Anyone getting slack from others for your diet/sway?? How do you deal with it?

[happyheart]

I have been pretty careful about keeping my sway to myself. Mostly because I do not want people to say to me "aww.. and you tried so hard for a girl and you got another boy".

However, one of my good friends is giving me a very hard time about the low everything diet. She keeps asking me what I am eating and telling me that this can not be good for me or conceiving.

Is this happening to you? What do you say?

[zanacal]

Nobody knows I'm doing a girl diet except DH and my sister - but she doesn't know the details and I don't see her often so it's not an issue. So have you told your friend that you're trying for a girl or just that you're trying for a baby?

[Zivic-Bubac]

My swaying mission is top secret I told only DH, cos I thought he would notice anyway but even he doesn't know the details - mostly because he doesn't want 3rd child at all

I guess I would told: How about minding your own business? or How come you are such a swaying expert? or You have nothing better to do AGAIN? or...I have other mean replies LOL!

Or tell her that you've read the diet like zillion times ( which is the fact) and probably ( or like 100%) know better than she.

[happyheart]

Thank you for your replies! zanacal ~ she knows that this is my last baby and that I am trying for a girl. I thought that she would have reacted differently being my really good friend...

Love your replies Zivic-Bubac!! Thank you!

From now on.. I am keeping this to myself!

[purplepoet20]

If someone notices and ask me I just say I am on a dr approved diet to reprogram my digestion... if they want more info I just say that they need to talk to their dr about what diet is best for them.

[Out of the Blue]

GREAT ANSWER!!! I personally have told no one AT ALL except for DH. Like ZB, my sway is TOP SECRET! Hoping you can get her off your back...TTC and swaying is hard enough w/out someone second-guessing you, especially a close friend.

[atomic sagebrush]

You may want to read this essay I wrote about this. http://genderdreaming.com/forum/show...girl-sway-diet

People mean well but they've been kinda brainwashed by the vitamin salespeople and the four food groups into thinking that unless you're taking massive quantities of nutrients you're going to ruin your health and have a three-headed baby. But if anything, we are OVERnourished, not undernourished (hence the obesity epidemic - which BTW being overweight is a lot riskier for an unborn baby than being a few pounds underweight when you conceive and then eating normally during pg.)

Most of human existence, we lived on the African savannah eating a handful of grass seeds, a rotten banana, and a couple bites of gazelle a day if we were LUCKY and yet the human race has not only survived but thrived. Pretty much all the great minds in human history, Shakespeare, Michelangelo, Einstein, etc. were born to moms who were NOT taking prenatal vitamins and were almost certainly not even eating what we consider to be a balanced diet.

Obviously I don't want anyone to overdo it with swaying, but eating a 1500-1800 calorie diet with 20-30% fat and 40-50 g of protein is actually GOOD for health. In fact, 1500-1800 calories is what fertility doctors typically advise as a safe caloric intake for HT (which is actually harder to get pg than naturally).

[happyheart]

Thank you sooooo much Atomic!! I will check out the link! Sooo true! I appreciate it sooo much!!!