sorry another timing question

[gizmo77]

ugh, i know this has been asked a million times.

i typically O on cd 17 but its sometimes in the morning sometimes at night. (who really knows for sure).

dh took thursday (cd17) off so that wednesday (cd16) we can attempt. he says he doesnt mind doing it twice (once on both cd 16 and cd17)but i mind. i want to do it only once and as close to O as possible. should i just grit my teeth and do it once on cd16? but then what if i dont O till late cd17? isnt that too far?

should i do both cd16 and cd17, but what if sperm count drops the 2nd time?

ugh..i keep going back adn forth.

my OPK this afternoon (cd15) was negative. should i test again this evening?

[TTC5]

You could go the morning of CD 16 and then wait 36 hrs and go CD 17 at night time, aLTHOUGH if you do ovulate the morning of cd 17 you may then risk and O+12...

I would prob be more inclined to go for the day before ovulation, do you use opks?

[gizmo77]

yes. negative twice today (cd15)

[CapricornAquarius]

Gizmo i think you would be safe to dtd on the 16th & 17th, you dont want to miss your chance & thats close enough, its not like your dtd 4-5 days ealier, i think you would still be safe for your attempt for a boy.
I also will be dtd 1 day before O, on O & also a day aftet O.
Dd1 Dd2 ttc a dec

[gizmo77]

arent you worried about O+12 tho? or decreasing sperm count by doing it every day?
even tho i know some ppl get boys DTD'ing everyday...
id ont know still!

[gizmo77]

okay i just got my 1st positive OPK today around 2pm.
i did some research and some say you O around 8-48 hrs after 1st positive opk, the opk manual says 24-36hrs after 1st positive OPK, and some info on here or justmommies or IG says to DTD 12 hours after the 1st OPK.

my options are to DTD tonight (8 hrs after my 1st positive) or tomorrow afternoon (around 24 hrs after my 1st positive).

which one would you guys do and why????? i cant decide!! why am i so caught up with this?

[zanacal]

FWIW, I chose to DTD once as close to O as possible for my pink sway! I don't think it matters when you DTD in relation to O but I think the amount of sperm do - and I only wanted to DTD once to keep sperm count low. If you do it twice (more even!) then your sperm count is going to be higher, even if what you add on your subsequent attempt/s isn't as much as what you got on your first attempt. I hope that makes sense! I also don't think you need to worry about an O+12 if there are plenty of sperm on the scene already when you ovulate because those are the ones which will capacitate and make it to the egg first.

[TTC5]

I'd go tonight What is your cm like??

[gizmo77]

FWIW, I chose to DTD once as close to O as possible for my pink sway! I don't think it matters when you DTD in relation to O but I think the amount of sperm do - and I only wanted to DTD once to keep sperm count low. If you do it twice (more even!) then your sperm count is going to be higher, even if what you add on your subsequent attempt/s isn't as much as what you got on your first attempt. I hope that makes sense! I also don't think you need to worry about an O+12 if there are plenty of sperm on the scene already when you ovulate because those are the ones which will capacitate and make it to the egg first.

zan, i hear what youre saying. but i guess im afraid of the girl sperm pushing back the guys perm if i do it 2wice in a row but what youre saying makes sense. why are you doing it so close to O for girl?

i guess anyone can look at it differently.

what im worried about is the last time i tested was yesterday (cd15) at 8pm. and then today cd16 at 2pm. so im worried i could have had a surge anywhere from last night after 8pm till today at 2pm. and so say i surged at 9am this morning (but didnt test) that would make me more comfy to DTD tonite bc it will have been at least 12 hrs since 1st opk.

another thing does any one know what hormone it is that creates the DIP in charting BBT (i know that progesterone causes the spike AFTER you O, and i know that LH is the last hormone to surge prior to O). so is it LH that causes teh dip or what/?

so far im thinking of just doing it tomorrow (cd17) afternoon when the kids "nap." hope we dont get interupted.

but debating to add on a DTD tonite as well or not..?

just to let you know, my 2 friends who got pg the same day. one with boy one with girl, the one with boy DTD 3xs in one day and the one with girl just once. figures. the one with the boy did some swaying attempts just ate healthier and ACV.

[gizmo77]

I'd go tonight What is your cm like??

ewcm. very fertile. but i expect to be fertile tom too.
you think tonite AND tomorrow afternoon or just once?