BD every 4 days

[atomic sagebrush]

Well, that's why we use the OPK, to help us know when to have the one attempt though. So it's not just picking a day randomly, we have the technology to know when O is coming.

Re every 4 days, yes there is an element of luck involved but most will have their attempts on O-3 and then the next one on O Day. So if there are any sperm left from the O-3 attempt, the egg shows up and they will have fertilized it before the O Day shot will have capacitated (sperm cannot fertilize the egg immediately, it takes several hours). If there aren't any left over, then the O Day BD will be there as a backup. So either way, it works as if it is one attempt really.

Some people do choose to go that extra day and end up with O-4 and O Day (if they have bad luck, that is, most of the time they'll have attempt on O-3 or O-2 or O-1 instead) and yes that is going to be lower odds of conception, but possibly better chances of pink. We just don't know for sure.

No, your partner does not have to abstain the rest of the time. Some will add abstain onto that but only 7-10 days before. Others will do daily release or even just skip that part and have hubby release every 2-4 days or nothing at all and just let him "do what he does". That part has not seemed to matter much if at all, it's the one attempt or e4d that has seemed to help.

[Emz89]

Well, that's why we use the OPK, to help us know when to have the one attempt though. So it's not just picking a day randomly, we have the technology to know when O is coming.

Re every 4 days, yes there is an element of luck involved but most will have their attempts on O-3 and then the next one on O Day. So if there are any sperm left from the O-3 attempt, the egg shows up and they will have fertilized it before the O Day shot will have capacitated (sperm cannot fertilize the egg immediately, it takes several hours). If there aren't any left over, then the O Day BD will be there as a backup. So either way, it works as if it is one attempt really.

Some people do choose to go that extra day and end up with O-4 and O Day (if they have bad luck, that is, most of the time they'll have attempt on O-3 or O-2 or O-1 instead) and yes that is going to be lower odds of conception, but possibly better chances of pink. We just don't know for sure.

No, your partner does not have to abstain the rest of the time. Some will add abstain onto that but only 7-10 days before. Others will do daily release or even just skip that part and have hubby release every 2-4 days or nothing at all and just let him "do what he does". That part has not seemed to matter much if at all, it's the one attempt or e4d that has seemed to help.

Thanks so much I just worry opks will not work for me incase I have pcos so LH levels could go up and then opk could pick it up when I am not actually ovulating. I have a monitor called ovusense. Have u heard of it? It is good but you do not know u have ovulated until after the tenperature rise. Might be best me bd every 4 days.

[Emz89]

So if u bd on o3 and o it definitely is only 1 attempt and not 2? That is the one thing I worry about bd every 4 days.

[atomic sagebrush]

Ovusense can also be tricked by PCOS too, unfortunately. I'd probably go with e4d in that case.

[atomic sagebrush]

So if u bd on o3 and o it definitely is only 1 attempt and not 2? That is the one thing I worry about bd every 4 days.

If there are any sperm left from the O-3 attempt, they will fertilize the egg before the O Day shot can capacitate (sperm take several hours to capacitate and then if there aren't the O Day sperm will have a chance.

[Emz89]

Ok so why does bd every 5 days sway pink more if bd 4 days would count as 1 attempt too? So sorry for all the questions! Yeah maybe bd every 4 days would be best for me and hopefully one day it will end up bd on o2 or o1 and not always o4 or o3. X

[atomic sagebrush]

Because it is simply more certain to be 1 attempt. It avoids even the outside chance that there could be sperm left over from O-3 and O Day.

[Emz89]

Because it is simply more certain to be 1 attempt. It avoids even the outside chance that there could be sperm left over from O-3 and O Day.

I thought you said it would count as 1 attempt though since the sperm from 03 would fertilise an egg before sperm from O? Now I am unsure what to do in the future because I would have to do bd every 4 days as I can't use opks Every 5 days I feel may really lower chances of conception. I would love my next baby to be close in age to this baby

[Emz89]

Hi
Maybe i should try using ovusense which will show a temperature rise when I ovulate and try using an opk to confirm it.. that way I can see if an opk works for me

[atomic sagebrush]

I thought you said it would count as 1 attempt though since the sperm from 03 would fertilise an egg before sperm from O? Now I am unsure what to do in the future because I would have to do bd every 4 days as I can't use opks Every 5 days I feel may really lower chances of conception. I would love my next baby to be close in age to this baby

I am not here to talk you into or out of anything. I am explaining the rationale between these things. I cannot guarantee that e4d will ALWAYS work the way it is supposed to work and thus since e5d is even further out it is even more likely to be one attempt than e4d is. But yes, it cuts odds of conception considerably.

I have laid out the reasoning behind both methods. Now YOU must make up your mind between them.