Why is it that...

[Mochagirl]

If you have more than two of one gender then get an opposite, the entire world feels it's their responsibility to tell you your baby 'needs' a same sex sibling, yet people with pigeon pairs are told they have the perfect family and yet neither of their kids has a same-sex sibling. So what's up with that?

[RedCanoe]

Why is it that people have an opinion and a need to share it about the gender makeup of another person's family at all?? Especially when it's something that most of us don't really get to choose anyway. AND because someone's perfect family makeup can be the complete opposite of another person's (as we have seen on these boards many times). It's frankly none of their business.

A few weeks ago my friend told me that she "doesn't agree with people having more than 2-3 kids." I had to laugh (because it's so stupid!) and asked her what made her imagine that she would get a vote on the number of kids me and DH had? I mean, seriously!

[Mochagirl]

I totally agree, RedCanoe! I remember after ds3 was born I kept having strangers peer rudely into my stroller and say 'too bad it wasn't a girl'. People can be so rude!

[auroara78]

I can't believe ppl could really do that! Your DS3 is so gorgeous too...how could anyone look at his face and not see a precious and beautiful baby but worry about gender?

I feel the pressure already for us to have a 4th and have a 2nd DD to give her 1st DD a "sister" since my "two boys" have each other. I'm not even sure we'll have a 4th, if we'll even sway girl, or boy (DH really does want a 3rd son), or if I'll do nothing and see where the cards lie.

Still, I can't believe that...there is nothing wrong with your daughter havign 3 older brothers to love her!

[RedCanoe]

Honestly, it's all so absurd anyway! What our kids *need* is to be part of a loving family, and that is what they have. End of story.

Kids are people, not some doll you can put into a neat little category. They come with their own personalities and will bond with who they bond in the family. There is no guarantee that two of the same gender will bond better or two that are closest in age or whatever. You could have another DD a year or two after the first one, but DD#1 could end up having most in common with her oldest brother and be the closest to him and not get along at all with DD#2.

[Mochagirl]

I agree. Besides, I grew up with 3 older brothers, and I had a great childhood!

[nestof3]

If this is confirmed girl she won't have a sister. I'm d-o-n-e!!

[Cinss]

In the situation where you have 2 + 1 people may see you in the light "you have 3, whats 1 more" and to have 2 of each would be even more perfect than the perfect pair. The people making these comments wouldn't dare approach a PP family and tell them they got it wrong, and they need to have another 2. Its like a PP family is seen as "complete and finished with children" so i dont really see it as a negative, PP families probably wonder why other peoples children always seem to get commented on, and theirs don't.

[coocoobananas]

If mine is a girl or boy.. They ain't getting another sibling either! I will never re live the 1st half of pregnancy again... And pretty sure there's no way to just do the 2nd half lol! Yuk

[Mochagirl]

Oh yeah, I'm definitely DONE after this little girl is born, and we would have been done even if it were a boy.