Any of you NOT sway and get your desired gender??

[Houseofblue]

So I will be ttc #4 soon and am on the fence about swaying. I know there are plenty on the swaying board who say they got their DG due to swaying, but I sometimes wonder if they would have gotten their DG anyway.

Anyway, not trying to start a debate, just wanted to hear from those of you who either did "perfect" sways and did not get your DG, or didn't do anything differently with your DG (didn't sway, diet was the same as with your previous children, etc). I want to hear from you guys because like I said, I'm on the fence about swaying (leaning more towards not, although I started taking some supps and avoiding certain food about 2 months ago just in case) and think if I hear both sides it will help me come to a decision I am comfortable with.

Thanks!

[lovemy2blessings]

I would like to know as well

[hotdogz&boyz]

I'd be interested as well. We are similar to you. We have a slight preference and I'm on the fence about swaying. Some days I want to and sometimes I'd like to not and just let nature take its course. But we have a while to decide what exactly (or not) we are going to do.

I know one person IRL with a gender desire who didn't have time to sway before finding herself pregnant. They got their desire despite making no changes. However, she was much older conceiving that child than she was with the other three. It was also "only" the second child with her new husband (the older two from a different relationship). But that wasn't me, just someone I am close enough to to talk about and know some of the details on (aka: she told me they planned to sway and got pregnant before they could start and was "sure" it wasn't her DG because of that fact).

[Mumof3girls]

I was trying to figure out if I should go HT or sway 2yrs ago. I had this strange feeling about doing HT because I thought I was the only person going through GD & I felt weird about using IVF when I didn't need to. I think if I had support like this forum back then I would have done it. I didn't know much about HT either. We decided to sway & we even went on a holiday to the US and could have done a cycle but we swayd instead and got our DD3. I guess thats when the GD kicked in and I started looking into HT more thorouly. I am too scared to try swaying again and we are going HT this time and even if it doesn't work I will not try naturally again. I just wanted to experience bringing up both genders & and I didn't prefer one gender or the other even for my first child.

[motherofboys]

I'm also on the fence. I know from with DS4 (didn't sway) there were those in the same 'due in' month forum as me who had swayed and didn't get their desired gender, I also know from another forum a lady who has 4 boys, didn't sway and is expecting her 1st girl.
I feel that swaying might raise my hopes. But I also feel if I don't sway, and I do get a 5th boy, then I'll feel I didn't try my hardest. Like swaying may bring a certain closure and I can say "I gave it my best shot, this is how things are meant to be".

[sallygal]

We did a good sway (well I thought it was pretty good- le diet, low ph, refresh douche, timing, abstain then one attempt, supps, can't remember if there was anything else now!!) and ended up with ds3 who is absolutely perfect. It was all pretty consuming at the time so after we found out we were having another boy I said to dh that if we were to have another I wouldn't do anything and just leave it up to chance (which I believe it totally is, no offence to all the swayers!).

Anyway we have decided that we are going to have another but we are not going to leave it to chance and going ht this year. Unless u know u wouldn't mind having another boy I think ht is the only guarantee. It is a lot of money but an investment to complete our family!

And in saying that I know a lot of people that didn't do any swaying and had different genders! Good luck with your decision! X

[wantingonemore]

I swayed pink pretty hard for pregnancy no3. (the first 2 were random conceptions) and still got another boy now we are on the HT path.

I think swaying is great to try as long as you are prepared to get the other gender. I can't imagine life without DS 3 - he is such a joy to all of us and his big brothers adore him, but I still want a DD to balance our family.

Good luck!

[snipsnsnails]

I have 3 boys and was always very fertile. Pregnant first try with all three! We decided we really wanted a DD to complete our family. I looked into HT because I wanted the guarantee. Well after 2 rounds of IVF I responded terribly to it. So natural fertility has nothing to do with ivf. On my second round I did get 2 girls and 1 was a hatching blast, thought for sure I would get pregnant. Nope a bfn! I knew I was done with ht. it wasn't working my oldest was 7 and I was 35 I didn't want to waste more time and money. So I researched swaying. At this point I just wanted a baby but would sway hard for a girl.
I completely changed my diet took sups, everything in my plan. My dh followed everything too. On our first attempt bfp! Now 20 weeks with my little girl.
If I didn't sway and my dh didn't change his habits I would've had boy 4... I really believe swaying and some praying,lol brought our little girl!
Best of luck with your decision.

[Houseofblue]

Thanks to everyone who responded! Wow so much to think about!!

I used to post on IG a few years back and was obsessed with going HT, back then I thought it might be a possibility but our financial situation is worse now than it was then. Our credit is shot too so no finances to fund it. I also have some issues with HT (not ethical issues but heard some bad stories that I won't go into here).

I just turned 36 so time is not on my side. I conceived my boys very quickly (1st or 2nd month trying) but also have a history of multiple losses (4). My hubby is in his mid-40s and has low T and low SC (has for a while actually, only just now finding out). A few months ago I started showing signs of estrogen dominance (started having night sweats on O day and also day before and of AF starting, heart palps, among other things)...I started fish oil and all of that went away! But now I am worried about my fertility. I found out fish oil sways boy, but estrogen dominance sways boy too and I would rather fix any fertility issues that may come...don't wanna not get PG at all, you know?

So I just don't know if I want to sway. I have been on gender boards for years now (DIG, then IG, and now this one), and have seen just as many sway fails as I have successes. I am still not entirely convinced it works, but since dh and I have said this will be our last child part of me wants to do something "extra" to feel like I did all I could, even if I am not sure it works. At the same time, I am worried if I sway and it fails I will feel worse b/c I would have made myself believe my chances were much higher, kwim?

Please keep the responses coming!!!

[atomic sagebrush]

It is always possible, and in fact PROBABLE, that people will eventually get the opposite gender if they have enough kiddos. If you look at the Duggar family, they had a run of B/G, a run of boys, and a run of girls that all were longer than most of us even have.

The reason why people sway is because most of us would like that to happen sooner rather than later and don't want to have to "Duggar it out". If you look at the statistics, we are getting about 80% with boy sways (meaning that some of us leading boy-friendly lifestyles may have been as much as 80% likely to have boys) and then 65-75% with girl sways (this can vary by what tactics were included while blue sways are pretty similar). So even though swaying is not 100% and never will be, to go from possibly 80% likely to have a boy, to 75% likely to have a girl, does seem to show that at least some of us are getting the opposite gender not because of luck or that we were "due" to but something really does appear to be working.

In terms of people you see/know IRL, there are lots of things that happen in people's lives that are swaying that may not be visible to the naked eye. People are never in the same place physically that they were with previous conceptions, there are just too many variables that come into play. People ~really~ did exactly the same thing with all their kids? REALLY? How is that even possible - answer, it's not possible because we are not lab rats in a cage LOL and even just having had our kiddos can affect our bodies in unpredictable ways.

My thinking is that if HT is ever an option, people should go that route instead because while odds of success with HT do fall off sharply over time But to my mind, if the choice is between swaying and just TTC naturally, then there's no harm in doing a laid back sway.

What I do want people to avoid (and this is truer of pink swayers than it is blue) is launching "the Great Sway of 2014" where your testosterone shoots through the roof because that really IS going to be worse for pink sways than doing nothing at all. Full explanation is here. http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...ypothesis.html