Please give me feedback on my plan....

[zanacal]

He would love that - if I told him, which I won't

[HopeandDreamG]

Zanacal: LOL!!! Thats hysterical
Atomic: You may have missed the other part of my question. Would really love your opinion: about the fade in pattern.
A timing question for you: I am planning my cutoff (the Babydust way) my fade in pattern hasn't been so predicitve though. Last 2 cycles I got +digital on CD 14, this cycle CD15. I want to DTD the day before the smiley. If I miss it and smiley shows up before I DTD...Is it too close if I DTD the same day as a smiley if I catch it super early?
Also: can you look at my ovualtion chart. Did I ovulate yet? Got my smiley CD15 (as I said above)- FF hasn't said yet. Maybe CD 17. CM is difficult to interpret I think bc of supps etc

[atomic sagebrush]

Sorry about that, I even had a response planned in mind and then someone must have needed a diaper or something LOL.

I am assuming you want to do a cutoff with one attempt and not FR or compressed FR with the potential for more than one attempt (which is fine and whatever you feel good about is best). I personally put zero stock into timing (if it sways, it sways in ways that are totally unreliable and that we can do better in other ways anyway) and in fact I think it's one of the best ways to get pg while swaying pink, to DTD when you get a pos OPK/smiley. So YES, I think it is fine to DTD the day of the smiley even if you DON'T catch it early. I do suggest to everyone and I think I rem. you are doing this, to take an antihistamine to dry up your CM and maybe a jump and dump to get rid of some of the semen/sperm.

Taking a look at your chart, if your temps start to rise FF will (sorry if I'm stating the obvious here) most likely say you Oed on CD 17. Just wanted to poing out that if you get a smiley CD 15 and O CD 17, that is a 2 day cutoff anyway and I would feel good about that even for the most traditional sway.

[HopeandDreamG]

Atomic:
Yes my plan was to do abstain with one attempt with a cut off of 2-3 days. Good to know I can still attempt when I get the smiley, also good to have it confirmed that CD 17 is most likely O day and the cut off would have been 2 days anyway. We will see soon.
If I DTD to early and don't get the smiley the next day, I guess I can DTD again the next night and will have DH release himself that morning anyway to make sure (He can handle) and DTD that night if still neg on digital? Is this all correct and is this what you mean by compressed frequent?
Now I am also going to put more thought into abstain vs. frequent. DH is 37, but releases often- probably daily already (need to get the full disclosure from him later... but I know he can do it himself in the morning and DTD later.. I want to get preggo quickly but have 2 boys already and abstainence would be opposite which is why I'm leaning that way. Make sense?

[zanacal]

Getting the 'full disclosure' from my DH (also 37!) was what made us decide to go for very frequent release! Your DH sounds similar so it's something you could consider - DH would deal with himself every morning then again in the evening (sometimes I'd get involved in the evening but I pretty much left it up to him!).

[HopeandDreamG]

Atomic: when you get a chance can you look at my post above. Thanks. Am I supposed to say "bumping" don't really know what that means...LOL

[zanacal]

Atomic: when you get a chance can you look at my post above. Thanks. Am I supposed to say "bumping" don't really know what that means...LOL

Atomic doesn't get a chance to log on during the week due to family commitments.

I agree that if you DTD early and don't get a smiley the next day then you could do compressed frequent release and have another attempt the next night. Your understanding of compressed frequent release is correct - your DH would release (once or twice) without DTD then you'd DTD as soon as possible after these releases. Just one thing to consider with this plan, if you get a wonky cycle and don't O when you expect to then you could end up with several attempts. If you're set on having just one attempt then you might want to consider having that attempt the night of your +OPK instead of trying to get it in before the +.

[HopeandDreamG]

Thanks very much Z. Which do you think would b a better sway? Waiting for +opk (smiley). It seems I O 2 days later and this would give me one attempt? Versus too early and multiple attempts. Which sway is stronger?

[zanacal]

It's up to you what you feel comfortable with and all about getting a fine balance between lowering fertility enough to sway pink whilst still having a chance to get pregnant. If I were you, knowing your DH is a frequent releaser anyway, I would go with one attempt and I would be comfortable doing that on the day of the +OPK knowing that gives you a day or two cut-off also. It also seems pretty stress free which is good for your T levels. You could try this for a couple of months and add in more attempts and/or lose the cut-off if you're not getting pregnant.

[HopeandDreamG]

Thanks. Also I got the "full disclosure" and he is like your dh! He also told me he was releasing everyday when I got pregnant "oopsie" which I unfortunately lost but it was a girl . So I decided we will do frequent and day of attempt morning and night as the attempt. My only decision left is rephresh vs. Replens/acigel/douche. Just ordered rephresh to try it out/experiment before attempt. I think my only reservation with it is I can't use lime douche if I really needed/wanted to.