Part 3: Due January, February and March 2019

[ABC.2606]

Thanks TP and ABC re the comments from "Josie". I left it go and just stopped replying and about 20 mins ago I got a PM from her saying she didn't mean to come across insensitive and acts "dopey" sometimes....hmm! I didn't reply to that either. She's just really annoyed me. She has two girls and I know she had GD for a boy since her first DD but she totally denies it and always has. So maybe she is subconsciously lashing out?! I dunno. Either way I'm done with her for today anyway. Normally I'd let comments flow off my back - it's mad how pregnancy can make your mind blow things up!!

Noemi, I'm so so so sure that nubs don't become apparent until 12-13 weeks so please don't let the scan take away your hope. I really hope you will hear what you want at a later scan. When is your next? Congrats on your beautiful baby by the way! Such a great scan pic [emoji179]

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Ah. So there possibly was some GD behind her comments... Don't worry about it getting to you - it totally would have bugged the crap out of me too!!

[Noemi2017]

Thx u hopper, there is still some hope next scan in 20weeks. Will u stay Team green? I hope your nausea finishs soon, mine finished in 10weeks.

[hopper]

Thx u hopper, there is still some hope next scan in 20weeks. Will u stay Team green? I hope your nausea finishs soon, mine finished in 10weeks.

Oh there's definitely hope! Are you going to find out at your next scan do you think Noemi? We're staying Team Green so long as baby doesn't flash any bits at us! I'm TOO good at spotting boy parts at this point lol! My nausea is still quite bad though the meds are helping somewhat!! I would be so so grateful if it eases at 10 weeks, that's this weekend for me!! I had it until weeks 18-20 on DS1 & 2 but barely any at all on DS3. That pregnancy was just so easy I'd forgotten how awful the sickness can be!

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[hopper]

Ah. So there possibly was some GD behind her comments... Don't worry about it getting to you - it totally would have bugged the crap out of me too!!

Yeah I totally think she is GD motivated. But she is quite unmoving if you get me, so quite hard to get her to really open up. I just distinctly remember she found out she was having her DD1 the same week I found out I was having DS2 and she was so I'm shock but if I brought that up to her now she'd completely deny it. I'm not fully open IRL about my own GD so I kinda get it in a way.

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[Noemi2017]

I still dont want to know gender till birth i hope next scan my doctor wont say anything i really hope u will feel better soon and for baby girl

[Kelbear]

Thank you all for you replies and advice re team green or finding out. It has really helped me to think though all the pros and cons. I am still undecided if I will find out. I don't think I can get through til birth with this amount of anxiety about gender as it is really affecting my sleep (wake up multiple times a night and can't sleep as just keep stressing about this being DS3 and never getting my little girl and then replaying the 20w scan in my mind (we never got potty shots) and thinking maybe there is a chance and I know in my case hope is dangerous as the disappointment at birth will be so hard to deal with and then I worry about dH and how he will take it at birth too) but I don't want to cry in front of the dr. I think I will ask if he can write it down for me (but same hospitals radiographer said it was against policy and refused!) but I doubt he will. Might say I'm happy for him to write "likely male/female" to cover him if it turns out the opposite to what he writes. Then I can look at it in privacy when I am ready and maybe when I am seeing my psychologist soon to help me work through it (still suffering bad post natal depression which developed after DS2 was born - had a bit with DS1 but bad with DS2 due to lack of sleep, GD and family issues. I am just worried finding out it's a boy will send me spiralling backwards again just when I have been getting back on top of things).

Noemi I hope you get to hear girl when your baby is born, I really don't think they can tell gender at 11 weeks. I looked back at my two DS's ultrasounds and DS1 was at 11+6 and it was very unclear if he was boy or girl, DS2 had a very boy nub but that was at 12+5. So sorry your dr made any comment particularly when you said you didn't want to find out.

Hopper I hope you have another scan soon just to reassure you after those insensitive comments. Try not to stress as you have already seen a heartbeat and that is a great sign.

TP hope your anatomy scan goes well and you get the necessary pics of nasal bone and spine without seeing any gender clues.

Hope everyone else is going ok. You ladies are an amazing support especially when not many people around me understand GD at all.

[mummaofboys]

BAH! Sorry Mumma I read your post last night and forgot to respond but it's so good to hear from you and to hear that baby is doing well! You are REALLY strong to not find out the gender knowing that it's in your NIPT report!!! That was my plan too - to do the NIPT, let the doctor find out and then wait a while until we found out... but I totally caved and looked up my online NIPT report that evening after the doctor had called me to let me know the results came back! No will power at all I think it's reassuring your sonographer friend said she really couldn't see any boy parts!!! And as we've been saying just now about Noemi's scan, if you were only 12 weeks it really is still too early to be sure!! Hoping you hear pink!

I so admire all you ladies going Team Green!!! You all have waaaaaaay more patience than I do!!!

Thanks you. I hope I hear pink but not holding my breath.

Haha trust me it’s hard!!! I will probably cave.... especially when I see my obs and I know the nipt report will just be sitting there in my file [emoji57]


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[gafan]

Hi girls, im 11weeks1day, i had today my anatomy scan, all is ok, baby is healthy and very big i said i didnt want to know gender but doctor said many times he saw gender very well soooo im now sure i expect boy. Im not disappointed ofc i desired my girl my cute daughter but it is Gods decision and for some reason i will mother of boysAttachment 40235

beautiful baby, Noemi. I am happy to hear baby is healthy. FX maybe a girl, you dont know yet

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[simkan]

Noemi as everyone said would be very unusual to see something clearly at 11 weeks. But if he did it doesn't mean it's cuz he saw boy.
At my 12 week scan, we already knew the gender this time cuz we had the NIPT results. And the ultrasound technician asked if we were going to find out and I said we already know it's a girl and she said wasn't going to say anything but could see very clearly that it was a girl... so I guess it really can go either way. Just pretend the whole conversation didn't happen and prepare yourself for either way.

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[Kelbear]

Had my drs appointment today, asked if she could write down results for me to open at home - she was happy to but one problem - she couldn't tell! Wasn't documented in ultrasound report and she briefly looked through a few of the scan pics but didn't have time to look properly so couldn't tell me so we will just have to wait. Unfortunately she did tell me there might be a problem with the placenta as there is some casing or sheath around some of it (was told by ultrasound tech at scan everything looked ok) which was a bit of a shock and baby measuring small on the scan (16% percentile) so I have to have another growth scan at 24 weeks and 28 weeks (if we get that far). Now I have something else to worry about as well as the gender speculation, just praying Bub makes it to 24 weeks minimum but hoping to make it to28 weeks to give Bub a fighting chance. Not at all what I was expecting to hear today and a bit in shock.