Am I Insane??

[soontobesix]

You're not insane! I think we all just want our boys so bad that we don't want to "mess" anything up in our sways or overlook soemthing. I started TTC last month and I've seriously second guessed everything in the last few weeks. It's so hard to know what to do.

[gizmo77]

yoru enot nuts once i start reading that stuff i get all into it, then i read about diet and i stay with that. i think diet is themost impt. we cant say that every person who has had a boy just happened to conceive on a "boy day/month" according to any gender chart. theres too many ppl in the world for that! i cant say im not a believer bc i get sucked into it myself but esply if ppl are taking money you have to think there is something that may not always be right.

i guess if you are young enough and if youre ok to wait till april, then go for it but if you just cant wait, then go full force on the diet and DTD!
good luck

[CapricornAquarius]

Does he say the whole October is 'boy month' or he gave you fertile days that may or may not match your actual O days?

This is the same with Dr Jonas calendar, they give you fertile days each month and they give 98-99% gender accuracy IF you conceive baby on those days. You are not supposed to have sex but on those 3 days they gave you.
If your actual O date don't match their dates, and you decide to try on your actual 'fertile window', they can't guarantee your baby's gender.

See my point? It's accurate only on THEIR dates, so maybe you can try on your actual O dates and your swaying will prevale kwim? However, if their and your O date match, pregnancy is practically innevitable.

Here is the site of the Odan Institute http://odan.jp/en/index.html , and they do the same thing. Gender calendar with your personal 3 fertile days (96% accuracy) is 24 euros and 99% which contains more detailed info is I think 77euros. It is basically your lunar fertility calendar based on Dr Jonas method.

Maybe, just for the piece of mind, you could order that 96% calendar and compare to your calendar?

HTH!!!! BTW, I'm obsessing like crazy about biorhytms

Yes I see your point ZBubac, mine did say I can only dtd on my boy months and only on the dates that he claims I should O, he was spot on in August but this October Ive O'd earlier.

Had a look at the Odan Institute, thanks for that, yes sounds alot like the one I had made up, although I didnt pay anything for mine. Has anyone tried any of these calendars from Odan or Jonas and been successful on GD???

So what I'll do for now is continue my boy diet although not a big meat eater, continue taking my supps & I'll stick with my calendar, although if his O dates over the next 2months dont match up with mine then I'll buy the Odan calendar.

DD1 DD2

[CapricornAquarius]

Cap, I know what you mean....it is hard to ignore things you think may do the trick....I guess it is just up to you if you can wait. Nothing wrong with waiting if you have the patience for it. You can certainly have a great sway if you work on it for 6 months! Then again, I am not sure if I believe in that stuff. I had a psychic freak me out like Lindi and guess all this stuff about me. She said I have "2 of the 4, either the girls or the boys," and I obviously had 2 girls, so she said I'd have 2 more kids, boys. Of course, now I can't even get pregnant, so who knows. Gotta just go with what you feel most confident and comfortable with, and what can keep you and DH happy and not chomping at the bit to get on with it.

Llove yes it is hard to ignore things that come my way, cause then I say to myself, maybe it came my way for a reason or it may push me to ignore it cause this way its going to take too long to conceive and Im not a spring chicken Im 37 so my clock is ticking, ticking, ticking

DD1 DD2

[CapricornAquarius]

LLove you will have another baby, believe it.

[CapricornAquarius]

You're not insane! I think we all just want our boys so bad that we don't want to "mess" anything up in our sways or overlook soemthing. I started TTC last month and I've seriously second guessed everything in the last few weeks. It's so hard to know what to do.

Thanks soonsix
Yes, yes, yes it is soo hard to know what to do

DD1 DD2

[CapricornAquarius]

yoru enot nuts once i start reading that stuff i get all into it, then i read about diet and i stay with that. i think diet is themost impt. we cant say that every person who has had a boy just happened to conceive on a "boy day/month" according to any gender chart. theres too many ppl in the world for that! i cant say im not a believer bc i get sucked into it myself but esply if ppl are taking money you have to think there is something that may not always be right.

i guess if you are young enough and if youre ok to wait till april, then go for it but if you just cant wait, then go full force on the diet and DTD!
good luck

Gizmo I feel like Im going nuts believe me
No Im not young enough Im 37 so really what the heck am I doing, I feel like Im doing this with myself

DD1 DD2

[atomic sagebrush]

Thats what I think we need to do, for our own piece of mind. And no its not hurting anyone maybe only us I guess cause we have to wait certain months.

OHHHH it was so much easier concieving my girls, I wish there was no such thing as swaying, then we'd just get what ever we were suppose to, or maybe this is just what happens anyway

But it does hurt in terms of your sway, if you skip months that are actually really scientifically more boy-friendly than others in order to conceive in months that some psychic told you...well to me that's a bad trade.

Plus, the stress and worry of trying to move your O day etc - people do and take medications that sway in the wrong direction in order to move their O onto a certain day and to me that's an even worse trade there.

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/show...ns-and-swaying

And coming from someone who has seen way too many wonderful people waste months and years both on swaying stuff that is too strict, and failed HT, only to end up totally unable to conceive due to age - you DON'T want to waste any months when you're TTC. If you're like 24 years old of course that may not be a big deal to you but anyone who is 35, 36, 37 and I know there are people on here who are, I BEG you guys not to spend time chasing after mysticism and magic and just GET PREGNANT as quick as you can because at some point, sooner or later, that fertility window will close and you will no longer be able to conceive at all. If you cannot get pg, you have zero chance at your DG. None of us have any guarantee of pregnancy, risks of many birth defects begin to skyrocket, and it may very well be that the exact month the psychic told you not to conceive, that was your last fresh egg in the carton...

I apologize for sounding harsh but I don't want anyone to walk away from this process heartbroken because there have been too many people already.

[atomic sagebrush]

Capricorn, I don't think you're insane, but it's just not the decision that I would obviously hope that you make.

[TTC5]

So very true, Atomic!