Urgent advice needed!

[WantingPink]

I hope you get your sticky BFP!! Maybe your DH is feeling a little overwhelmed at the moment. He will probably come around if you give him some space and time to think about things. Good luck! I think you have a good chance at a BFP!!

[Houseofblue]

Mumofsix I agree w the others, don't talk about ttc too much around your dh. I would just keep tracking your cycle and when you're O-ing, dtd without telling him.

[maidentomother]

Oh mum, I do think your Tue attempt was enough, and I hope DH changes his mind if it wasn't. *hugs*

[atomic sagebrush]

thanks so much to all who stepped up to give great advice!! really appreciate it.

[atomic sagebrush]

For some reason I can't "quote" this morning but the amount of time you get an OPK does not matter, you O 36 hours or so after the first positive, even if the test has gone negative. (that is, unless it's a fake surge)

[WantingPink]

Just wanted to let you know... with this baby we DTD (and I J&D) on a Saturday night. I didn't get a good positive OPK until Tuesday night/Wednesday morning. I thought we were probably in the clear (since we weren't trying) but apparently those sperm can hang out for awhile According to uls conception date was Thursday. We only DTD once so it can happen

[angielorna]

Oh, I hope you caught it! Though men don't grieve the same way we do, they are impacted by losses too. Perhaps his reluctance to keep ttc is out of concern and fear.... Which may dissipate over time.
Take care! I hope both our timing (though unconventional) works out for this month!!
Angie

[sugarNspice]

I think your DH just needs some time. Before I started having m/c's, I really wanted DC#3, and DH really didn't. We've been through a lot over the years in between, but what he's wanted and what he's thought and felt has changed dramatically with time. If your DH was willing to TTC before, and this is something you really wanted, chances are good that he'll come to agree with you about it again.
But men too are impacted by losses, if in different ways than we--who actually experience the pregnancies--are.
for a sticky pink bean for this cycle, but if it doesn't happen, I hope you and DH are able to talk about this and find your way back to where you both were before the loss happened (in terms of being on the same page about TTC).

[SamS_TTCPink]

Thanks everyone, I really hope so too but am not liking our chances - DTD Tues and the pos opk was Friday.😞
I've never gotten PG that early before, but will still keep everything crossed. 😕

I will ease off DH about it all, although the only time I do talk to him about it anyway, is when I get a pos opk (or as last week thought I was ovulating). I wish I could just "accidentally" get PG from DTD at ovulation but when he doesn't want another baby he won't come near without protection!!

I guess I'm cross too that it is up to him when like Atomic has said to others, he has made the decisions on where we live and everything else big (and I hate living in Canberra), I can't study what I want here, and I'm the one who does everything for the kids (and him), I never get any appreciation (don't ever get anything for my bday or Mother's Day and I'm lucky if he remembers at all) and I don't like that's it's still his decision to have another or not and there's nothing I can do about it.

He is being all nice this morning and asked if he could get me anything or a coffee or tea etc.... I just said no ThankYou but I really wanted to scream "I don't want tea, I want a baby!". 😢

Sorry, will stop venting now and being ungrateful! I have six amazing boys and I should be thankful that I have them when others struggle to have just one baby.

[SamS_TTCPink]

I hope you get your sticky BFP!! Maybe your DH is feeling a little overwhelmed at the moment. He will probably come around if you give him some space and time to think about things. Good luck! I think you have a good chance at a BFP!!

Thanks wantingpink. I hope so! 😀