How do you tell relatives about pregnancy when they aren't going to be supportive?

[Hobbermittens]

My parents think we are over-extended already (we are) and my in-laws (especially my MIL) were not very supportive of #3 and I know they won't be supportive of #4 at ALL. I am 11 weeks, and we haven't told anyone yet. I am dreading telling family because I KNOW they are going to be very disappointed (especially the in-laws).

When and how should we tell them? Part of me just wants to wait until the baby is born, but my in-laws will be visiting us in May, and I am already so big, there is no way we will be able to hide the pregnancy by then.

Have any of you had to tell relatives who were non supportive? How did you do it? How did things turn out?

[Hobbermittens]

anyone?

[TTC5]

My dh sent everyone an email and made it very clear we will not tolerate any negative unsupportive comments this time.

[Princess of Pink]

Facebook...lol

I like to avoid conflict hehehehehe

[Hobbermittens]

Yeah--I thought about FB. I just think my MIL will especially tear me a new one if I do that. She already leaves me stupid comments on there about anything regarding our kids.

I think email might be the best way to go. Maybe I will wait until after the 20wk u/s and send a picture? How did your family respond to your email, TTC5?

[TTC5]

They don't deserve to know then

[Princess of Pink]

Make a really creative card...like an announcement...and post it out to everyone you don't expect to hear good things from. I did that with DD#5....but I hid my pregnancy until 20 weeks when I got my amnio results and announced gender and name at the same time!

[Hobbermittens]

How did everyone react?

[Princess of Pink]

So much better! I wasn't there for the initial rude comments and I think most people realised that they were not welcome if I had hid it for so long and not told them personally. And it avoided the comments from my own mother that I got with #3 and #4 that I was able to have an abortion, pregnancy didn't mean you had to keep it.

[Hobbermittens]

Wow, your mom said that? I'm sorry!

I wish I could hide it until 20 weeks, but I have already been asked once in the grocery store (I lied and said I was just fat) and I have caught a lot of people looking at my belly. I know I look way farther along than I am (I look about 6 months preg and I am only 11 weeks). Good thing family all lives out of state so I don't have to see any of them right now.