DH can't "keep it cool" what can help?

[atomic sagebrush]

They're hanging out in the nuts in various stages of development.

You know, Hobber, my gut instinct is that there is something about day length that makes a difference (which is why October seems to be the "boy" month and that is separate from the heat factor. But if it puts your mind at ease at all, maybe Nov. would be a good compromise?? My concern is that most of us don't get pg that first month anyway, and if you postpone it too long, you may end up TTC in "girl" months, KWIM??

It makes more sense to me to start in Oct with the thought in mind that it may have some benefits we do not understand that are totally separate from temperature, with the idea in the back of your mind that it may not happen that first month and you may end up conceiving in Nov/Dec anyway.

[Flava]

Hobber-Im starting in Sept. because don't want to wait no more and also not sure we get bfp first try so why not start? Wanted to wait till Oct. but just can't so tired of diet and sups and it's so much money!
(but no way I would start in the summer lol)
I don't know about the day length but hope it's works for blue. Funny just noticed yesterday that now is almost all dark at 8pm and last month it was 9pm. So it's already going on!

[Hobbermittens]

They're hanging out in the nuts in various stages of development.

You know, Hobber, my gut instinct is that there is something about day length that makes a difference (which is why October seems to be the "boy" month and that is separate from the heat factor. But if it puts your mind at ease at all, maybe Nov. would be a good compromise?? My concern is that most of us don't get pg that first month anyway, and if you postpone it too long, you may end up TTC in "girl" months, KWIM??

It makes more sense to me to start in Oct with the thought in mind that it may have some benefits we do not understand that are totally separate from temperature, with the idea in the back of your mind that it may not happen that first month and you may end up conceiving in Nov/Dec anyway.

Yes, I have thought about it not happening right away too, though who knows. I have 2 that were conceived the first month (both "oops" babies) and one that took2 cycles to concieve. Our first attempt at that was Oct., we tried in Nov., and finally got pregnant in December. So who knows. It may be the same this time.

Flava, I see why you want to try next month. It is expensive and hard to do the diet, and it will be nice once we have BFPs!

[gizmo77]

It doesn't make sense to me to ice DH right before BD. Ideally, you should be icing all the time, as sperm is always being produced- and it is in a particular stage of spermatogenesis that temperature is important. The last portion is the most temperature resistant- so heat doesn't matter.

So when DH has a fever (like mine), the affect isn't seen right away- but your following cycle as motility and count are decreased. I think you should encourage DH to ice regularly, sleep in the nude, and no hot baths.

what about hot showers? is that a no no too?

[gizmo77]

Some years! Last year we were lucky, and fall was wonderful. It stayed nice until Halloween. But most years by Halloween, there is snow on the ground. The year my son was born, the temp on Halloween was in the single digits, so we didn't even take him out.

where is BFE??? sounds somewhere north :-)

[gizmo77]

so why IS october a "boy month?" and is the same true for the land down under? (since their seasons are opposite of ours)?

[Hobbermittens]

where is BFE??? sounds somewhere north :-)

"BumF*ckEgypt"--don't know where that saying came from, but it basically means the middle of nowhere. I live in rural Montana.

[gizmo77]

thats what i 1st thought when i saw BFE! ahhaha but i thought maybe there was an actual place!

[b3blue]

I don't know but just want to give you hugs Flava! My DH is in construction and is constantly hot, soaked in sweat for 12 hours a day. He already sleeps in next to nothing but he still sweats! Since we're not trying until oct (doctor's orders) here's hoping it will have cooled off more by then. I actually pray he'll be on night shift when the temps are at least in the low 60s.

[Flava]

thanks. Im starting to think we have all this girls because he is always so hot .