ttc thread - swaying again in 2017 :)

[sigrid86]

Hi everyone!! Apologies as I've asked this same question in a couple different places on this site, but we're going to TTC in a few hours so need some advice - does anyone know if the Rephresh were supposed to use is the gel or the wash? Just noticed there's both out there so want to make sure I'm using the right one (using the gel in the applicator). Thanks in advance!

Hi! I ttc 2 times with Rephresh but since it is not adviced I stopped it and the next time I was pregnant. Also, I don't think you should use it so close to ttc (can anyone back me up on this?), I think it's better used a day before ttc. So if you really want this to be your chance, I wouldn't use it. But of course it's totally up to you. Good luck!

[Butterflies buttercups]

I'm
Gutted i used rephresh this morning as it was my third day I totally didn't expect to get a +opk today but I did and now we've just had our attempt and knowing it totally didn't work coz of the stupid rephresh that I used this morning
No spent is gonna make it through that stuff 15 hours later

I can only hold onto hope for next month


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[Erin514]

Butterflies, I used rephresh about five minutes before a single attempt in November and got pregnant from that, then did the same this month and am now possibly pregnant from that. So please don't get discouraged and think you've ruined your month, it's totally still possible for you. It just cuts the odds a bit.

[4blue2pink]

I'm having a bad day ladies. One of my good friends just messaged me to tell me she's 18 weeks pregnant. She didn't know how to tell me after our loss/stillbirth so recently.

I am genuinely pleased for her, but I also feel jealous and incredibly bitter. She's having a boy this time, and she already has a daughter. I feel so angry that everyone seems to get one of each gender, and I lost my much longed-for daughter.

I know it's horrible for me to say these things, just a low day, and my angel daughter's 'due date' is fast approaching. [emoji22]


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im so sorry MrsT i completely understand where you are coming from, after i lost my daughter everyone around me was suddenly pregnant, loads were unplanned and almost all of them were pregnant with girls, it was very hard to deal with and i have to admit that the jealousy and sadness id feel deep down when someone had a girl lasted for almost 4 years after my daughters death and only went away when i had my 2nd and 3rd daughters, for me i had to have my 2 youngest girls in order to move past those feelings but it isnt that way for everyone, so please dont let what i say worry or upset you im just being honest with my personal experience in the hope that it may help.

even though it was difficult to hear the news, it was kind of your friend to think enough about things to message and explain why she had held off on telling you etc.. rather then just letting you see the big announcement on social media or hear it through others. i have been in your friends position (pregnant with a friend who has lost babies) and even though i lost my daughter i was still nervous about telling her, especially with my girls because up to that point we were both boy mums who had lost our girls, and we had spoken openly about those feelings of jealousy and hurt whenever someone we knew had a girl even though we would both be pleased for them, so i knew what the news of me having a girl was going to make her feel it is a difficult position to be in.

the due date is hard again speaking purely from my own experience i found her due date very hard the year she died because it was a reminder of where we should have been and that we never got that far.. even though i was pregnant again by that point i found it impossible to let go of what week i *should* have been with her pregnancy rather than concentrating on what week i actually was with the new baby.. (i was a complete mess following her death) but after that year her actual birthday rather than her due date became the main day for her in my mind, and ive honestly never really thought of her due date since, i guess its like when you have a full term baby and they dont arrive on their due date, you mark the birthday not the due date if that makes any sense? she has her birthday and it will always be her day <3

i hope that you are feeling a little better today and i also hope that my being honest with what i experienced hasnt been upsetting to read, it is different for everyone and there are no rules when it comes to grief, things change, especially with time and sadly the loss of a baby or child is the start of a lifelong journey that none of us asked to go on.

"We each have to find our own way through our grief. Just as each child is special and different, so is each mother and our pain when our child dies is unique to us. But we do not have to walk the path alone.."

we are all here for you whenever you need us, wishing you as peaceful a time as possible as your baby girls due date approaches xx

[Butterflies buttercups]

Butterflies, I used rephresh about five minutes before a single attempt in November and got pregnant from that, then did the same this month and am now possibly pregnant from that. So please don't get discouraged and think you've ruined your month, it's totally still possible for you. It just cuts the odds a bit.

Thanks a bunch for this!
This gives me hope !

I was just a bit peeved last night but we will see what this month holds!
Thanks again Erin x


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[acaason27]

Hello ladies, I hope you do not mind if I jump in! I am new, not new here. I was on the site for a short while after we discovered we were pregnant with #4 surprise baby. We have 4 boys, 7, 5, 3, and 2. I have over the last year really been wanting to try for a 5th, DH is on the fence. He makes hints that he would want one, but will never come out and say it. He says if we could 100% know it was a girl he would do it in a heartbeat. He is an amazing husband and dad, I know we could handle 5. Anyway, we have hinted about trying agian, especially me, but I have not had the full heart to heart with him. We are on a dropping weight kick, so I decided to start the LE diet (2 weeks in), then in a month or 2 approach him about it. If he doesn't want to do it then no worries, at least I'll have dropped some weight. He does not like to wait so I want to do my best to sway if at all possible before I mention it, since I know if he agrees he will want to start right away. Looking through all these threads is a TRUE eye opener, I am 100% true blue boy mom in my lifestyle. Anyway, I just wanted to say hello and be a part of this group if I can!

[4blue2pink]

Hello ladies, I hope you do not mind if I jump in! I am new, not new here. I was on the site for a short while after we discovered we were pregnant with #4 surprise baby. We have 4 boys, 7, 5, 3, and 2. I have over the last year really been wanting to try for a 5th, DH is on the fence. He makes hints that he would want one, but will never come out and say it. He says if we could 100% know it was a girl he would do it in a heartbeat. He is an amazing husband and dad, I know we could handle 5. Anyway, we have hinted about trying agian, especially me, but I have not had the full heart to heart with him. We are on a dropping weight kick, so I decided to start the LE diet (2 weeks in), then in a month or 2 approach him about it. If he doesn't want to do it then no worries, at least I'll have dropped some weight. He does not like to wait so I want to do my best to sway if at all possible before I mention it, since I know if he agrees he will want to start right away. Looking through all these threads is a TRUE eye opener, I am 100% true blue boy mom in my lifestyle. Anyway, I just wanted to say hello and be a part of this group if I can!

hi acaason27 i had 4 boys close in age too and have since had 2 girls, its amazing how many people find this site and are like now i know why i have boys/girls!! i was the same with my 4 boys and my 5th who was a girl so i swayed pink for number 6 last year and had another little girl <3 still cant quite believe it worked, i was so convinced my 5th baby was a fluke and that she would be on her own surrounded by boys!! but i was wrong and im back to sway pink again this year so we will see.. getting a good bit of time on diet is a really good idea especially if your husband will want to start straight away!! let us know how you get on fingers crossed your husband is on board when you do put the idea too him and hopefully you will get your little girl, its so nice to see someone else with 4 boys who are close in age, mine are 6,5,4 and nearly 3, i was that crazy lady with 4 kids under 4!! xx

[atomic sagebrush]

just wanted to remind you lovely ladies that I typically don't read the support threads so if you have questions for me, please start a thread in the forums to ask!

[MrsTheatrical]

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[MrsTheatrical]

I tooootally understand you. I have so many people who announced a pregnancy or birth since we lost our little girl. It always feels like someone stabs you in your heart. And I also don't want to have these feelings but I think it's just normal. We were supposed to have a little baby girl and now we don't anymore. And above that, we feel so much pain of losing our child. So really, don't blame yourself, it's normal. I hope this will go away someday, but even now when I'm pregnant again, I still feel the same...
When did you lose her and when is the due date? That's also a hard day (sorry to say that).

I can only say that you're doing the best you can. Just let these emotions in and don't blame yourself.
This is one of the worst things you have to deal with in life, so be gentle with yourself.

Sending you lots of love and support

Thank you so much [emoji171] reading all these responses the other day really helped. When is your baby due? Xx


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