Wish box

[1moregirl]

This probably sounds really silly but i am in the process of creating a wish box for myself and my wish for one last baby girl. It's a pink shoe box from my daughter and I am decorating it and placing things inside it that represent my wish for a baby girl. I read about this idea online. Apparently you hold onto it once a day and imagine a yellow glow around it and you imagine yourself holding onto your dream (in my case, imagine myself holding a baby girl). I did something similar years ago when I lived on my own but with a yellow poster in my bedroom. Yellow is a positive colour and represents hope as well. On my poster I placed all the things I hoped for at the time. Sounds silly, but I had on it a picture of a couple on their wedding day and pasted a photo of my face on the bride's face. There were also pictures of babies on it. It was not long after that I met my now husband and here we are today happily (most of the time married with three beautiful children. Just thought I'd share this in case anyone else would like to try them. Good luck. xx

[atomic sagebrush]

It is a lovely idea but I think that visualizations can be risky for pink swayers because it feeds into those feelings of "swaycession" but hey, if it is helpful to you, please ignore my reservations.

[1moregirl]

Yes I know what you're saying Atomic. Ultimately, we need to feel positive about a healthy baby in general regardless of what gender the baby is. And I will be constantly reminding myself of that. If I was lucky enough to make it to a 12 week scan and was told it was a healthy baby boy - I would cry with relief and happiness because the baby is healthy and I'm completely aware of all the risks of having babies in our 40s so to be pregnant with a healthy baby is ultimately my number 1 goal. So I totally get where you are coming from. That sort of realisation could lead to gender disappointment, if you didn't keep your mind open.

[maidentomother]

Unfortunately I agree with atomic, I think visualisation can often be counterproductive when swaying pink bc of how similar it is to obsession. I personally wouldn't risk it. Pink swaying is rather unique in this sense; it's a process that doesn't benefit from the attitude that so many boy mom type women have pursued other accomplishments in life successfully.

[1moregirl]

Each to their own I think. It's certainly not an obsession for me. I don't even really think of it as visualisation. To me it's more like setting a goal and then trying to achieve it. The poster worked for me so I thought it wouldn't hurt to try this either. My box isn't out on display either. It's put away in a drawer and I'm the only one who knows about it.

[Dreamofpink]

Setting a goal and trying to achieve it is what can undermine a pink sway though.

Three beautiful boys and my longed-for DD due in June 2016!

[1moregirl]

Setting a goal and trying to achieve it is what can undermine a pink sway though.

Three beautiful boys and my longed-for DD due in June 2016!

How exactly do you work that out? Every woman that has joined this website and is following a sway plan has set a goal for themselves and is trying to achieve it. Obviously though we each need to go into our sway with open minds knowing that our sway might not work, yet our ultimate goal is to have a healthy baby.

[1moregirl]

Unfortunately I agree with atomic, I think visualisation can often be counterproductive when swaying pink bc of how similar it is to obsession. I personally wouldn't risk it. Pink swaying is rather unique in this sense; it's a process that doesn't benefit from the attitude that so many boy mom type women have pursued other accomplishments in life successfully.

Could you please explain your last sentence Maiden as its not making sense to me sorry. Thankyou

[Dreamofpink]

How exactly do you work that out? Every woman that has joined this website and is following a sway plan has set a goal for themselves and is trying to achieve it. Obviously though we each need to go into our sway with open minds knowing that our sway might not work, yet our ultimate goal is to have a healthy baby.

Have you read any of Atomic's essays with regards to the Maternal Dominance Hypothesis?

Three beautiful boys and my longed-for DD due in June 2016!

[atomic sagebrush]

Here is the thing. I think I could spend an hour trying to explain this (and I mean this kindly) you would hear what you want to hear. If you want to do visualizations and set goals and hope and dream that is absolutely your prerogative to do it. I don't think it's best for a pink sway and so I am obligated to chime in and say that not only for you but also for the others who might be reading it and then decide to do the same thing. I don't think it's a good idea but if you want to do it I hope it works for you.