TTC BOY November Chit Chat Thread - All welcome!!

[love being a mummy]

I think it helps both? It changes the acid/alkaline environment of our CM? And the minerals aswell that the boy sperm thrive in?

Yeah thats what I've been thinking, the acid/alkaline thing, but I seen someone mention that PH doesn't really matter and it's all about the diet so was just curious as to how it works.
I think DH would have to be on the same diet ?? JMO but wouldn't that make the boy sperm know that times are good and that gives them a push to get there first?

[TTC5]

I get what your saying
Who really knows hey! But I'm going with it LOL

[Flava]

Yeah thats what I've been thinking, the acid/alkaline thing, but I seen someone mention that PH doesn't really matter and it's all about the diet so was just curious as to how it works.
I think DH would have to be on the same diet ?? JMO but wouldn't that make the boy sperm know that times are good and that gives them a push to get their first?

You should ask atomic all this. Im also interested what she says.

[Flava]

temps is under the 60 today and we are freezing here in FL! Im so happy LOL

[3Pink1Blue]

TTC5- Thats neat you got to meet John Edwards and he picked up on that, to bad he couldn't/wouldn't tell you more.

WP - my kids never knew about m/c till last Oct, I hated having to tell them that things don't always work out.
Sorry your yuck had sunk into your chest, coughs seem to linger much longer then any stuffed head.

LBAM- swaying isn't a guarantee because you can't be sure which sperm hits the egg but you can make the environment and the sperm at optimal as possible. You can be well nourished but if your calorie intake isn't what your body deems a boy safe environment then you may have a girl, you can have poor sperm and a shitty diet but if your calorie intake is super high your body can decide it's a boy rich place. There isn't a perfect combo that works for everyone and like I said there is always someone who doesn't fit the mold. I'm one of those that got a boy with a 5.5ish pH so don't think it was a huge factor for me but your diet changes your cm, healthier more nutrient rich cm can give those little blue swimmers an advantage. Your DH should be on the diet as well to improve his sperm so when those swimmers hit the boy friendly cm they have a better chance. Basically the diet makes everything optimal and ready but again there is no guarantee.

Flava - I was lovin' our cooler weather for a while too, now I'm freezing my buns off lol

Bec - if eating protein is hard for you then I would say it's a very important factor for you. I really believe the things that are the hardest to change are the ones that will change out bodies the most.
I'm with you on the stripper thing, mental contact is one thing but half naked girl wanting his money is something totally different. I too completely trust my dh but don't trust a woman willing to rub and kiss a married man. I know not all strippers are sleazy but in general I'd rather they stay away

[Flava]

I don't really like to be cold but it's always hot here and cool suppose to be better for ttc blue , so im happy for it now.

[LolaInLove]

Lola - ok maybe not skinny but at least on the way down. I too am hoping for a pretty good third trimester
It's rough when kids ask those kinds of questions especially since the truth is so unsatisfying for them. Not long after we told the kids dd2 asked if we were going to lose this baby too. It ripped out my heart to have to tell her I honestly didn't know but was doing everything I could to keep it safe. These are the days I wish we weren't so honest with them.

Hobber & doula - I know I'm in the minority amongst my real life friends. My sil and bil's gf both freak if they even suspect their men have had a peek. I think it's got a lot to do with his honesty, usage and time spent together lol We've got 17 years, he doesn't lie about it and knows I don't care if he looks at it as long as he's not off with it instead of being with me.

Exactly....but I am glad I have an open enough relationship with them that they feel comfortable talking to me about that stuff. Their innocence and candor is just so touching, even if they ask the exact question that you ask yourself fifty times a day, kwim? How exciting that your girls get to experience all of this with you, and the arrival of a little brother, though!

And you are also right about the honesty factor.....I think that is where the comfort level with porn comes in. And also the part about still being normal about sex with you, the real woman! To be honest, I haven't even gotten that far with my new DH, even though we've been together for 3 years. Since he was a dancer, I thought he was probably a huge ladies' man (read: womanizer) when we first met, but he isn't, just a normal sweet guy. He is more reserved than most I've been with, though. I just don't know if he does masturbate much, and quite frankly, I wouldn't care, except for the low sex drive thing and the low sperm count thing. I think I am going through the newlywed phase still, LOL!

[LolaInLove]

I can count my dollars I am not UTD I just can't believe I would be so lucky first go... plus I have woken today with a damn pimple and yesterday and a little today having some funny cramping which I probably get every month but just never look out for them. Feels like I am being poked from inside with a blunt object on the RHS sort of near the ovary? Probably an early AF for me

OR IMPLANTATION! 5, you get pg easy, I would not doubt you get a bfp this time!!!

[3Pink1Blue]

Oh Lola you're definitely still a newlywed, dh and I are old folks lol

[LolaInLove]

Thats what I was thinking but I just can't think why it would work, our egg can't determine which sperm fertilises it. Or does it go more on the male, does he produce more sperm when times are good?
Sorry I guess I am just questioning everything at the moment.
How / why certain things work and don't work.

With every idea we all know someone who done that but has opposite gender.

Swaying has to work to some degree, but maybe it's just pure coincidence that people have had 2,3,4 of the same gender and then they "sway" and get the gender they want. But we also have people who do sway and still get the gender they have been having so maybe it all just pure luck and coincidence and chance.
Maybe it is a 50/50 chance each time no matter what you do?

There has to be a reason though why some people only have the same gender and some have GBGBGB or is purely just 50/50 chance and luck.

LBAM, you sound like me circa a year ago. I was all philosophical and questioning of swaying. I am a very scientific person, so things really need to have a good correlation to make me believe in it.

This is what I have concluded (and 3 and I are currently philosophizing about this on another thread which you may have read): swaying is like rolling a big huge dice. Say your personal dice has not 6 sides, but 1000. Many sides are pink, and many are blue. When you conceive, you are essentially rolling the dice in regards to gender. When you sway, you just turn more of your pink sides to blue ones, although there will still be many pink sides. You can't turn them all blue. And there is really no tellin' how much you can convert to blue through swaying, although many studies cited on this site show that diet really seems to make a difference. You are simply giving yourself a higher chance of your desired gender, but NOT a guarantee.

Some women can sway their butts off and do everything 150% and still end up with an opposite, and then some barely sway and get what they wanted. So, you really have to just decide what you think might help you and do your best, but really, it is important to go into it knowing, and really believing, that you could get either gender, and that nothing you did or could have done would have made a difference. This is a guilt-free swaying site.

I hope that helps answer your question....and at least make you feel better about it all. Personally, I say why not sway. It does up your odds, I firmly believe that. As long as your heart and mind are on the same page about it not being a formula for your desired gender, it is all good.