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May 2nd, 2016, 12:52 PM
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ITA and it's really frustrating because we put so much emphasis on these stats (and so do the docs) only to find out it's based on a study done in 17 alcoholic pre-pubescent mole rats or something.
So yeah, take with a grain of "all studies suck" salt but yes that's what I have read too - B/G, then G/G, then B/B bringing up the rear, and that ID BB twins are pretty rare and special.
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May 2nd, 2016, 05:36 PM
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Dream Vet
Originally Posted by
atomic sagebrush
What I hate about situations like this is that right when I really need my husband to be there for me, not only is he not, but he suddenly becomes the biggest problem I have. I can only imagine what you're going through right now with everything happening.
Twin pregnancies are actually most likely girls because BB twins (especially ID) are the rarest ones.
This made me lol because you've hit the nail on the head - my husband has become my biggest problem right when I need him the most. He is a stroppy, moping, huffing idiot at the moment and I literally want to slap his face. HELLO this isn't my fault! Stop acting as if it is.
I really appreciate all the words of support and even the stats, b/g or g/g twins would be lovely. And I know I'll get my head around b/b twins if that's what happens....
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May 3rd, 2016, 01:13 AM
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I had a really lazy girl sway - in fact barely did anything and ended up with identical boys.
I was angry and disappointed and scared about how we would cope. My husband was actually the more upbeat one! But we did cope and they are beautiful of course. I knew deep down they were boys (confirmed by cvs at around 11 weeks) and found it difficult to enjoy the pregnancy. I felt quite disconnected and very negative about the risks of identical twins. I'm not even sure when I started to appreciate that they were coming! I did get a bit of counselling but no one really specialising in gender disappointment so just sort of worked through it on my own. Now I want to go back for a fourth but it would definitely be high tech
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May 3rd, 2016, 02:40 AM
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Congrats with your pregnancy. What a party you will be having with 5 in a row. Your kids will be having so much benefit from having so many siblings. That is great although you are freaking out right now. Sending you lots of good thoughts.
DS1 (9) ❤️ DS2 (8) DS3 (5) ❤️ DW (41) DH (38) TTC'ing pink from May 2016
3 beautiful
& now pregnant with a baby girl due June 2017
Thank you everyone in this site and in particular Atomic for amazing support during
my sway. I am for ever grateful.
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May 3rd, 2016, 03:10 AM
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Oh family congratulations!!! Oh my TWINS , I know u must be freaking out I would too and I'm sure everyone who has found out that they were carrying twins FREAKED.. But in all honesty I believe its a true blessing . Take care of you and all the best.
Hugs hoping for u 1 is PINK X
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May 3rd, 2016, 11:47 AM
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Originally Posted by
familymatters
This made me lol because you've hit the nail on the head - my husband has become my biggest problem right when I need him the most. He is a stroppy, moping, huffing idiot at the moment and I literally want to slap his face. HELLO this isn't my fault! Stop acting as if it is.
I really appreciate all the words of support and even the stats, b/g or g/g twins would be lovely. And I know I'll get my head around b/b twins if that's what happens....
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Dr. Phil used to say this thing, "A husband is supposed to be the wife's soft place to fall" or something like that and I'm like WAAAAHHHH! Where is my soft place to fall? That is what you need right now. ((((hugs))))
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May 3rd, 2016, 01:34 PM
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So sorry you are feeling overwhelmed and under supported by your husband.
My mother thought she was done having children (she had 3) when she found out she was pregnant, with identical twin girls. She was in an abusive marriage at the time and was terrified to tell our father.
My sister and I ended up being the true delight of her life. We are all very close siblings and I look at other small families and think how blessed I am to have such a fun, big family. My mom is spoiled with attention and has so many grandchildren and people who love her.
It may seem like a lot right now, but I'm confident it will be a huge blessing sooner or later in life. Good luck, looking forward to the updates!
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May 8th, 2016, 08:24 AM
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I think it will be so special to have twins. There will be hard times but it will be so worth it :-) I have always wanted twins!
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May 10th, 2016, 04:57 PM
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May 10th, 2016, 07:34 PM
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Thanks Atomic. And everyone else for your words of encouragement. At the moment I'm not thinking about much except trying to survive this hideous morning sickness. Once I get through that then I'll resume stressing about having twins lol
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