Want a Girl but limited by autism

[nikcib]

Hello everyone. I've been a lurker for some time. I had planned on doing a full sway complete with diet and exercise but some things have come up to prevent that. Mainly, my two year old second son was diagnosed with high functioning autism. Based on some things I've read, I do not want to risk the LE diet at this point. I have been taking prenatals and folic acid for the last 2 months in order to prepare my body to be the healthiest for a baby's developing brain. I just can't take the risk of the sway failing and having another boy with autism (since the risk is greater with boys). Obviously, I could still have another autistic child (first son is healthy) but I couldn't live with myself if I didn't do everything to prevent it by being as healthy as possible.

That said. I guess I could do exercise but I really don't have time. I wanted to be pregnant already and don't have time to wait 6-8 weeks for it to be active. Plus, I really don't have time during the day at this point with all the therapies and whatnot. Plus I am working this year in order to provide better health insurance for the therapies than what my husband's company offers. So I am trying to sneak this pregnancy in during the summer so that I can work up until then and then take a year off with the baby and maybe do cobra or something.

So my plan is to do CFR, antihistamine and possibly alcohol? What other things do you girls suggest. I would really like a girl but would be happy with a healthy boy. Healthy is most important to me now which I guess is a nice perspective shift for me. I used to be obsessed with the girl thing but now I just want to be a mom to a little boy or girl that hopefully will meet all their milestones.

[3boys531]

Any chance you would look at doing HT for a girl. Where do you live?

[atomic sagebrush]

To my way of thinking it's a step in the wrong direction to include alcohol if you're worried about baby's health, so let's just cross that one off the list right here and now.

What I would do if I were you is just stick with one attempt and antihistamine, maybe some Sylk or Acijel or a douche??

If you must, you can do CFR, I personally am kinda over the frequency stuff because it seems to me that the one attempt is really what is doing the heavy lifting and the frequency is just getting in the way of conception.

OF COURSE it is totally your sway and you need to do what YOU feel comfortable with. But for others reading this thread, I hope it goes without saying that I would never ever ever on pain of death, advocate anything that I did not believe to be safe. If you look at the sharp rise in autism rates over the last couple of decades, it's happened concurrent to people taking scads of vitamins and eating better and more than they ever have access to in human history (I'm not saying that taking vitamins cause autism, just that it does not make sense to me that it is a lack of nutrients causing autism, and I don't want to debate about it either because I odn't have time and it's not the function of this site really).

Everyone please follow what your heart tells you to do for a sway because at the end of it all, swaying is no guarantee anyway and you must never do anything that you are not fully comfy with.

[nikcib]

Thank you so much atomic for the fabulous site and for your prompt reply. I guess I agree with the alcohol thing. I just know with my second son I wasn't taking any prenatals or folic acid and it gives me something to do. I'm not trying to debate it. I have no clue why my 2nd DS had a brain that developed so differently and my first is healthy. I just read some autism sites and they recommend fish oils to promote healthy development and plenty of folic acid. Similar to this site, which is based on science, a lot of conjecture and personal experience.... a lot of parents have reported successes with subsequent children being typical even after 2 or 3 prior children on the spectrum with this protocol. Again, not trying to argue or debate just showing you where MY head is at. I'm fully aware I could end up with another son on the spectrum but I just want to have a clear conscience just in case.

I know you would never advocate anything unhealthy. That is why I have only come to your site. It seems the most reasonable and research-based of any I have seen. Admist all these people still promoting shuttles or shuttles-like theories, it's like an oasis of sensibility.

My first two sons were conceived on ovulation day with one attempt after 2-3 days of abstaining. I have incredibly high amounts of cervical mucous and got pregnant both times on the first cycle that I did not use protection. Over the past 6 years, I have avoided pregnancy by using timing to my advantage and having DH pull out.

I have thought about doing the douche but almost don't even know where to start. I've never ever used one.

I just want to do frequent release and one attempt. I am going to have DH take care of business himself in the mornings and have him pull out at night before the attempt. Then I am going to time our one attempt 1-2 days before ovulation. I know cut-offs don't work but sometimes I ovulate a day early or even 2 days early and I'm afraid to miss it. I then worry it will be too far off but oh well. I'm just trying to change a few of the variables. The first two pregnancies had very similar variables so I am trying to switch it up as much as possible but also by keeping current research in mind.

The diet is also hard for me because I have a tendency to pass out when I lose weight. I thought exercise would be the best route but unfortunately couldn't keep up with the ZUMBA. I suck. Feeling stressed.

To my way of thinking it's a step in the wrong direction to include alcohol if you're worried about baby's health, so let's just cross that one off the list right here and now.

What I would do if I were you is just stick with one attempt and antihistamine, maybe some Sylk or Acijel or a douche??

If you must, you can do CFR, I personally am kinda over the frequency stuff because it seems to me that the one attempt is really what is doing the heavy lifting and the frequency is just getting in the way of conception.

OF COURSE it is totally your sway and you need to do what YOU feel comfortable with. But for others reading this thread, I hope it goes without saying that I would never ever ever on pain of death, advocate anything that I did not believe to be safe. If you look at the sharp rise in autism rates over the last couple of decades, it's happened concurrent to people taking scads of vitamins and eating better and more than they ever have access to in human history (I'm not saying that taking vitamins cause autism, just that it does not make sense to me that it is a lack of nutrients causing autism, and I don't want to debate about it either because I odn't have time and it's not the function of this site really).

Everyone please follow what your heart tells you to do for a sway because at the end of it all, swaying is no guarantee anyway and you must never do anything that you are not fully comfy with.

[nikcib]

I live in Massachusetts. We thought about hi-tech but it just didn't feel right for us. Plus it's expensive and takes a lot of time. I would like to have my kids be no more than 4 years apart and waiting for hi-tech would push that envelope.

[Quad7114]

I understand how you feel about the Autism. My 12 yr old is on the spectrum but I've had 2 boys since then and they are fine. Just know that just incase your sway goes opposite to not worry thru an entire pregnancy. It is tough and the last 10 years haven't been easy. I just have learned a lot about myself thru out those years and try to find the positive thru the good and bad.

Good luck on your sway and keep us posted

[atomic sagebrush]

nikcib, please don't feel like you need to "butter my balls" as my husband would say, it's always your decision and your choice, I just needed to address the claim for the others who read this and then will send my frantic messages about it or worse go around telling people LE Diet causes autism or something (which I know you didn't say that, it's how things get interpreted on the internet sometimes unfortunately.) When I comment I intend it for the population as a whole and not as a rebuke or argument to any one poster.

Please don't feel stressed out or that swaying is impossible for you. Swaying is a radio dial, not a light switch - there is a misconception that if you can't do EVERYTHIGN, you may as well not do anything, and that is simply not the case. It is fine to make little changes in the pink direction without going the whole hog. http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...s-swaying.html

Just wanted to clarify, you do realize that we have all swayers taking higher than normal doses folic acid, (both pre and post conception)?? Did you not take folic during pregnancy or were you talking about before conception?? Everyone should start prenatals and DHA immediately upon BFP and continue higher than normal dose of folic acid beginning before pregnancy and continuing throughout the first trimester. I would also recommend iodine supps 150 IU for anyone who does not eat much seafood or dairy when swaying pink, and/or use iodized salt while swaying.

[rainbowflower]

I think the exercise could still be an option for you, along with cinnamon and skipping breakfast. I'd just build it up slowly - starting soon. Even 30mins cardio a day will lower blood glucose some and won't raise T levels much. You may not conceive first cycle, so would be doing it a comfortable length by the time you get a BFP anyway.

Lowering blood glucose may be a key sway aspect for you (cinnamon does this as does the exercise).

I can understand you not wanting to do the LE diet, or any swaying diet... but there are dietary changes you could still make that don't involve scraping by on limited nutrients: skipping breakfast every day can give 60% girls compared to the 49% average. Being vegetarian also gives around 55% girls... not that they're necessarily cumulative if you did both it doesn't mean you'd get 66%...but you may have a good chance that way even without restricting nutrients and counting calories. If vegetarian diet isn't for you, I'd at least drop red meat/limit animal products. I'd also cut sugar out if you can - that would be a healthy change and may sway pink if you are sensitive to T-levels and sugar is another of those things that may cause autism.

[atomic sagebrush]

^^^agree but think that more than 30 min. of exercise is much more reliable.