Thoughts/questions on my "failed" sway

[4blue2pink]

Congratulations on your little boy Verena im sorry your sway didnt go the way you hoped but he will be the perfect fit for your family my youngest is a pink sway opposite and i wouldnt swap him for anything, i am swaying again because id rather sway and then be able to sit back, let go of it all and accept whatever outcome comes our way. in the end you get the baby that is meant for your family but i know id struggle with the "what-if's" if i didnt sway!!

Atomic is that your DS3 and DS4 in your pic? they are gorgeous

[Throwaway_panther]

Oh verena, you are so sweet to even think of me while you're dealing with this! My scan went well and I'm going to share a pic in my due date group fyi

And yeah, that's true about the study being for PCOS. And the other sources I was talking about weren't just people I knew, but forums with polls where hundreds of women responded -- but they were all PCOS forums! So that's definitely a point, that these women may already be predisposed towards boys and often doing fertility boosting things to get pregnant. Makes me wonder if the women losing weight to help their PCOS might be the girl PCOS Femara-ers.

[atomic sagebrush]

Atomic is that your DS3 and DS4 in your pic? they are gorgeous

Yes that's them! Thank you!

[Princess Mom]

Your sway sounds better than mine did with my DD. Sorry it didn’t work out, I wish u the best and congrats on the healthy baby boy!

[Mom25boys]

Hugs. I have 5 boys. I swayed only twice and both ended in MC. I'm swaying now against every part of me because I don't know how I will stomach another GD. I love my boys but wonder why I cant have a daughter. I hope 6th time is a charm. More than that I hope it ends in a healthy baby. I know GD well and no one is doubting that you will love your son. It doesnt change the fact that you worked so hard on your amazing sway. We can only plan so much. Congrats on your baby. May he bring you incredible joy.

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[Verena]

Thank you so much again ladies! This board really is the best [emoji813]️ I'm still grasping at straws a bit and hoping I will get the chance to sway again. At least I have made the plan to start LE diet again when this little one is one year old and weaned or at least not nursing so much anymore. That way I'll be ready if DH changes his mind and if not, I'll at least hopefully lose my baby pounds like this time on the diet.

Any hints on how to make DH change his mind? I know his main reason for not wanting more children is that he is afraid of the extra work and not having time for hobbies or friends ever again. I'm already trying to give him more time without the kids and am thinking about maybe getting an au-pair to help us through the first year with three kids.

Good luck to everyone still swaying or waiting to find out gender!!!

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[Throwaway_panther]

Thank you so much again ladies! This board really is the best [emoji813]️ I'm still grasping at straws a bit and hoping I will get the chance to sway again. At least I have made the plan to start LE diet again when this little one is one year old and weaned or at least not nursing so much anymore. That way I'll be ready if DH changes his mind and if not, I'll at least hopefully lose my baby pounds like this time on the diet.

Any hints on how to make DH change his mind? I know his main reason for not wanting more children is that he is afraid of the extra work and not having time for hobbies or friends ever again. I'm already trying to give him more time without the kids and am thinking about maybe getting an au-pair to help us through the first year with three kids.

Good luck to everyone still swaying or waiting to find out gender!!!

6c8b58 Ovulation charts on FertilityFriend.com

[emoji170] 08/2014 [emoji170] 04/2016

At this point, I feel like many men can change their minds on many things, haha. DH said he'd never do IVF and we did two rounds lol... and I am decidedly not a nag. My BIL was adamant about having only one kid, and now they have three. Haha, so who knows! I think we all can change our minds eventually about things (or at least, I hope most people can be willing to change their minds on some things!). Afterall, here I said I'd NEVER have another girl, and now I'm going Team Green to practically trap myself into the possibility of a girl! And I'd say I'm more stubborn than most people, so hopefully your DH changes his mind once the new baby gets here!

[atomic sagebrush]

I would just not put any pressure on him for now, see what happens. Many times the baby settles in and everything just seems like it has always been that way, and they are more open to the idea!! What you DON"T want to do is get him to dig in his heels by driving him nutty about it so then he's even less likely to agree because it's become a huge power struggle!

[Verena]

Thank you TP and atomic! At the moment I really try my best not even to mention any further children. DH still sometimes is saying things like "YOU wanted this child", when I tell him at 8 p. m. that I would like to go to bed and ask him to take care of the kids for the last hour of the day. Sometimes I don't understand why he wanted children at all. Anyway, still hoping for a miracle once this little one is here.

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