Part 2: Due January, February & March 2019

[shinay]

Gafan, mummaofboys: welcome to the group. It is nice to see how much our group has expanded [emoji4]

I have a question. How much vomitting is too much? I am 5w2d but man MS (all day for me so far) has hit me hard. I was wishing for mild symptoms, not full blown like this [emoji23][emoji23][emoji23] i cant really keep food down for the past 2 days. It gets much worse today, i threw up maybe 10 times today. Even water made me feel sick. I tried my best to keep the food down as long as possible, but it usually cant last for long. I also tried ginger candies, but doesnt seem to help much. Also, what do you eat or drink to help with ms? I did some research online and some people recommend bland porridge so I will try that tomorrow.

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[Girlswaylondon]

Shinay is be careful and maybe ask a dr because my bestfriend when pregnant was the same and had to be put on fluids because she couldn’t keep anything down, hope you’re ok!

[mummaofboys]

hi mumma. i had a miscarriage near the end of last year too, so I want to wait as long as possible to tell people.
sending healthy pregnancy thoughts your way!

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Thank you! Sending them right back at you too!!


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[mummaofboys]

Hi Mumma! Happy to have you. We are just days a part with our due dates (I'm 7w4d). Welcome and wishing you and bubs a happy, healthy pregnancy!

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Thank you! Oh that’s cool I hope you have a wonderful pregnancy too


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[mummaofboys]

Welcome!! So glad you had a good scan!!! Hope this is your perfect, healthy pink bean!! Did you sway?


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Yes I did sway... I actually had a shocking month diet wise the cycle we conceived so we will see. DH wants to go team green, as we did with both our boys, I think curiosity may get the better of me this time!!!


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[Throwaway_panther]

Thanks ladies, it helps to know others have had it. I thought it might have been a stomach bug ages ago, then figured out it's my new normal! I just feel like people always talk about constipation in pregnancy, and the only stuff you find on frequent/looser stools is before labor -- so I freaked out!

Now I'm on to stressing because I had some tea with ginseng in it, and read that's terrible for pregnancy D:

[hopper]

While I'm not a believer in what goes around/comes around , BUT I think it's great you're still staying so positive with such downers around you!

Is it possible to just NOT tell them?! I think when we put expectations on the announcements, we get disappointed -- versus just taking joy within our immediate family can keep us feeling good? My FIL was a shithead when we shared and it's part of why I didn't want to tell our in laws at all, so I definitely understand the hurt from people who are supposed to care not caring. Your moms comments are particularly hurtful!! I never understand when parents say that! My MIL and FIL kept saying that for one of my SILs, but only because they are fully supporting her as she keeps having more kids and we all see how it's exhausting them. But even then -- they should just stop overextending themselves instead of trying to influence others' family planning!

I'm so sorry you're going through this Know WE are so excited for your baby here ♡♡♡

Thanks TP! I think what I meant to write was - you get back what you send out. Like positive versus negative vibes. I think I just wrote whatever came into my head with my rant lol.
It's entirely possible to get away with not telling them unless I get super sick like on my first two sons. I had HG so we didn't even get to tell anyone, as such, it was mostly "oh I'm in the hospital...etc" With DS3 we didn't do an announcement but we told them one on one and it wasn't received wonderfully. Ugh, stressing about stuff that I shouldn't be - yup, must be preggo!!!

Ooooh boy... Im not sure what page its on but there are a LOT of us in here who can commiserate with you. Personally, this baby is an oops for us. Its a BC baby, and will be nearly 7 years apart from my youngest. Both my boys are on the autism spectrum, one severe so we had decided to stop there. The universe had different plans. My friends- my 2 best, we've been friends around 28 years now- are happy and supportive. My mother.... ehhhh not really. Shes upset and worked up because she thinks I wont have time for Logan, my severe little man who is improving in leaps and bounds since I work with him daily. I def plan to still have time for him, but my mother is a bit of a drama queen so Im sure you can imagine.I havent told anybody else.

My inlaws... Im dreading. My MIL in particular. When we had expressed more babies in the future before we knew Logan was also autistic, she went nuts. "Why would you do that?" "I only had two" "Dont you have enough on your plate? With kids and animals?" "Ridiculous, why would you even consider more?" and so forth. Needless to say I didnt rush off to tell her. Picture the stereotypical jewish MIL from Brooklyn. x10. That is her. Shes even from close to that area (Im originally from Long Island, Im in NC now) They are coming down for a visit around the 6th, and Ive devised a plan to tell them. It will be their wedding anniversary so a card from the kids saying 'Love Jacob, Logan, and Oops'. Maybe if its cute it wont be so bad?

Oh I hate that you got that reaction! Of course you'll still have time for your older two, mom guilt takes care of that let me tell ya lol!
So cute referring to baby as Oops [emoji173][emoji173][emoji173]

What I've learned ( and I only have my son, this is my second pregnancy) is that after two people start questioning you. They look at you like you're insane but will be like, HOPE THIS IS THE (WHATEVER GENDER YOU DONT HAVE) SO YOULL STOP TRYING. I have friend who has four kids and the remarks she received are astoundingly dumb.

You just need to focus on you and your family. I would come up with some witty retorts or very direct answers. People can be so rude without realizing.

"Yes, our plan for world domination is almost complete." I like to say weird things that throw people off because I believe stupid remarks deserve equally dumb answers.

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That is THE best come back EVER! I love it and will definitely be using it!!! Haha world domination for sure!
I remember having just pushed out DS3 and literally he was laying there between my knees on the bed, I hadn't even cuddled him yet and I was being asked by the midwives if they'd be seeing me back in hospital in another year "going for the girl". Eh, I was raw. I mean quite literally raw from a terribly hard labour and they were remarking about my lack of a daughter?! Luckily I knew going in that he was a he otherwise I think I'd have bawled!
What I'm saying I suppose is that people will always make remarks on our family size and make up but I suppose it's down to no one but myself to come to terms with how their remarks make me feel. It's easier when it's inconsequential people like that, a bit different when it's family unfortunately but I do love the world domination quip!! That'll shock them into silence or laughter lol!

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[hopper]

Thanks ladies you all are the best!!! Hopper - it is weird seeing "female" on the report! I have felt this whole time that there was at least one girl in there (until yesterday when I really freaked out that it would be two boys), but it's strange knowing now that there really is! TP I feel good about it! I was *hoping* for 2 girls - I'll admit it - but I'm excited now about 1 of each. I think it'll be fun for my DS2 to experience having a younger brother. And like Verena said it will be very interesting to see what he's like because my current two boys are very different from each other (both in looks & personality!). So as long as I'm getting my girl, another boy will be a happy and welcome bonus

Hopper - I am SO sorry for all that negativity!!! What the heck?!! You're definitely in the right place here to vent as most of us have experienced some degree of awful reactions/comments from relatives! It honestly makes no sense to me! What happened to the "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all" rule?! Like you said though I'm sure your boys will love the news that they're getting another sibling. My oldest is SO excited about our pregnancy and talks about it all the time. And that's what matters most - it will be such a happy joyous thing for you and your immediate family!!

Oh ABC one of each is the dream!!! You are going to adore this last little man, I just know it. No GD involved whatsoever - it's like the best thing ever!!!
Thanks for your positivity in the face of the negativity I will most surely face. It's great to know I'm around ladies who just "get it"! X

Hello! I think I am going to have an April 3rd due date, but I'll join in here for now.

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Yay, welcome gafan! I think I'm probably due April 1st or 2nd but I didn't want to start a new DDG when I'm not on regularly to update the due dates etc! We'll hang here anyhow

I am starting to have a lot of anxiety about the gender the closer I get to finding out :/ I know I need to find out so I can work through my feelings during my pregnancy. My doctor knowing this has upped my anxiety/depression med and I’m feeling sick again while it regulates.
Next Monday I have my 12 week ultrasound and I hope to get a good nub shot and I’ve booked an early gender scan for 16 weeks. We haven’t told family yet and I just know what all the comments will be if it’s another boy. At least if it’s a girl I will be so happy that I won’t care about anyone’s opinions. I’ve been thinking if it’s a boy to just tell everyone we are waiting until birth to find out since it’s our last baby. Has anyone found out and then kept it a secret from everyone? Was it hard or did you ever accidentally let it slip?
I’ve felt so resentful lately about having all these boys around me and I can’t imagine adding another one. Then I feel so guilty and depressed about seeming so ungrateful. I want to enjoy my last pregnancy but it’s so hard, and I feel like it’s starting to put a wedge in my relationship too

Oh cassidy, I was the same last time after swaying. I was holding out so much hope it was a girl and then the nub was obviously boy and I was broken. And the GUILT over not appreciating what you've got is just overwhelming!
But you know what?! We have all been there. We get it so so so much! It's ok to feel how you feel. You can't help how You feel and the more you dwell on feeling guilty the worse you'll feel. It's a vicious circle. Vent all you like here between now and the scan and hopefully you'll be pleasantly surprised with a girly nub [emoji173]

Girl....we could sit and talk for hours. We are pregnant with #5 and we’re given LoTS or push-back with #3. So we knew we were in for a sh%# show with family. We took our time and didn’t tell people until after 10 weeks. Then waited even longer to tell family. We basically said, “oh btw, we are 14 weeks pregnant!” That seemed to work. Our other kids helped share the news too. Because they were so excited, it made family hold their tongues. I know it’s hard. But be happy and stand your ground!! If you are excited, let that carry into your conversations. Yeah, big families seem crazy but we are SO incredibly blessed! I couldn’t imagine my life without my big family!


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Oh yeah, I think the kids sharing the news could be the way to go!! Their excitement will surely be contagious!! I actually only wanted ONE kid growing up lol. Had my first and realised wow I was made for being a mom!!! I'm a good mom if so do say so myself, happily married to my childhood sweetheart, we own our own house, we take nice vacations, I mean - financially things could always be easier but I'm choosing to not work while the kids are young so things will be better in the monetary sense when the kids are older if you get me. Not to say it's not good now anyway tho. Ugh, I just wish my mom would be more supportive. I'm spending the afternoon with her and my sister. Hmm. Could do without it cause I'm annoyed just looking at them knowing they'll have negative views when they know but the kids were promised so off we go :/

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[SurroundedByBoys]

Gafan, mummaofboys: welcome to the group. It is nice to see how much our group has expanded [emoji4]

I have a question. How much vomitting is too much? I am 5w2d but man MS (all day for me so far) has hit me hard. I was wishing for mild symptoms, not full blown like this [emoji23][emoji23][emoji23] i cant really keep food down for the past 2 days. It gets much worse today, i threw up maybe 10 times today. Even water made me feel sick. I tried my best to keep the food down as long as possible, but it usually cant last for long. I also tried ginger candies, but doesnt seem to help much. Also, what do you eat or drink to help with ms? I did some research online and some people recommend bland porridge so I will try that tomorrow.

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With DS2, it was literally everything that triggered my MS and it only abated towards the end of the night. I found that sour candies would help take the edge off enough that I could keep some bland foods down. They were also something I could grab quickly when I felt the first stirrings. Other times it was a race to make it to something I didnt mind vomiting into. Def mention to your doctor if you already havent, they may put you on something and just check you arent dehydrated. I hope you feel better!

[SurroundedByBoys]

Welcome to the new members!