Question for you ladies with 3 or 4 of same gender, and one of the opposite.

[ThreeMenAndALAdy]

Hello ladies. I received confirmation on Wednesday that we are having our 4th boy. I have one dd too. She will be smack dab in the middle with 2 older brothers and 2 younger ones. She's three years old. When we told the kids the new baby was a boy, she didn't take it like I thought she would. She keeps saying she doesn't want a brother, she wants a sister. It is heartbreaking to hear. I tried so hard to get her a sister, and to experience a baby girl for myself just one more time. I'm not sure she even gets the whole idea, but I do, and it really makes me upset. I did have gd but it has been much better over the past 2 weeks. Hearing my dd say this is bringing it back again. Ht has never even crossed my mind, or another baby for that matter, but I find myself thinking that I would do anything to get her the sister she says she wants. We don't have the money for this, obviously.
My question to you is this...if you have a few kids of one gender and are expecting or have one of the opposite sex too, do you have these feelings? If not, can you tell me why you don't? I'd love to get some insight and try to turn my thinking around.

[Cinss]

In my situation DP had 2 DDs from a previous relationship, then we have our 2 year old DD together and are expecting our next baby in May which i think may be a boy, so i have started to have these feelings, if this baby is a boy, should we try to give him a brother because the girls have sisters? DP has said that we will only be having 2 kids because 4 is enough for him. But now i am feeling like well is 2 enough for me? I would love to have another girl and another boy, but i dont think that would ever happen in reality. So for now i am just going to enjoy what i have and think about the what ifs later on. I think we will just have to wait and see how this baby fits into our family then decide.

[ThreeMenAndALAdy]

Thanks Cinss. I think I need to see how this baby fits into our family too. I hate thinking and feeling like this.

[nuthinbutpink]

First, she's 3. She may want an elephant tomorrow.

When I was pregnant with DD3 and told DD1 and 2 I was told "we already had enough girls". Now, after DS, I hear that they would have liked another sister and they ask if I'll have another girl!

It did hurt my feelings with the original comment but they are kids, they say things and move on.

Your DD will be special- I can just see the photos now when they are all grown- your DD standing in the middle of her brothers, love on all sides. It's sweet and it makes her special for always.

[RedCanoe]

Would I like my DD to have a sister? Sure. I have a sister and we had a lot of fun growing up together and have a good relationship as adults, as well. Plus, I look at my boys and they really are very cute together.

BUT, I think sometimes you have to know when enough is enough. We never planned on more than 3 kids, and only went to 4 kids to balance our family with a DD. I just have to be satisfied with that. A sister for DD would be nice, sure, but I think for us 5 kids would be too much for DH and I to handle - emotionally and financially - and that will take away from all of them. Time to focus on the family we have and enjoy them rather then keep worrying about what we don't have. She won't have a sister, but she will have 3 older brothers, and that will be great too!

[ThreeMenAndALAdy]

Thank you so much nbp!!! I've read many of your posts and must say, you are a very wise woman with a ton of useful information.

[ThreeMenAndALAdy]

You are absolutely right RedCanoe. I need to read things like this. 5 is a LOT!!! I need to focus on them and put the other thoughts our of my head. Thank you!!

[Violet_]

This is a tricky one. I have three boys, not sure what this one is. If I have a girl, I'd want another girl. DH wants to stop at four. But then again, he wanted to stop at three, so we'll see. He may come around. I'm just taking it one day at a time (or one baby at a time).

[3Pink1Blue]

I've got 3 girls and 1 boy thanks to GD. In my heart I would love for ds to have a brother, but for us, 4 is a lot of kids. I also don't 100% believe that I'll get another boy and then all we've done is give the poor little fella even more sisters lol
That said, DD2 was 3 when we found out #3 was another girl. She was super upset for about a week. Oh and dd1 (who was 10 at the time) cried when she thought that #4 was a boy, she was utterly devastated. "Only sisters" she said. Fast forward 1 year and she adores him. No more babies they all now say, our family is perfect. I can't help but agree

[ThreeMenAndALAdy]

Thank you!! The more I read, the better I feel.