Ladies I need advice asap, please

[jgoodall08]

I'm sorry I'm so indecisive and annoying... I'm so nervous... Ok so yesterday morning we BD after 8 days of abstinence. I am likely going to ovulate on Thursday maybe Friday... So as of now I did a 4-5 day cutoff and that sways boy right?
So do I BD again tomorrow night for a 2 day cutoff, try an o+12.. or is that useless because some of the 4/5day cutoff spermies will already be waiting for the egg?? Or just hope the 4/5 day doesn't get me pregnant and try again next month? Regardless of what I do this month there will be no frequent release.. My dh just can't do that. Please help me figure this out

[rainbowflower]

cut offs don't actually sway either way but as sperm only live a few days (on average, a small % can last 7 days) you are drastically lowering your chances of getting pregnant at all

is your DH able to release twice in one day (not over a long period, but as a one off)

[rainbowflower]

cut offs don't actually sway either way but as sperm only live a few days (on average, a small % can last 7 days) you are drastically lowering your chances of getting pregnant at all

is your DH able to release twice in one day (not over a long period, but as a one off)

[atomic sagebrush]

cutoffs don't sway, there are going to be both X and Y sperm lying in wait for the egg.

I think abstain is best with one attempt so ~personally!~ while I'd not have had you do that long of a cutoff, it's done now and DTD 2 more times is only going to add sperm to the situation. Not only that, DTD every coulple of days like that will mean it's prob. going to be a larger, healthier batch than you'd got with abstain. I'd leave it for this month, read the essay below and then revisit the issue next month.
http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...le-timing.html

[atomic sagebrush]

That is, IF he can't do more than one attempt in a day. If he can then I'd do a hurry up FR.

[WantingPink]

I would concentrate your BD when you have fertile EWCM for a boy. I wouldn't do an O+12 attempt. I really do think that boy sperm thrive in the EWCM and girl sperm are better at getting through to the egg without it. This is JMO from what I have read and my own personal experience.

[jgoodall08]

Thanks ladies... Ugh I don't know if I can do this diet another month but I personally would feel more confident in a 10-12 day abstinence and a 2 day cutoff... I'm so bummed... It was our anniversay and I didn't want to not have sex...
I think it would be very difficult for him to ejaculate twice in a day... I can try it... Is it as reliable as a long abstinence witha one time BD? Even tho I'm pretty fertile you don't think those sperm from the 4 day cutoff will be there? I've read a lot of sways on ingender and on here and most girls seem to be conceived on a 2 day cutoff so I believe that sways somehow right ?

[Dreamofpink]

I thought I was really fertile in the autumn of 2011 when we started ttc with the ig diet and cut-off. IMHO diet & cut off is a perfect recipe for over a year of bfns, it's just too much for the spermies to take. Spend a bit more time reading the masses of well-researched info on this website and you'll see that timing is a load of bunkum. Please understand that I know exactly how hard it is to let go of ig theories ( a lot of ladies here do!)
I just wouldn't want you or anyone else to make the same mistakes as me and waste over a year for nothing
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[jgoodall08]

Thanks for all the help.... Ive been strict on the diet for a few weeks... But ate steak on our anniversary... Will that counteract all the dieting Iv e been doing?
Is that another reason to let this cycle just pass me by?
I took an opk this morning and it's getting dark ( mine fade in)... So im thinking I may Actually have a 3 day cutoff...but now that darn steak is gonna haunt me lol

[Dreamofpink]

Obviously it's your call as you have to be comfortable with your sway. Have you been on the diet for long? 6 weeks is the recommended bare minimum. One cheat meal won't ruin your diet though. There have been better results on here for more long term diets -3 months or so- but you always have a chance at your dg regardless.

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