Thoughts on BD timing?

[maximbella]

Ladies, need some advice. My plan was to dtd e4d, but DH has been pulled out of town for work and it's gotten in the way! [emoji19]. He finally comes home tonight. CB digital has given me high flashing smiley read and I started getting ewcm (not a lot, but some) yesterday and again today. Should we plan to dtd tonight and then again once I get a positive opk (which could be as soon as tomorrow), or should we just hold off until I get a positive opk? Thanks so much!!


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[maximbella]

Here's today's chart for reference:




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[atomic sagebrush]

BD tonight and then again in either 4 days or positive OPK whichever comes first. Don't forget to keep going with e4d after pos OPK attempt too in case of delayed O.

[maximbella]

Thanks, Atomic! So tonight, and in the event of a positive OPK tomorrow, then again tomorrow night? Wanting to make sure I only get one time in fertile window. Thanks SO much!

[atomic sagebrush]

Well, that's not what I'm saying really. You can't GO for just one attempt in fertile window since this is your only month.

You need to DTD every 4 days, just keep going with that pattern, and then whenever you get a positive OPK in addition to that.

What you're describing would be 3 attempts in fertile window possibly.

Do e4d ALL month long before and after O, and then in addition add in one more attempt at pos OPK. Does this make sense?

Since your DH was gone that cycle would be disrupted so I want you to pretend you were doing that, and then start the e4d last night (hopefully you BD) and then again at OPK or at the e4d mark whichever comes first.

[maximbella]

Hi Atomic, thanks for your help! My DH got home super late from a delayed flight 2 nights ago, and then last night we had our daughter sick in our bed, so we haven't been able to BD. We also have his mom in town staying with us, so it's made it a bit more complicated. Here's where I need your help and advice dearly...

I'm CD22 today and really thought I'd have the solid smiley this morning on digi as opk's have been getting darker, but not quite positive, but it was another flashing smiley (although I can O anywhere up to CD25). I'm starting to worry that I actually already O'd and my opk's didn't pick it up somehow. We didn't BD last night because I was afraid to get the solid smiley this morning and then feel like I had to BD again, which would be twice in the fertile window. Here are my opk's and my chart. I do have a rise in temps for last two days, but honestly haven't slept well both nights, up a lot with DD, and had a lot to drink the night before to calm down, so not sure if they could be an o rise or due to lack of sleep/drinking.

What do you think? Please let me know what I should do at this point...should I BD when DH gets home in 4 hours, or wait until tonight, or just wait at this point to get the solid smiley on digi (which hopefully is any day now!). Please let me know...

Cheapies on top, started testing twice a day. Last one on bottom of cheapies is from last night at 10pm with a 2 hour hold. The digits are in reverse order, with this mornings on top.

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[atomic sagebrush]

You need to BD twice in fertile window. I want you to do that because this is your only month trying and you need to be in with a decent chance of conception.

What I don't want you to do is BD 3 times in fertile window because at that point the "blueness" of it may outweigh the boost to conception.

BD as soon as you possibly can. You may never GET a positive OPK. That is why we do the every 4 days method is to cover the situations where people do not get positive OPK. THEN in addition to that, I want you to have another attempt at positive OPK if you get one.

Again, you need to start going with every 4 day method RIGHT AWAY because this is our safety net in case you don't get that positive OPK. Then because you only have one more month at this, we want to add in one more attempt at positive OPK TOO (which will end up being 2 attempts, and that is ok because if you don't get pregnant you have ZERO chance of a DD) but also continue going with every 4 days if you get a positive OPK or if you don't because that is our safety net in case your positive OPK was a faker and you didn't actually O.

You can have both a fake negative and a fake positive OPK. By doing e4d you are at least in with an attempt that way.

I do not recommend you waiting for a positive OPK that may never come. Then your month is gone and you have not had an attempt. please BD right away, again in 4 days' time (and continue with that) and then whenever, if ever you get pos OPK, attempt again then in addition to the e4d.

[maximbella]

Thanks atomic. I understand and appreciate you responding so quickly. Is BD tonight too late? Does it literally need to be now? We are out with DD's but can try to swing it somehow lol...


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[atomic sagebrush]

BD tonight is fine.

[maximbella]

Hi atomic! We did BD last night (finally!) and today at 11am had the darkest opk that I've had thus far this cycle (see below, last one). My digi this morning still said high, not peak. I'm not 100% certain that the cheapie below is totally positive, but if I wake up tomorrow and the digi says peak and the cheapie is still dark, should we BD again tomorrow morning or night? Appreciate your thoughts.







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