Question for you ladies with 3 or 4 of same gender, and one of the opposite.

[strawberrymom]

My 8 yr old nephew keeps telling his mom he wants a brother but whenever he plays over here with my 3 year old , he complains that he is too "baby" or such. So I think age gap can make a difference too. Your DD says she wants a sister but would she be intersted in one thats 5 or 6 years younger?

[Atsaukina1]

yeah my dd has wanted a sister all these years
after the birth of last ds even my son 100% wild boy said we need a girl now lol

[Tiggerian]

Look, she's only three years old! My 4 year old wants a brother, a sister, a dinosaur, a robot, a kitten, a puppy, an aeroplane, a motor bike, a power rangers phone, a star wars sword, a space rocket, a penguin, a transformer, a snake, the easter bunny... I could continue for years!

I wouldn't take her upset seriously. Most likely someone has been feeding into her that she should want a 'sister' because she had so many brothers and she has taken this on board, which is why she can't understand that another brother might be nice too! It's not necessarily a bad thing to be the only one of one gender.

You gotta know your limits and not keep having kids because one of your children 'might like it' because by the end of the day, if you overstep your limits the children you already have are the ones who will pay the price when the finances don't stretch far enough, mum and dad can't keep up and are stressed out, etc.

[Rainbow baby]

I doubt a 3 year old would understand much about brothers and sisters and probably want's a sister because her friend cousin has one, plus if she see's you react she might do it again for attention! The fact is.. if this baby was a girl who is to say they would get along later anyway!

[ThreeMenAndALAdy]

Thank you ladies. I've made the decision to stop at 5. I think my emotions played a big part in this. I did say in my original post that I don't think my dd gets the idea of a sister. It was me wanting to give her that. I have a sister and we are very close. But I know sometimes that isn't that case. Your input has been extremely helpful. Thank you again.

[hotdogz&boyz]

I don't have one of each...but I wanted to add that my son is also three. And we talk about the baby that is coming a lot (he is really into it). He says he is "getting a sister...and it's a BOY!" Lol. I think gender (boy, girl, sister, brother, etc) is really fluid for them at this age and it is not a concrete thing to grasp. I agree that someone is feeding her the "sister" line and she is just repeating it. Which is playing on your emotions of wanting another girl. Kids are great at playing on our emotions...even if they don't know it But I think her being the only girl, smack in the middle of boys, is really cool. Honestly, I would LOVE to have your exact family (although DH would never go for five, he says only four).

[Mrs_P]

I always wanted a daughter and have had that such a strong overwhelming desire for a girl since i was little. When i had my son i knew i wanted him to have a brother for that bond - which he got, 2x. Although i felt at the time a third boy wouldn't add anything to the mix its amazing how strong the bond has become now there are 3 of them. I never really wanted more than one daughter though - i wanted to be the one she was close to. Well it was lovely dream anyway even if it will never happen - but that my 2 cents worth for what it counts