Atomic, I'm freaking out...

[maximbella]

Unsatisfying answer(s) are a) we don't know and b) it depends.

Yes, for the most part, O-3 thru O day is the functional fertile window. Very, very few of us can get pregnant from BD on O-4,5,6 or whatever and 99.9% of the people who think they got pregnant from BD on those days actually Oed the day that they believe they did.

BUT we don't know if BD on O-4/5/6 has any effect on gender swaying outcomes. Since we don't know why one attempt sways, we don't totally know if BD on O-5 for example could possibly affect things if you had another attempt on O-2 or whatever. We just don't know that. We don't THINK that it does since people are getting good results with every 4 days, but it is just not something we KNOW.

All I can say is that one attempt in O-3 thru O day is what I consider to be one attempt, and at the same time I would not want people to have attempts on O-4,5,6 while adding in one attempt O-3 thru O day because I do not think that's truly one attempt. Do I know this, no, but it is just my gut feeling.

Sorry Atomic, somehow missed this! Thank you, makes more sense!

Not feeling great about my chances this month, unfortunately. FF keeps changing my O date and its too hard to tell when it really was given the travel/open circles on my chart. I also realized a few days ago that my temping thermometer is all over the place and giving me huge variations, even when taking temps back to back. I took a frer test the last few days (which I'm probably anywhere from 6-12dpo, probably closer to 10-12dpo) and all tests have been stark white BFN's. Super bummed! Think there's any hope? I know this is supposed to be my one and only month, and I'm torn between thinking it wasn't meant to be and just being happy I have two healthy DD's, and also thinking about about begging DH for another month.

https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/24dd4d

[atomic sagebrush]

Can you post the chart in a post?? Sorry can't access the link.

[atomic sagebrush]

I do want to urge you to continue BDing even if you think you've Oed, if you guys aren't doing that. every 4 days in case O was delayed by your trip. for all we know you may not even have Oed yet!

[maximbella]

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Atomic, can you see that?

[maximbella]

Good morning, today's chart below. Woke up 45 mins later, so temp is a bit higher than yesterday, but still higher than cover line. Praying there's a chance somehow...

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[Burakoam]

Max FF seems to have started a new january chart and i cant tell whats going on anymore..did you start bleeding today bb?

[maximbella]

Burakoam, yes... Just updated the 2WW group. So bummed....

[atomic sagebrush]

Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear this. Is there any hope of convincing your hubby?

[maximbella]

Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear this. Is there any hope of convincing your hubby?

Thanks...and I'm going to try, Atomic! I feel like it's right for my family and it really wasn't fair to try for only one month. Can you remind me of how long it typically takes a healthy couple (I'm 35, he's 40) to conceive? I'm building my business case...

[atomic sagebrush]

It takes fully fertile couples doing nothing to sway and everything to get pregnant an average of 3-6 months to conceive.