Pink sways after 3+ boys?

[JJ66]

Thanks! I don't have a "theory" about results being skewed. I'm really just trying to find a commonality between those who've had 3+ of one gender (boys, in my case). There are so many different sway tactics, so I'm trying to pinpoint those that might have more influence, which sounds like: weight loss, stress, one attempt. Plus, with those who've had a lot of boys, there's more chance that they may have a "failed" sway, so they switched things up the next time (which is interesting to see). I know it's all chance, but, it's helpful to see these ladies' sways.

[BoymamaRN]

Following!!! I have 3 boys and am hoping for a girl. Currently ttc. However I am new to this site and am "lightly swaying".

[boyshopping]

Hi JJ66,
I’m following your post - very interested. So very similar - multiple boys and my ‘failed’ sway was the LE diet. I lost a lot of weigh and was down to 104/105lbs. I lost almost 15lbs over 8mos. I was first running 6x a week for 60min then it went down to 4x a week the last 6weeks as I was so thin. I ate mainly salads and maybe 1-2x I had some chicken. I tried to eat low calorie, low fat. For example for crackers I would eat wasa crackers with lots of salads / fruits. I long for a daughter but I’m not sure what to do if I were to sway again. I lost weigh, exercised 60 minutes 4-6x/ week, tried to eat mostly salads (I didn’t count calories being that I basically ate salad, fruit, rice. Also one attempt (but maybe I should have done it not at peak ovulation?)

I felt like I followed the Le diet to a T.... Maybe some of us are just more prone to a gender. Would love to hear from others....

[ksmom]

Boyshopping, I think even with a "perfect" pink sway (not that any sway is perfect), there's still going to be opposites 20-30% of the time. I doubt it's anything you did or didn't do, just didn't go your way. I thought I had a pretty good sway but I got another boy anyway. It happens! You may benefit from doing the PCOS version of LE if you decide to sway pink again.

[Mummyof4boys]

The main things i did differently when I conceived my girl:
skipped breakfast and replaced it with two cups of coffee (don’t normally drink it)
two meals a day and no snacks in between...mostly lol
No cereal and fruit juice (previously ate/drank lots of)
Drank 1 or 2 alcoholic drinks most days (don’t normally drink alcohol)
Fibre supplement
One attempt in fertile window

Good luck with your sway!

[boyshopping]

ksmom - that is very true... there is still a 30% chance of opposite even with the best sway. That's why not sure if doing another sway would really do anything. Could still be in the 30% bucket again... Are you considering HT?

[atomic sagebrush]

ksmom - that is very true... there is still a 30% chance of opposite even with the best sway. That's why not sure if doing another sway would really do anything. Could still be in the 30% bucket again... Are you considering HT?

Swaying can't be a guarantee but that doesn't mean it isn't doing something.

If doing nothing gets you nothing, and doing a sway gets you to - let's be conservative and say 65% (when you may have been 70% "set" for the opposite gender!!) - it seems like a no brainer to me to do a sway. But if the option is between swaying and HT, always do HT (if you can afford it without causing financial distress to your family, that is) because swaying is not a guarantee.

[atomic sagebrush]

Boyshopping, I think even with a "perfect" pink sway (not that any sway is perfect), there's still going to be opposites 20-30% of the time. I doubt it's anything you did or didn't do, just didn't go your way. I thought I had a pretty good sway but I got another boy anyway. It happens! You may benefit from doing the PCOS version of LE if you decide to sway pink again.

We have to keep in mind that all this swaying stuff is simply meant to help our genes get passed down to future generations. If anything we could easily do in the span of a few months could guarantee 100% all one gender would be born not only would we have figured it out a long time ago (those old wives were pretty smart about stuff like that) but additionally the entire human race would have died out a long time ago. The first time there was a famine, or all those millions of years where we lived on mostly meat, or those milennia where we switched from eating mostly meat to eating mostly grains, or the cultures that eat mostly vegetarian diets - we would see some sort of wildly skewed gender ratio in those cultures and during those times in history. Humans are alive today because they can keep making boys and girls on lots of different diets in lots of different circumstances and it just cannot be a guarantee becuase our genes would not have survived if it was easy to skew gender via a few little diet changes. That we can do it at all, in any reasonably reliable way over the last 7 years is amazeballs. But it's not a guarantee and can never be. Anyone who needs the guarantee, go HT.

[atomic sagebrush]

Hi JJ66,
I’m following your post - very interested. So very similar - multiple boys and my ‘failed’ sway was the LE diet. I lost a lot of weigh and was down to 104/105lbs. I lost almost 15lbs over 8mos. I was first running 6x a week for 60min then it went down to 4x a week the last 6weeks as I was so thin. I ate mainly salads and maybe 1-2x I had some chicken. I tried to eat low calorie, low fat. For example for crackers I would eat wasa crackers with lots of salads / fruits. I long for a daughter but I’m not sure what to do if I were to sway again. I lost weigh, exercised 60 minutes 4-6x/ week, tried to eat mostly salads (I didn’t count calories being that I basically ate salad, fruit, rice. Also one attempt (but maybe I should have done it not at peak ovulation?)

I felt like I followed the Le diet to a T.... Maybe some of us are just more prone to a gender. Would love to hear from others....

Yes, some of us are more prone to a gender. It is simply incredible (literally, as in, impossible to be credible) that anything we do for 12 weeks could entirely undo the signals that our body has received over the course of our entire lifetimes and possibly dating back as far as when we were eggs developing in our grandmother's body (since that is when the egg that became us, formed). It just doesn't work that way and the fact that in 12 weeks doing a few easy to make changes in diet and exercise can get us a fairly reliable 65-70%, when it is likely that some of us are coming into trying to conceive possibly 65-70% or even more "set" for the opposite gender...you guys, that's a pretty big deal. Even if we were starting from straight up 50-50 it is still a pretty big deal.

Swaying is like an iceberg, the stuff we see "above the water" is small compared to the rest of the stuff that is down below the water. We do what we can do and then at the end of it, there is a not-small element of luck and chance involved. That's just how it is. If you can't accept that, then go HT, it's the only way to fly.

The good news is, because of that element of luck and chance (which is not small, remember) you can do exactly what you did in the past and get a different result. It may be that your body took longer to get the message, it may be that last time you got to 70% and then just fell into the 30%, it may be that you only got to 50-50 last time and the coin toss didn't go your way, it may be that next time you may get a different result...we don't know and cannot know either what happened the last time or what will happen in the future.

All we know is that over the whole population, we are getting results in the "correct" direction every year for 7 years straight, both pink and blue, and this is without driving ourselves or our hubbies insane and with average 3 months to conception (so this is a wide swath of compliance, easy to stick to, anyone can do it). The odds of that happening are 1 in 16,384. http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...tml#post962304 All we can do is look at what has worked for most people, most of the time, and do that. And if that is not good enough, please consider going HT and nuthin and I will help you however we can.

[ksmom]

ksmom - that is very true... there is still a 30% chance of opposite even with the best sway. That's why not sure if doing another sway would really do anything. Could still be in the 30% bucket again... Are you considering HT?

Yes I'm planning to do HT. I hoped it would be this year but plans have changed a bit but I still plan on doing it in the next couple of years. DH is pretty much set on it and for awhile kept telling everyone about it. I don't think he wants me swaying again anyway, since we don't just want a 4th baby, we want a daughter.