Some thoughts on OCD

[atomic sagebrush]

Also I have always been highly more attracted to odd numbers. I always loved to be different

haha me too. I love odd numbers. drawing no conclusions there, just that I"ve never spoken to anyone else who likes odd numbers.

[hopper]

Well fair enough. I apologize for generalizing.

For sure in the regions I grew up in there is a strong preference for girls. It's rather hard to not notice, especially when shopping and finding nothing but girl clothes and accessories and a token single shelf of boy things.

I also got an awful lot of snide anti-boy comments even with my very first son.

Atomic - I agree that pigeon pairs are the 'golden' family makeup. However it sure seems that two girls are better accepted than two boys, at least where I live.

I too got those remarks on my first son. It HURT!! And sadly still does sometimes when I remember hearing them. I was in hospital, my son was feeding and was a bare 8 hours or so old. My pregnant sister in law came in, took one look and with a look of pity says "Oh no, you must be so disappointed! If i were you I would be trying to swap him for a girl." I got such a shock, yes I suffered slightly with GD after my first but just cause i was sure I was having a girl and then I mourned the loss of the girl I was full sure I was having. Would I give my boy back in exchange for the desired female child - not a hope in hell!! My sister in law went on to give birth to, yup you got it, a daughter 4 months later. Of course i cried that day but only because someone who can be so narrow minded, cruel and callous can so easily get their DG without even trying. Shes had two girls both of which were drunken accidents and then smoked and drank the first 20 weeks of both pregnancies!

As for beimg OCD I find I can be a little. When I get something in my head it takes hold of me until I have completed it. I am on anti anxiety meds for post partum anxiety and find the OCD is significantly less these days. I often wish I could be less OCD and more laid back about stuff. When it comes to TTC DH often jokes its a military operation!!!

[XXforhubby]

Also I have always been highly more attracted to odd numbers. I always loved to be different

Me too! I have always wanted 3 kids!! It seems everyone likes even numbers, and I too like to be different!!


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[mommymachine]

Me too! I have always wanted 3 kids!! It seems everyone likes even numbers, and I too like to be different!!


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Ha! That is the driving force behind me wanting to try for another baby. 5 is so....uneven! Watch me have twins next...

[The Anchor]

haha me too. I love odd numbers. drawing no conclusions there, just that I"ve never spoken to anyone else who likes odd numbers.

OMG. This is me too. Every lottery ticket...all odd numbers. When I spell out long words in my head, I especially appreciate when the number of letters is a multiple of 3. I've never told anyone that!!!

[gizmo77]

Even numbers for me. Need 4 kids. But also bc I feel like everyone has 3 and that's too common for me.

[maidentomother]

1+2+3, all my life I've been very drawn to ADD people. About halfof my closest friends are ADD. Props on sending your boys to a Montessori school! If/when I can't homeschool that's my first choice.

I very much like and enjoy being different, but I'm obsessed with symmetrh and even numbers in general. However, I'd be okay with 3 kids. At least 2, possibly 4. Definitely not 5. Maaaybe 6. Six was my dream when I still thought I had a chance of having kids young.

[BrightSky]

Hopper I can't believe your sister-in-law said that to you! You would think that no one had ever given birth to a boy before, you don't need ppl like that around!
Interesting thread, I do think advertising has a lot to answer for. I notice the most common family make up depicted is an older daughter and younger son. I see it in tv ads, shows.. even my sons story books! Very rarely do they show single gender families, I can only think of one car ad in Australia, were the family goes off camping. And an ad for baked beans.

[hopper]

Hopper I can't believe your sister-in-law said that to you! You would think that no one had ever given birth to a boy before, you don't need ppl like that around!
Interesting thread, I do think advertising has a lot to answer for. I notice the most common family make up depicted is an older daughter and younger son. I see it in tv ads, shows.. even my sons story books! Very rarely do they show single gender families, I can only think of one car ad in Australia, were the family goes off camping. And an ad for baked beans.

I could barely believe it myself! I had never seen or heard anyone so anti-boy before, it shocked me!!

I can't think of a single advert here in Ireland with a single gender family. What I found irritating this past year or so is the lack of Frozen merchandise aimed toward boys! My eldest LOVES Frozen, who's kids don't! And the handful of boy stuff that was around would be snapped up straight away with little hope of getting anything ourselves. First world problems for sure lol but still, it just annoyed me. Its just one of those things where companies cater purely towards girls and then have a token amount of boy stuff just to cover themselves.

[Pebbles&BamBam]

I could barely believe it myself! I had never seen or heard anyone so anti-boy before, it shocked me!!

I can't think of a single advert here in Ireland with a single gender family. What I found irritating this past year or so is the lack of Frozen merchandise aimed toward boys! My eldest LOVES Frozen, who's kids don't! And the handful of boy stuff that was around would be snapped up straight away with little hope of getting anything ourselves. First world problems for sure lol but still, it just annoyed me. Its just one of those things where companies cater purely towards girls and then have a token amount of boy stuff just to cover themselves.

My SIL finds out tomorrow what she is having! She is anti-girl (I had a girl first) I feel she will have a boy and that's all she 'll talk about! I thought I wanted to get it over and just know, but since the day is tomorrow, I am dreading the lifetime of comments that she will have regarding girls!

That is too bad on the Frozen merchandise! My kiddos are still too young for me to realize things like that, but I could see how that would be frustrating. I do have a close friend who has triplet boys and the LOVE princesses, they are 5 and she just let's them roll with it, they even own princess dresses. It is literally the coolest thing, because she doesn't limit her boys to male only toys, and I think its super cool she let's them be them and doesn't put limitations, which I think is sometimes harder for boys.