Not even TTC and feeling defeated

[kaseybaby]

I am really trying to stress, but swaying is very overwhelming to me, mostly mentally. I feel like there are so many contradictions, so much to do, and it still isn't 100%. Then I think about all those mom's out there who are suffering from IF, and here I am trying to make my self more infertile.

I keep looking at these people who are pregnant and wishing they would have boys, and jealous of people having girls. I don't understand why I feel like this. I adore my son, and would love another DS, but I have this crazy desire for a DD. I wish I knew where it came from. I wish all the gender desire would just go away.

Rough day. THanks for letting me vent.

[nuthinbutpink]

I would get a plan together. There are probably some really obvious things that you and DH can change from your regular llifestyle that might make a big difference. Focus on that. Start a journal. See what things you can fit into your day that will sway pink for you. It is never 100%. Start with the obvious and then go from there!

[kaseybaby]

I would get a plan together. There are probably some really obvious things that you and DH can change from your regular llifestyle that might make a big difference. Focus on that. Start a journal. See what things you can fit into your day that will sway pink for you. It is never 100%. Start with the obvious and then go from there!

Thanks. I am trying to find more info on what DH needs to do because I am very focused on me. I just worry about making myself too unhealthy. I am on WW to lose the rest of my baby weight, but I only have 5 more lbs to go. After that I am not sure how much more weight I can lose and still be healthy, I am only 5'4 and I will be 117 lbs.

Thank you for the response. I don't know why I am like this today. I am usually a very positive person.

[kaseybaby]

I am going to move this to gender desire, I didn't realize there was separate place for posts like these

[lindi]

Hi kasey- I felt like this when I was planning a girl sway. It really got to me and made me feel a little hopeless about being able to "get a sway right". The stress was high for sure. It made me actually want a girl even more after for some reason, maybe because the swaying isn't 100%, and no matter how perfect I could be with a sway, it would never be 100%. That was a hard feeling. I'm with you. Those days make sense. Big hug.

[DoulaMama]

Big hugs! I know how you feel It's so hard somedays. I find it very overwhelming as well. What I did(and I can send you my draft of it if you like ) was write out in a word document everything that I've found that will help me to have a girl. I have timing, supps, diet, etc and it's all in one place. I am way more relaxed because I can look at it easily, print out the diet info and have it on hand- tacked to the fridge. I know that I will try my hardest to get my girl...but maybe I'm just meant to have boys Who knows! I hope it gets easier for you! XO
And if you want me to send you a copy of all the stuff I wrote out...just PM me!

[iluvmyman]

I'm swaying boy, but it really helped me to just write it all down and get it out of my head. I even posted it here on GD to get opinions or suggestions. You can double check specific questions easier once you have it written down. I also wrote down what I needed to do 2 weeks before, calendered when to start certain supplements and what to do 1 hour before. But I'm still nervous I didn't or won't do it right, or might forget something when it comes down to DTD, but I think that's probably normal.
I kind of feel like people may be swaying accidently just from their personal diet choices and lifestyle unknowingly, so why not do it on purpose. I don't feel bad just being more informed and making changes to sway the odds. It's not a guarantee anyway so why not! It is a huge blessing to be able to have children and be fertile and we should thank God for that, but I think it's OK to sway the odds a little.

[jude17]

I know how you feel. I desperately want a girl. Everyone around me at the moment has had or are having girls. I just can't believe that out of 10 people I am the only one to have a boy. This happened when I had my first son as well. I adore my sons but I am a bit depressed that I can't have a girl. I am trying to get a sway together but the information is so over whelming. Sometimes I think its just too much and I can't work out what to do and I will probably end up with 3 boys anyway. Its very stressful and I sometimes wish I could just be happy with 2 boys but its killing me being the only one not to have a beautiful little girl. I wish I could do high tech but we can't do it where I live so I am trying my best to get a plan together and if we get another boy I need to accept it and be happy with my boys. Gender desire sucks BIG time

[Coccinelle33]

im sorry your going though that. i always feel like that as well. i love all my boys and i know i would be happy with another boy but i always pray that whoever is pregnant has a boy because it just makes me so sad for a few days. i just sit there and think how come they get a girl when they didn't even try or didn't want one and i try so hard and keep having boys. big hugs!!!!

[Flava]

I feel the same some days...There is so much info to read and I forget things and don't remember good and for sure I will screw up (again!) it's like I need someone to help me out here with all this . I really don't even know what big changes we suppose to do?? So what we did now changed the diet and drinks. We use to drink diet pepsi all day long! Now it's green tea, v8 juice, water and so.
So maybe you can try to change this at first?
Oh and you can wish me to be pregnant with a boy any time!!