January 2018 TTC & 2ww thread

[mwilson]

ABC, yes that’s the plan. We will see how it goes. While I am “swaying” girl, I would just like to be pregnant. I do have a boy and girl. My girl is considered special needs (diagnosed with a rare genetic condition abou 1.5years ago). She is non-verbal but does some words and some sign language. So while I have a girl, any “plans” that you have in your head about a girl are lost with a diagnosis. So I would love another girl for many reasons, of course not to replace her but many say after you get diagnosed you grieve the “loss” of child and I get that. So I had these visions of her just like I do my son and now our plans are different and earlier on it was super tough to lose those dreams. My son asks for a brother, he says he has a sister and would like a brother too. So that’s sweet but part still wants those plans I lost back. Sorry for the sad vent, it’s been a morning.

[Noemi2017]

Girlsway didnt u lose so much weight? I stopped to ovulate for 3 months last year but i also drank peppermint tea and took vitex. My doctor gave me injection twice coz my cycles were never ending...60cd. It helped me eating eggs, full fat dairy, nuts and gain some weigh

[Girlswaylondon]

I started adding more dairy and eggs 2 weeks ago, think I’ll drop peppermint tea!

[Eighme]

Hannah hope it was ovulation!! Are you doing E4D?

Eighme - Totally get it. Shortly after our DS2 was born my SIL announced she was pregnant with her 2nd child (her first was a boy). I'm pretty sure after my DS2 was born I had PPD (never got diagnosed/treated), both due to pretty strong gender disappointment as well as DS2's traumatic birth. Well, she had a girl, and I had a REALLY hard time dealing with it for awhile. A lot of feelings of jealousy/resentment, which thankfully I was mostly able to hide from her, but the feelings were there. On the day that my miscarriage started this past August, she and my DH's brother called us up to tell us that they are pregnant with their 3rd. I was like, seriously?!!?! Their 3rd is a boy, so while it sounds perhaps weird/awful to say, I've been better able to "deal" with her being pregnant now knowing it's another boy. Crazy right? But I do get it. I will say though that over Christmas when we were all together for a week I was very much able to play and bond with her little girl and I didn't feel all those crazy feelings I felt when she was first born - so whatever happens I think you'll be able to work through all the feelings in time. But they are normal feelings for sure!!!

Girlswaylondon - hang in there, hope O comes soon!!

Star we don't use lube (as I usually have LOTS of EWCM!) but I've seen people on here swaying girl say they used a little bit (fingertip) of preseed.

Mwilson if you DTD last night maybe just stick with the every 72 hours plan from this point on, until you can confirm O with temping? That should keep you covered as far as viable attempts. I get the stress though - I always seem to O 48+hours after first +OPK.

GirlSwayHGMama - I know several "Boy Moms" - moms who whether they wanted it or not (and most of them didn't) have all boys and have resigned themselves to saying "well I'm just a boy mom I guess". Sigh - I feel like that's what I'm going to end up having to do too - and I just don't want that. I want to be a boy AND a girl mom... And I know stereotypes are just stereotypes and my DS1 is a TOTAL sensitive sweetheart and if I have a girl she may be a total tomboy, but I'm still so desperate to have a daughter. Just one! That's all I want!!

As for me - I'm getting a little freaked out. I'm CD12 - I normally get a +OPK by CD13 at the latest and I just feel like it's not going to come tomorrow!! What's really freaking me out though is that I normally have TONS of EWCM by like, CD11 or so and I have very, very little right now. Maybe b/c it's the 3rd cycle of Clomid (although I was off it for over a month due to the early m/c). It's just SO weird - I normally have so much and I feel so dry right now!! Also I'm on DAY 4 of "high fertility" on the dual OPKs. I've never had more than 4 days... So "peak" should come tomorrow, right? But where is my EWCM?!

On top of that - I'm desperate to be pregnant, and desperate to be pregnant with a little girl. Why is this SO DAMN HARD!!!!????!!!! Ok - vent over now

Thanks, ABC! We are all obviously here for a strong desire for one gender over the other. I could go on and on about why her having a girl would be particularly hard for me. I think it all just boils down to my feelings about and her competitiveness towards me.

I'm so thankful to have a forum of ladies who have similar problems, issues, just general thought about everything.


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[HGmama]

Thanks ABC, I want what i want. Trying to not be childish and totally millennial, but I know I am.
It's just emotions.

Sorry mwilson about grieving the loss of how you imagined her healthy life. I deal with that on a daily basis at work. I work in a NICU that has a large genetic population.

CD13..... blah blah blah... waiting for O.

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[mwilson]

Thanks ABC, I want what i want. Trying to not be childish and totally millennial, but I know I am.
It's just emotions.

Sorry mwilson about grieving the loss of how you imagined her healthy life. I deal with that on a daily basis at work. I work in a NICU that has a large genetic population.

CD13..... blah blah blah... waiting for O.

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Thanks. But thankfully she doesn’t have any medical issues, just speech and some learning delays. I couldn’t imagine having health scares on top

[Noemi2017]

Girlsway ask Atomic but she recommended me drop peppermint tea and also vitex

[Girlswaylondon]

Girlsway ask Atomic but she recommended me drop peppermint tea and also vitex

Thanks Hun, I will drop it

[HGmama]

Ugh FF is screwing up and now scaring me. I have not ovulated. I have not had a positive opk. But it has marked me as ovulated three days ago and that would give me zero chance of conceiving. Ugh!!!!!!! Please FF be wrong!

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[mwilson]

Ugh FF is screwing up and now scaring me. I have not ovulated. I have not had a positive opk. But it has marked me as ovulated three days ago and that would give me zero chance of conceiving. Ugh!!!!!!! Please FF be wrong!

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Is it going off your temps? Could you missed the positive on cd 8?