Am I alone in my struggle

[Prepsina2014]

Hi
I just want to send you a big hug and tell you that I PERFECTLY understand your worry for your son. My son, too, was very ill as a baby and I have seen him in general anesthetic way too many times (3 in 8 months). I, too, have had strong GD since even before TTC and it is perfectly ok. A lot of women feel that way and won't admit it. It does not mean you love your sons any less. I love my son so much it can physically hurt
I just lost a baby girl in week 11 due to a chromosomal defect. We had the pregnancy terminated 3 weeks ago. The baby was a girl and a result of LE diet, so it CAN work I have started the diet again and finding it hard but I know it is the right way forward for me.
I really really found the LE diet hard in the beginning, but - once you have recovered and feel better (like Atomic said)- give it another go and start up slow and easy. Going from normal eating straight to LE diet is maybe too tough for you. I eased into it... And it worked.
Lots of warm thoughts and my very best wishes for you!
(the post might be a bit messy - I am on my way to work but really wanted to write to you before I go)

[pinkplspls]

prepsina,
Thank u so much, i cant imagine what it must of felt like to loose a baby girl, i definitely think it would of been worse for me had my baby been a girl, but i was on a totally wrong diet when we concieved - high in protien & nuts with no dairy etc.
So you've injected even more hope into the fact that the LE diet can work.
I am easing into it trying to do it to suit me for a while then will get stricter.

This site is so wonderful, so many women who dont think i'm crazy. My real friends cant understand what i'm on about when i talk about such a strong desire for a daughter

[prayingthisworks]

I to have lost a baby. She was 4 months old and I completely understand the desire to want a girl. We wanted to have another baby soon after so I also understand that. I wanted that baby to be a girl so bad. I was torn when we found out it was a boy. Looking back now (hes 18 months) I am so glad it was a boy. There is no way I could of handled having a girl so soon.

It's simply hard to even put into words the desire to want one gender after losing a baby.

WE to are now swaying for our 3rd baby. I know if we end up having another boy I will be devastated! This is our last baby.
I went to my RE and discussed all of this with him. He swore to me that diet has nothing to do with swaying. He said only timing sways. He believes in Shettles he says it will give you 70/30 (for a girl) at most. Yet, I am still doing the LE diet just dont be to hard on yourself about the diet. I think eating healthy and timing in the main key, but hey Im no expert!

Just know I understand how you are feeling. You may not feel like it now but one day your loss will not hurt as bad. You will be able to breathe again.

[1+2+3boys]

Just read this post. I don't know what to say except hugs and try not to be so hard on yourself for a while as you have been through heaps! I also got twin boys for my second try when wanting a girl and am going to try for one more. I am starting to think HT is the answer for me even though we have little money. I just want so much for my dream to come true

[pinkplspls]

Just read this post. I don't know what to say except hugs and try not to be so hard on yourself for a while as you have been through heaps! I also got twin boys for my second try when wanting a girl and am going to try for one more. I am starting to think HT is the answer for me even though we have little money. I just want so much for my dream to come true

hey,
thank you for your message. xxx
did you sway at all when you concieved your twin boys? i am convinced the huge amounts of vit b6, folic acid, cran and magnesium aided my concieving identical twins
i wasnt doing a diet then mind, i was just drinking tons of aspartame thinking that and the supplements were key.

i've swayed again since, resulting in another boy, he was sadly lost in my second trimester. i was dieting then and lost loads of weight, but nothing like the LE diet, instead i was on a high protien low carb, no dairy diet and exercising regularly with loads of weight training

i'm hoping to god with automics personal plan and this completely different diet approach i may have a greater chance to get my girl, but i am definitely struggling with the diet at the moment

my cycles are all over and its really getting me down, it took 8 months for me to stop bleeding between cycles when i last miscarried, so i'm worried history will repeat itself. i'm on cd17 at the moment, no idea when or even if i've ovulated but had a brown bleed cd13
i dont even know what it means to bleed mid cycle regularly like that, just know its not right.


fingers crossed that what ever path you choose leads to your longed for daughter too. i'm in the uk, so HT is a definite no no for me.

we need some pink dust!

[atomic sagebrush]

also got what was probably twin boys on IG supps!! o.O

[pinkplspls]

wow Automic i didnt know that?!
do you have your sway for your daughter on here? obviously sure u do somewhere!! but i would love to read it xx

[atomic sagebrush]

Yes my 4th son was twins, but one didn't make it, and the one that didn't make it was placenta previa and while we don't strictly know if that baby was a boy, the majority of pp babies are boys http://aje.oxfordjournals.org/conten...9/824.full.pdf

[atomic sagebrush]

it wasn't much of a sway, but it worked for me.
http://genderdreaming.com/forum/girl...july-20-a.html

[pinkplspls]

crumbs, that really puts the declining condition into play! i'm sorry you had a bit of a rubbish time, but wow you got that gorgeous daughter as a result.
reading it, i have such a healthy plentiful lifestyle, and by that i dont mean tons of money or lots of luck! i've had my fair share of crap! especially with ttc and babies, but i turn to food in everyway, be it in sadness and times of stress or when i'm happy, i have such a boy friendly lifestyle, my t levels are always high as i always want what everyone else has got! so constantly putting myself in that competative frame of mind without ever realising it before.

how do i naturally calm myself down and lower my t levels though? i'm such a stress head!

i get the point of the diet more now, its just to let your body think times are harder, and loosing a little weight along the way will make me happier anyway, so i need to stick to doing as well with that as i can, but what about my natural competative streak, or even just my natural desperation to concieve a daughter, i'm putting pressure on myself with every thought in my mind, just wondering if it will ever happen for me.

why cant we pick and choose!!!