 's why the pain only last 4 weeks but dang...I just don't want it at all:/ And when my milk comes in I'm engorged and miserable..this last time I switched between hot and cold and even tried pumping (which some LC say no no to but a midwife told me to try). I dread that part. You know what else I dread? The after birth contractions! Bleh.

Will you try for a vbac two?