update on me

[atomic sagebrush]

SOMEWHERE in these posts someone asked about what my TTC plans were and I was busy and didn't answer right away, and I cannot for the life of me find it now!! And I know there has been some confusion about what I am swaying for this time (if there is a "this" time).

Anyway, as you guys may remember, I had the 3 boys and I was swaying pink with my 4th. I got pg on a swaying break and ended up with twins, one of whom I lost early on and never knew the gender, and then my 4th boy, who is a dream come true.

Through the course of all this I made a lot of peace with my GD. There will always be that part of me that would have loved to have a daughter, but really, honestly, if I am to get pg again, it makes more sense for our family to have another boy. We have boy clothes, boy toys, our whole family is geared up for boys, and I have really come to realize how much I treasure being a mom of all boys. GD is something I have left behind me. So, at such time when/if I do get pg again, I'm going to sway blue gently and I will be happy either way, no worries.

My husband seemed like he was getting on board with another baby until just a couple weeks ago, when we received the news that our insurance plan had gotten a lot worse and we would have to pay double out of pocket expenses to have another baby - $4000. That's a pretty major expense for us and my husband has gotten cold feet over it. We also are bursting at the seams in our house and are working on building another one but it is taking forever.

Plus, me being 40 years old...it's a risky situation. For right now, I am just maintaining and trying to be at peace with whatever the future holds.

[pinksapphire]

I'm so sorry about the insurance situation. That's tough! Is that a one time deal of $4000 for a new baby or is it every year if you have another baby?

I think the question is: Will you totally regret not trying to have another baby if you decide that you can not do it financially or if your DH decides against it at this time in life?

I have a friend who is 54 and has two grown children (girls). She said that she always regrets that she didn't try for a boy or didn't try for a third at all. She tells me this all the time as she doesn't know that we've actually tried for some time ourselves. She always tells me that situations can change and that you'll never regret another baby especially if you truly think you'll regret not trying years down the line, like she does.

Just think that you'll have a new house soon & have plenty of room for another child.....boy or girl!

I think it'll be great, too, if you decide to TTC because it'll be mostly stress-free for you. Either way, boy or girl, you are going to be happy. How wonderful is that!

Lastly, since you are a fabulous mother, I think you go ahead and do it!

[nuthinbutpink]

$4000 is a lot. Things have a way of working themselves out usually. There is no way I could have planned/mapped out the last 2 years of my life or have known what was coming. Things change overnight. I hope it all goes the way you want it to in the end.

[Another princess]

$4000 is a lot. Things have a way of working themselves out usually. There is no way I could have planned/mapped out the last 2 years of my life or have known what was coming. Things change overnight. I hope it all goes the way you want it to in the end.

Agree. Wishing you all the very best and hoping everything turns out just perfect for you and your family.

[Lillylolly]

Wishing you the very best, Krisitn. Whatever happens I wish you the very best.

[Orchid]

Things change overnight.

True. Hope you remain happy with or without a baby

[Catch!]

Hoping it all works out the best for you!

[atomic sagebrush]

Thank you all so very much!! ♥♥♥

[Jojogirl]

Oh wow! Just seeing this! Things can definitely change. Keep us posted!

[Tweens&aBaby]

Can you do a midwife, home birth? Would that save some money?